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  1. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Some of us also have different ideas about what the best way is to protect someone. While the truth sometimes hurts, it is often necessary to protect someone from some worse hurt down the road. Sometimes, that does apply to things that get posted here. I wish I could believe all responses I've seen were to protect another, but that would be naïve wouldn't it? A good many of them have less benevolent motivations. Sometimes I can accept that, and other times it bothers me. And I'm talking about MY responses too...they are not always so wonderfully altruistic. But my evilness is verified for all now -- I raise my voice to my poor little kitty...lol.
  2. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    I think my response (in the case of a poster being emotional) often goes more toward how they're handling the emotion. If they're not handling their emotion well (or if I suspect they're somehow traumatized) then I try to show more sympathy. I agree though, there's a point where someone can be so out-there emotionally that I lose sympathy for them. Self-protection I think.
  3. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    I understand you....you're a sensitive soul. I can remember feeling sad when I won something in a competition, because those who lost would feel hurt. I remember riding to school on the bus at age 11 or so, and my friend beside me suddenly started taunting some other girl seated a few seats away, holding her nose as if the girl smelled and yelling "ewwwwee, Miller". I was mortified. I could not join in with my friend or the people laughing. It was a major 'dawning' or something for me, the beginning consciousness of how people should be nicer to each other.
  4. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    I'm glad
  5. Luna Bliss

    LOTS OF AD BOARDS AS WELL AS SPACE

    Hi Monaiesha I see you're new here....welcome to the forum. We're not supposed to post ads here. You probably didn't notice huh, just whizzing around and saw the Merchant category. Things would just get junked up and out-of-hand I imagine, if everyone could advertise their stuff here. So this is just a place to discuss merchant concerns.
  6. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Well I was really just asking you what you believed about power imbalances in the forum, regarding a new or infrequent poster, or a poster who is upset. Do you take these factors into consideration too when responding to them?
  7. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Why would this be nice? Does this mean you recognize a power imbalance between the poster vs regular forum posters, regarding someone who is either new, rarely posts, or is upset?
  8. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Usually, people only let go of delusions when they feel safe. I don't think that woman ever felt safe.
  9. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Familiarity enables one of most important attributes of personal power, and that is 'competency'. New people in the forum are typically at a disadvantage, as the forum is not as familiar to them as it is to regulars. And so, they will have more trouble feeling/behaving competently. They haven't 'learned the ropes' yet and so can't understand what's going on as well. I'm, of course, not saying they have no responsibility for their behaviour whatsoever. But if I see someone fairly new I try to be aware of what they might not know yet when they're having a conflict with other forum members. I would rarely critcize unless I understood their perspective better, as it may be very innocent. I recognize the power imbalance caused by their newness. I might have the same feelings about someone who is upset, but for different reasons. If they're upset (like, for example, the woman who reported encountering a RL pedophile), I would realize she's probably not thinking as clearly, or perhaps not even totally aware of her motives/goals for posting here. I'd cut her some slack.
  10. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Must stop avoiding my Blender lesson
  11. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    I reclaim the word "white knight", plucking it from the social justice warriors! And placing it back into the hands of the progressives who truly care about society, demolishing the stereotype placed upon us by those in power who want to run off with all the money!
  12. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    The problem is not everyone agrees on what constitutes bullying. What I consider bullying for someone else might be a totally different thing. I know the word has come to encompass far more today than it did a couple of decades ago. Well, I think the point is, whether someone is bullying, assaulting people, or behaving like an ash-hat we need to stop ignoring this. Speak up! I can't believe how many people will just stare at the floor when someone in a group makes a nasty sexist slur, or a racial slur. It's only by having the courage to say "I don't like you being so disrespectful" that this changes. And it has changed really...
  13. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Well, say you were at the grocery store and a guy twice your size deliberately knocked you to the ground to get the last head of lettuce. That wouldn't be repeated, but I'd call it bullying.
  14. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems . In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include: An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm ohers. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people. What Is Bullying | StopBullying.gov www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/index.html. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. Source:Wikipedia
  15. Luna Bliss

    Forum becoming more negative?

    I remember a thread poofing a couple weeks ago, but can't remember what it was about...
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