What are some more of your pet peeves?

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

12 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:

This would be somewhat true if the forum was "Dark Adult Role Play" but it isn't.

While on one hand, the reader assigns the power is true, on the other hand it is not.

The "fault" of the reader? This assumes that everyone reading is an adult, and has no issues whatsoever.  To utter that "words have no power" is foolish. Words have sent people to war, to protest, and to suicide. As someone with PTSD, I can say I have been triggered by random words in forums. Do I think everyone should censor themselves because of my PTSD? No. That's too much back-bending in the other direction. Do I think people should be aware that violent things can affect others? Yes. Do I think people, not just kids but adults as well, can be bullied by words? Threatened? Absolutely.

A forum is a social place. There are social rules and norms (and moderators) for a reason. There ARE places where one can say whatever they want... 4chan is one. To pretend that every forum is 4chan is foolish and trollish. To say "Eff you, I do what I want, when I want, how I want" is one of prime red flags of antisocial personality disorder, not "edgy-ness".

Words have no power but what the reader or listener ever gives them. 

They are not magical or powerful unless the person chooses to react in that way.

How you respond to anything is always a choice.

[Luna Bliss]

5 minutes ago, Drakonadrgora Darkfold said:

9 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

Emotions are not some kind of "fault".  Most people experience reality with their objective mind AND their emotional self at the same time. For you to insist it can be only one way is a kind of illusion, and it's disrespectful for you to tell other people they should be exactly like you (or be deluded like you).

If you read a book or watch a movie and get scared it is your fault. You choose to get scared.

Same goes with anything said online in any forum.

It is possible to train yourself not to fear death but this is a long & involved process, and  most people have not attempted it, and so it's not a choice as to whether they fear death or whether emotions come into play when the topic of death is evoked via images or text.

The unconscious mind is very powerful.

Of course you can pretend and deny fears of death,delude yourself,  but once facing it most likely you'll find no choice at all in the matter.

[Rowan Amore]

Being strong doesn't always mean fighting the battle.  True strength is being adult enough to walk away with your head held high ~ Anonymous

Off to another thread with less animosity.

[Arielle Popstar]

3 minutes ago, Drakonadrgora Darkfold said:

Only fools do so. Only the naive do so.

And people who can choose to stay in character regardless of their feelings and ego's. 

So you are basically saying you chose to abuse what you have also stated as being their right to require.

[Scylla Rhiadra]

This is quickly becoming one of those "discussions" in which the Pointlessly Perseverant meet the Obstinately Obtuse.

Time to go shopping. (For thigh highs?)

Edited September 2, 2020 by Scylla Rhiadra

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

1 minute ago, Arielle Popstar said:

And people who can choose to stay in character regardless of their feelings and ego's. 

So you are basically saying you chose to abuse what you have also stated as being their right to require.

They may think they have the right to request it. But it doesn't mean anyone has to obey or respond in that manner or respect it. No matter if they are in character or not.

[Madelaine McMasters]

3 minutes ago, Drakonadrgora Darkfold said:

If you read a book or watch a movie and get scared it is your fault. You choose to get scared.

What about being scared by the sound of a twig snapping in the woods? The reason humans are here today is that natural selection weeded out those who did not get scared by the sound and therefore stayed complacent until the predator ate them. Sure, 99% of the time the sound is benign, but the consequence of rational complacency might be terminal.

What if I turned my most withering gaze upon your SL friends, making their lives here so miserable they contemplate leaving? Will you rush to their aid, offering words of support? What if my words are more powerful than yours and they actually depart?

People can be harmed by words they never hear.

How's that for power?

[Luna Bliss]

35 minutes ago, Drakonadrgora Darkfold said:

43 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

I think if something is arousing in SL there's a greater chance this would also arouse them in RL.  Whether this means they'd actually attempt the action in RL is not totally clear, at least the last time I checked studies in the area of general violence in video games and how it translates to RL.

There is a major flaw in most of those studies.. they are already biased and looking for information to correlate with what the author is trying to prove. But doesn't make it true by any means.

Any study can be made to show something is true even if it is false.

Just because someone might fantasize about something doesn't mean they would ever do it in rl even if they had the chance without any repurcussions.

Sure, confirmation bias exists -- but not in all studies.

Also, there are differences between violence alone vs sexuality combined with violence. Unfortunately (or fortunately) it's difficult to empirically validate those who have a propensity to roast, grind up, and eat women for sexual pleasure.

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

7 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

It takes much work, a lifetime for most people really, to perfectly embody such choice in life. It's a process, and almost nobody totally arrives (perhaps the Saints do).

I would never call anyone such a derogatory name as 'victim' for not being where I think they should be in their growth process.   The fact that you feel a need to put them down, call them a name, reveals to me that you're not actually at such a "high" developmental place as you think you are.

