Gopi Passiflora Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 There are some things that many people take for granted that I don't enjoy. I don't enjoy close relationships with other people or beings for example. I'm not a "touchy-feely" kinda person - I prefer keeping my distance from others. I try to appear enthusiastic in social situations but maybe I'm just faking it? I don't smile a lot. Among other stuff. I've read that such things make a person "soulless".... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ayeleeon Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 No you are not soulless, you just are what you are. Everyone likes different things. There may be things that make you adverse to social interaction that you could change if you want to, but it isn't something you need to do unless it's important to you. If you did change, that wouldn't somehow magically give you a soul. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alwin Alcott Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 define "soul" 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Modulated Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 People suck in general. Keep doing you .👍 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick0678 Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 18 minutes ago, Gopi Passiflora said: Among other stuff. Such as? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orwar Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 Well, as Alwin, I find the word 'soul' might not be pertinent. Whether defining it as spiritual or as an expression for one's social refraction, asocial tendencies doesn't necessarily have to mean that one doesn't have a desirable social presence. Social drive and empathy are two separate things. To be 'soulless', I would describe someone who is apathetic. It's, again, that common mistake of 'introvert' vs 'empathetic', they're not antonymous and don't even describe the same issue, they're two separate axes which do not necessarily have anything to do with one another aside from having to do with social behaviour - it's like comparing a saw to a hammer. 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PixelBerry Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 Not enjoying what other people enjoy doesn't make you a soulless person, Nothing is wrong with you, you just enjoy different things. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kali Wylder Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 The idea of an intangible qualification the lack of which enables others to view you as less is rather diabolically evil. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luna Bliss Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Gopi Passiflora said: There are some things that many people take for granted that I don't enjoy. I don't enjoy close relationships with other people or beings for example. I'm not a "touchy-feely" kinda person - I prefer keeping my distance from others. I try to appear enthusiastic in social situations but maybe I'm just faking it? I don't smile a lot. Among other stuff. I've read that such things make a person "soulless".... Barring any religious notions (and I don't see you referencing the 'soul' as we see in religious writings), some of the dictionary definitions of soul that could apply are: 1. the emotional part of human nature; the seat of the feelings or sentiments. 2. the essential part or fundamental nature of anything 3. a person's feelings or moral nature as distinct from other faculties It feels to me like you are distant and blocked off from your feelings. Might you be depressed? When people are depressed they shut down their feelings, often because feeling pain is too overwhelming. It can become a habit though, and hard to break out of. When you can't feel pain you also can't feel joy, and so life can seem very flat and meaningless. While it's true some people just aren't particularly "touchy-feely" as you say, and don't enjoy social situations as much as others, because you say you don't smile and seem troubled by your situation this makes me think you believe something important is lacking in your life. One way to get in touch with feelings is to find something to do that you really love. Also, therapy can help you discover why you're depressed and help you break out of it. Some say medication can help if you're kind of stuck or if there are biological components contributing. Life can be painful and seem unnecessarily meaningless when cut off from what is so fundamental to a human being -- feeling. I hope you find some resolution for this and can enjoy life more. Edited November 2, 2021 by Luna Bliss 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doris Johnsky Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 1 hour ago, Gopi Passiflora said: There are some things that many people take for granted that I don't enjoy. I don't enjoy close relationships with other people or beings for example. I'm not a "touchy-feely" kinda person - I prefer keeping my distance from others. I try to appear enthusiastic in social situations but maybe I'm just faking it? I don't smile a lot. Among other stuff. I've read that such things make a person "soulless".... 1 Stop reading stupid s*** that makes you feel worse 2. Do you have pets? Cause if you do and you care and love your pets you are not "soulless". 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rowan Amore Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 You care enough to ask the question... 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ceka Cianci Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Gopi Passiflora said: There are some things that many people take for granted that I don't enjoy. I don't enjoy close relationships with other people or beings for example. I'm not a "touchy-feely" kinda person - I prefer keeping my distance from others. I try to appear enthusiastic in social situations but maybe I'm just faking it? I don't smile a lot. Among other stuff.I've read that such things make a person "soulless".... Probably some person said that, because it probably fits their version of what is what.. Don't put too much value on things like that.. I know there are people that can pick up a medical book and start thinking they have many of the illnesses they start to read about.. I would say, find the niche that makes you happy and don't give so much of a hoot what people may try to frame it as.. They aren't important. Edited November 2, 2021 by Ceka Cianci 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silent Mistwalker Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 2 hours ago, Gopi Passiflora said: There are some things that many people take for granted that I don't enjoy. I don't enjoy close relationships with other people or beings for example. I'm not a "touchy-feely" kinda person - I prefer keeping my distance from others. I try to appear enthusiastic in social situations but maybe I'm just faking it? I don't smile a lot. Among other stuff. I've read that such things make a person "soulless".... It's the people writing such things that are soulless. They have no care for who they are hurting and how badly. They only care about themselves and the money they make from writing. You quite obviously care far more about things than just yourself. