Dafadilia Wayfarer

A Natural History of Dragons: A Memoir by Lady Trent. book written by Marie Brennan. Good read so far.

I have two premium accounts that I pay for yearly. I have two linden homes. The weekly stipends actually go for taking care my two zooby daughters. I have a little left over each week from this that gets saved up. That is pretty much the extent of the money I can put into Second Life.

Finding Warmth During the Winter Frost

Grouping people altogether as if each person isn't an individual is foolish. Perhaps this has been your own personal experience with the men you've been with, but you can't assume that every other person on the grid has experienced this. I'm not trying to sound rude, but it just sounds like a very strange outlook. It's also an extremely rude assumption. I go to stores and shopping events to...shop. My hubby goes with me to many shopping events and stores in sl. We both love to shop and my hubby has awesome taste. I love getting his feedback on items I'm interested in buying and he asks the same of me. In all the times we've gone shopping not once has it ever crossed my mind he is out on the prowl for other females. He goes with me to many places. We go to many places individually. He goes to hang out at an old community he enjoys being part of that he knows I've no interest in because I'm very shy and don't like socializing in big crowds. He doesn't expect me to step out of my comfort zone and I don't expect him to give up hanging out with longtime friends because I'm not comfortable with crowds. I've been with Rand for three years. We met here in sl originally. We are partnered here. We are engaged and living together in rl now. I fully trust my hubby. He is my bestfriend. Plus, I'm just comfortable with who we are as a couple and as individuals. I'm not saying that many experience what I do in their sl relationship by taking things to real life, but that doesn't mean that relationships solely based in sl can't be fulfilling, loving, understanding and filled with trust. It depends on the people in the relationship.

Big pet peeve for the day: When I'm at my favorite park in sl with my daughters minding my own business and having a random person first send me a texture I'm nervous to even accept let alone open. I sent it to the trash bin without even opening it. Right after I get a DM from the person who sent this texture telling me they had taken a photo of my daughters and I, and now owed them 1000L for the sent photo because they are a professional photographer. 🤣 If I want photos, I'll take them. I may not be a "professional photographer", but at least all I have to pay for is the upload fee and get an actual photo I want. Or I'll go to a trusted sl photographer who will set up an actual photo shoot. I've never had this happen before and I really didn't know how to respond besides replying with an "lol".

Music Among the Silent Snow

Yes I do! All three of my accounts get changed into pajamas and tucked into bed. I even make it dark for them so they can sleep more peacefully. I don't know why I do this, but it is fun and oddly comforting to make sure they are all settled before I log off. 🤣

*I would love more land impact options available on our Bellisseria homes. That would be awesome. *Access to previous last names available because as mentioned I would love to be able to have my old last name from my first account.

I seem to do a better job of this when I'm around the regions with traditional style houses or houseboats than anywhere else. I have tried doing it new my cabin and my fantasy home without success! I have lots of fun trying though. I really admire anyone who can navigate around Bellisseria this way. It takes serious skill.

I think of my alts as sisters and different versions of myself. All three are elves. All my accounts are used for different purposes. Dafadilia is basically just me with elf ears. She is my main account although I've been in sl since 2009. Daffy's looks are based off my rl looks with the same build, skin, hair and eye color. I'm a wife, mother of two daughters and cats, sister, aunt and friend on this account. I work with my sister, I volunteer my time, go to friend's meeting with hubby, daughters and sis, events and everything as Dafadilia. My alt Flori has white hair because at 44, my hair has begun to get white streaks. Same shape, skin tone and eyes as Daffy though. Flori is a roleplay character. She is a medieval elf. Hubby and I both have medieval characters we roleplay together. As Flori I'm also a wife, mother of two daughters and cats, sister, aunt and friend. I just become more immersed in a roleplay environment as Flori since she is a roleplay character. My alt Phoebe is an escape when I just need to breathe and have alone time. She is me with brown hair, same shape, skin tone, and eye color. She is my "freebie account" I set up originally as a challenge I was trying to do by putting her entire look together for free or very little cost. Her head, body, hair, skin, and everything else were free or low cost items. I will usually look around for freebies I'm interested in, do hunts and when I'm working on my blog. I do use all three accounts for taking photos of my blog. I will only edit photos or work on my blog when I'm logged into Phoebe though. I try to keep that time separate from my social side.