It takes a lot less work than you try and make it seem. It doesn't take a lifetime for most people. Maybe a couple of years if they really want to learn to.

[Madelaine McMasters]

Just now, Luna Bliss said:

Sure, confirmation bias exists -- but not in all studies.

I do see significant evidence of it in this thread!

;-).

[Luna Bliss]

2 minutes ago, Drakonadrgora Darkfold said:

12 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

It takes much work, a lifetime for most people really, to perfectly embody such choice in life. It's a process, and almost nobody totally arrives (perhaps the Saints do).

I would never call anyone such a derogatory name as 'victim' for not being where I think they should be in their growth process.   The fact that you feel a need to put them down, call them a name, reveals to me that you're not actually at such a "high" developmental place as you think you are.

It takes a lot less work than you try and make it seem. It doesn't take a lifetime for most people. Maybe a couple of years if they really want to learn to.

What you advocate is totally getting rid of feelings. What I advocate is honoring a feeling but getting to the place of not letting it control you.  This is human, whereas your stance is delusional unless one is a robot or a psychopath.

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

11 minutes ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

What about being scared by the sound of a twig snapping in the woods? The reason humans are here today is that natural selection weeded out those who did not get scared by the sound and therefore stayed complacent until the predator ate them. Sure, 99% of the time the sound is benign, but the consequence of rational complacency might be terminal.

What if I turned my most withering gaze upon your SL friends, making their lives here so miserable they contemplate leaving? Will you rush to their aid, offering words of support? What if my words are more powerful than yours and they actually depart?

People can be harmed by words they never hear.

How's that for power?

It would not work with my friends here. They can't be bullied or intimidated so easily. They would actually just use block and be done with the problem. They are not so weak as to allow such things to affect them in that manner. Or they would ar for harassment and block.

There is a difference between here online and being in the woods alone in rl. And one is a word and one is a sound. We respond to each differently.

Edited September 2, 2020 by Drakonadrgora Darkfold

[Luna Bliss]

9 minutes ago, Drakonadrgora Darkfold said:

There is a difference between here online and being in the woods alone in rl. And one is a word and one is a sound.

How YOU choose to respond to words is not the absolutely ultimate way for all human beings.  Others respond to words differently. You have no right to tell others how they should respond to words.  As you always say, EVER!

[Silent Mistwalker]

Words are sounds when spoken. 

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

5 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

How YOU choose to respond to words is not the absolutely ultimate way for all human beings.  Others respond to words differently. You have no right to tell others how they should respond to words.  As you always say, EVER!

I'm not saying how they have to. I'm saying it's a choice how they choose to. Which it is.

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

3 minutes ago, Silent Mistwalker said:

Words are sounds when spoken. 

Not the same as a twig being broken.

[Seicher Rae]

39 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

This is quickly becoming one of those "discussions" in which the Pointlessly Perseverant meet the Obstinately Obtuse.

Time to go shopping. (For thigh highs?)

This time, try not to get the pleather or suede. The latter had me picking fuzzies off my tongue for way too long.

[Madelaine McMasters]

1 minute ago, Seicher Rae said:

This time, try not to get the pleather or suede. The latter had me picking fuzzies off my tongue for way too long.

...buys Scylla a pair of these...

[Rowan Amore]

5 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:

This time, try not to get the pleather or suede. The latter had me picking fuzzies off my tongue for way too long.

Any video?

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

3 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

Nobody 'loses power' by feeling. In fact, it's the strongest people who feel the most.

Rigidity forms when one tries to cut something out of themselves, and they are actually the weakest ones, as they can't bend like a willow in the storm.

Even the willow will break in the storm eventually. So it's not the strongest either.

[Arielle Popstar]

Unfortunately/fortunately, you get back what you put out.

[Drakonadrgora Darkfold]

3 minutes ago, Arielle Popstar said:

Unfortunately/fortunately, you get back what you put out.

That's if you believe in the law of equivalent return.. not everyone does.

Not everyone cares what other people think or feel or like or dislike nor do they have to.

[Janet Voxel]

We really should have a slapfight thread.

The first rule of slapfight thread is....YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT SLAPFIGHT THREAD!

You go in there...slapfight for a few days, hug it out....

[MoiraKathleen]

3 minutes ago, Janet Voxel said:

We really should have a slapfight thread.

The first rule of slapfight thread is....YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT SLAPFIGHT THREAD!

You go in there...slapfight for a few days, hug it out....

That's similar to the original intent of the Derail Thread was  - a place to move a tangential conversation (or argument) to, so that it didn't clutter up the original thread.   

[Janet Voxel]

While we have a breathing space to talk about peeves: What are these things that allow your local chat to be seen all over a sim? Is it a script? A Prim? Its getting really weird going to a sim and people are having a conversation you can see from across the sim! And its annoying!