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackson Redstar Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 that is what is called an introvert and also apathetic. Doesn't make one souless though. Just how you are Apathy is a lack of feeling, emotion, interest, or concern about something. It is a state of indifference, or the suppression of emotions such as concern, excitement, motivation, or passion. An apathetic individual has an absence of interest in or concern about emotional, social, spiritual, philosophical, virtual, or physical life and the world. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arduenn Schwartzman Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 2 hours ago, Gopi Passiflora said: I've read that such things make a person "soulless" [Citation needed] 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arielle Popstar Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 2 hours ago, Gopi Passiflora said: There are some things that many people take for granted that I don't enjoy. I don't enjoy close relationships with other people or beings for example. I'm not a "touchy-feely" kinda person - I prefer keeping my distance from others. I try to appear enthusiastic in social situations but maybe I'm just faking it? I don't smile a lot. Among other stuff. I've read that such things make a person "soulless".... Well it would be an assumption that all people take everything for granted. Some of us have had to work on some of those things to be able to enjoy close relationships, see life with a little more humour, crack a face into a smile or even be to offer or receive a heartfelt hug. A friend told me a long time ago not to compare my insides with other people's outsides. I don't know what those people have had to deal with to get to where they are now but I do know from some honest sharing from some people I trust that they had to work on those qualities that I thought they had come by naturally. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arduenn Schwartzman Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 (edited) I think a soul, ill-defined as it is, is an emerging phenomenon. I think a 'soul' is the result of electrochemical processes in our central nervous system. Much like temperature is an emerging property from moving particles. A soul might be the sum of self-awareness, consciousness, character, and a collection of emotions, experiences, reflexes and memories emerging from an individual human body. To date, there exists absolutely no scientific, physical evidence of any such sum of said things that can be detached from our physical body. A soul can exist independent from a physical body only in religious, and other fictional literature (and hence, many people believe it vehemently - as is the human nature: believing stuff that other people make up and write down; and hence, I realize that some people may actually be triggered by this opinion). Although, maybe, in the distant future, a soul can actually be contained in a form other than biological, say in silico. I'm not sure if that would be fun. Maybe it's hell, maybe it's bliss. I think it may very well be the future of humanity. That said, to say someone has no soul is to dehumanize them. I consider calling someone soulless a grave insult. Such a person better be very very mean towards others or in disregard of other people's well-being or lives to merit such a title. You are definitely not a soulless being, Gopi. I'm convinced you're a not so touchy-feely person, but with a soul. P.S. Ghost in the Shell's a nice series related to this topic. P.P.S. I believe a soul in SL is that orange cloud that you can sometimes see for a brief moment before the 'physical body' gets transferred to your computer. Edited November 2, 2021 by Arduenn Schwartzman 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick0678 Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 (edited) Whatever troubles you it can be answered through psychology and with a nice chat. How would you describe the relationship you had with your parents during childhood? Edited November 2, 2021 by Nick0678 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orwar Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 2 hours ago, Jackson Redstar said: that is what is called an introvert and also apathetic. Nothing that the OP detailed has anything to do with being introverted; to not have feel motivated to partake in social interaction is being asocial (alt. 'unsocial', 'non-social', or 'socially uninterested'). Introversion simply describes the state of being predominantly concerned with one's own mental self, and that, unlike extroverts who are energised by social stimuli, they tend to need solitude after socialising to 'recharge'. It isn't synonymous with 'shy' or 'socially inept' or 'socially anxious' or 'socially uninterested'. None of those things mean the same thing at all, the one thing they have in common is that they all have to do with the psychology of social interactions. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garnet Psaltery Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 3 hours ago, Arduenn Schwartzman said: A soul can exist independent from a physical body only in religious, and other fictional literature (and hence, many people believe it vehemently - as is the human nature: believing stuff that other people make up and write down; and hence Nothing about my faith rests on fiction. If I didn't see any effect in my life then I would assume nothing had happened. I'm not about to hold a religious debate here but you have made a plain insult to people of faith, to assume we just accepted some random ideas because it's supposedly our nature to do so. Talk to me outside if you wish. Gopi, I'm not going to ask you to define 'soul'; I don't think that's even a question here. What has been said to you is intended to diminish you, and you need not let that happen. 2 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arduenn Schwartzman Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 16 minutes ago, Garnet Psaltery said: you have made a plain insult to people of faith I am deeply insulted by any all-powerful deity that allows children to suffer from cancer, and by people who somehow attempt to reason their way out of this. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garnet Psaltery Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 (edited) @Arduenn Schwartzman I said I wasn't going to hold a debate here (because the mods don't like it), and I offered to talk to you outside. Don't be cheap. Edited November 2, 2021 by Garnet Psaltery 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krystina Ferraris Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 3 hours ago, Nick0678 said: Whatever troubles you it can be answered through psychology and with a nice chat. How would you describe the relationship you had with your parents during childhood? I thought all troubles relate to sexual frustration according to shrinks? Must check what it says on my card 😆 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arduenn Schwartzman Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 14 minutes ago, Garnet Psaltery said: the mods don't like it People used to be (and still are) tortured because they expressed opinions like this, so a ban from this forum is perfectly fine with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ayeleeon Posted November 2, 2021 Share Posted November 2, 2021 4 hours ago, Arielle Popstar said: Well it would be an assumption that all people take everything for granted What Gobi actually said 7 hours ago, Gopi Passiflora said: There are some things that many people take for granted Some is not everything. Many is not all. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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