I agree that only certain items should be modifiable like clothing, furniture, houses, etc. I try to spend my money wisely even in Second Life. I try demos when available and look at all details before making a purchase. Even doing all this has some items purchased where something is wrong and needs to be fixed. An example is when I try a demo and everything about the item looks acceptable. I will purchase said item and go to use it only to find that it is set to full bright and the item is no mod. This has happened many times over the years and I've reached out to the creators explaining the issue. Most are very kind and will send over a fixed copy of the item, but I've had a few become very rude. If a creator is going to make an item no mod, they should make sure they are open to feedback when an item is messed up and needs work or everything is perfect before they box it up to sell. I expect the item I purchased to be everything the demo is and hopefully better than the demo if it is a no mod item. There is also the issue of items being advertised very clearly as modifiable when they are not. Or when it isn't advertised as either at all. I've also reached out to creators when this happens and most again are very friendly, open and polite. Again, a few begin to rage just because a customer actually dared try to explain something was wrong with their product that needed attention. I don't care what an item costs. Some of us are on tight budgets and we watch very carefully where our money goes in both worlds. The cost of an item doesn't determine if it is worthy of being fixed if something is wrong with it. It also should never determine when the creator is contacted or not. If something is faulty on a purchase that needs to be addressed, I will be contacting the creator. Throwing an item away before trying to get the issue addressed is wasteful. At least to me. From my own experience, most creators are very polite and appreciate being notified of problems that can easily be overlooked with products that are no mod. It isn't complaining when people are expressing opinions intelligently of why they feel things should be changed. That is how change happens.

These days I rarely will respond to an IM when I don't know the person. I'm very shy and anxious with people. When I first joined SL back in 2009, I would respond to most IMs. I had no issue giving people a chance. These days I rarely respond to IMs from people I don't know. Past experiences have taught me to remain in my small circle of friends since my anxiety has worsened here when it comes to strangers. If the person messaging me is in need of help with something, I will always more than likely respond. It depends on the type of help they are needing of course. Other than that, I stick to the people I know.

Such a beautiful scene. Thank you!

I was an English Professor until health issues arose that required me to be able to remain home much of the time. Now I'm a freelance writer/editor for software/tech companies as well as taking the odd editing job that varies subject wise.

My baby daughters Lorelai and Wednesday. Earlier we ventured over to my sister's residential sim to check up on things so thought I would snap a photo of them watching the ducks on the pond. ❤️

Our sweet, adorable, and beautiful Maya with her Winnie the Pooh in the first photo ❤️. Over this past summer we added our lovely, petite and dainty twins Mina and Maggie to the family in the second photo who are fully grown at 5 pounds each ❤️. All three my babies. 🥰

My fondest memory in Belli is my family and I were fortunate enough to get one of the first waves of traditional homes when Bellisseria first opened on my old account. It was the first home my husband I shared together in SL that we considered "ours". It was where we bonded as a family and my husband adopted my zooby daughter Wednesday. ❤️ The memory of my husband getting his boathouse after waiting over a year for one to become available. He was thrilled and I was so happy for him. We both love sailing and it has offered us beautiful waters to explore when the mood strikes. Shortly after my husband got his boathouse, we agreed to give up the traditional house for a log cabin. The environment and house styles suited our needs better than the traditional. I was surprised and thankful because we were fortunate enough to get a cabin right by water and beautiful setting. We've been there ever since. This past Autumn my alt got one of the fantasy homes because hubby and I both started wanting to roleplay again. The small fantasy house we got has spurred us forward in that plan and it has been so much fun. We also decided to adopt our zooby daughter Lorelai in that house adding to our little family. My sisters come over quite a bit and we just have an all around lovely time. In all of these settings we take walks, bike ride, horse back ride, roller skate, sail and simply explore as a family nowadays. We rarely have to leave Bellisseria unless it is to go work with my sister, to go shopping, to go to a particular event or out dancing. Or when we want to explore, take photos and blog. Bellesseria was originally going to be a place where I tried venturing out my wall flower state to try and meet new people. I became less receptive to that over time, but I don't regret that decision for a moment since it allowed me to create some lovely memories with my family. Even when I had to take time off from SL over this past summer and most of the Autumn because of a rl move, I loved that Belli was there waiting for me when we were able to return. Bellisseria has been such a positive and life changing experience in our Second Life. It's wonderful!

Maeve Binchy was an incredible writer! I agree heartily. All of the above you mentioned are beautifully written. Once you get through those, Circle of Friends, Silver Wedding and The Lilac Bus are wonderful too. Her characters have so many layers. They are rich and varied. I love how she can make it so easy to love, hate and be repulsed by her characters all at the same time depending on the story or book. That takes talent. Out of all the books I read of Binchy's, I still love Circle of Friends best. Benny is still my all time favorite Binchy character. She is endearingly sweet along with her bestfriend Eve. I'll be quiet now. I got carried away a bit. I love that you found her! She is a gem.

Circle of Friends by Maeve Binchy. I was 16 years old when I first read and completely fell in love with this book. Barely reading it for a second time in my forties. It is even better than i remember.

My horse Yule and I taking some time to explore more of Bellisseria and how it is constantly growing. This is nearby the location of our fantasy home.

In real life, I moved to the UK in 2021 to be with my hubby as well as marrying him in sl. In 2022, I'll be planning my wedding in rl as well as getting married to that wonderful man. ❤️

Our sweet princess Wednesday loved the little presents that were waiting under the tree for her this year. ❤️