Dafadilia Wayfarer

Twins of Rivendell. I was hanging around home in Belli with sl twin Bevin and just took some photos since we do tend to dress alike. Also caught a photo of my munchkin falling asleep. The fantasy side of Belli was the perfect spot to capture some photos.

Twins of Rivendell

I never understood the need to publicly advertise when staying or leaving a public forum. Many have left or taken extended holidays from the forums here without making an entire thread about it. To each their own. If you feel the need to stay, stay. If you feel the need to leave, leave. Perhaps taking a break from the forums is best if seeking feedback is necessary to make that decision for yourself. Always do what is best for you and your well-being. The forum will continue either way.

My babies Maggie and Lorelai playing with snowflake bubbles at home in Bellisseria...

Yes, because alienating a large portion of any community never has negative backlash. I don't see this as a beneficial idea as a premium member. This would actually make me consider dropping both my premium memberships since I don't really care for the idea of making anyone feel left out. In the grand scheme of forums this is a pretty peaceful and helpful one for the most part. All forums get a few trolls or rude individuals. Linden Lab deals with these pretty quickly from what I've seen over the years.

I woke up in pain with a back spasm all along my spinal chord today where I couldn't even get out of bed on my own. I was born with congenital scoliosis among other conditions that cause the muscles and nerves along my spine to "act up". On days like this my hubby helps me without complaint. Always there. Always reassuring and loving. Even though he had to work this evening he made sure he made our afternoon tea and his lunch so we could eat together and make sure I was settled comfortably before he left for work. I'm the one who usually cooks our meals and makes his lunch. Especially on days he works because he does so much already to begin with. I enjoy doing these things. He never complains when I can't though and always takes care of me most lovingly. On days like this I really wish he could just stay home from work and hold me, but I understand he has to work. I'm so thankful for his unconditional love, patience and kindness. He is the most beautiful man I've ever known. ❤️

The Winter Hunt

A Natural History of Dragons: A Memoir by Lady Trent. book written by Marie Brennan. Good read so far.

I have two premium accounts that I pay for yearly. I have two linden homes. The weekly stipends actually go for taking care my two zooby daughters. I have a little left over each week from this that gets saved up. That is pretty much the extent of the money I can put into Second Life.

Finding Warmth During the Winter Frost

Grouping people altogether as if each person isn't an individual is foolish. Perhaps this has been your own personal experience with the men you've been with, but you can't assume that every other person on the grid has experienced this. I'm not trying to sound rude, but it just sounds like a very strange outlook. It's also an extremely rude assumption. I go to stores and shopping events to...shop. My hubby goes with me to many shopping events and stores in sl. We both love to shop and my hubby has awesome taste. I love getting his feedback on items I'm interested in buying and he asks the same of me. In all the times we've gone shopping not once has it ever crossed my mind he is out on the prowl for other females. He goes with me to many places. We go to many places individually. He goes to hang out at an old community he enjoys being part of that he knows I've no interest in because I'm very shy and don't like socializing in big crowds. He doesn't expect me to step out of my comfort zone and I don't expect him to give up hanging out with longtime friends because I'm not comfortable with crowds. I've been with Rand for three years. We met here in sl originally. We are partnered here. We are engaged and living together in rl now. I fully trust my hubby. He is my bestfriend. Plus, I'm just comfortable with who we are as a couple and as individuals. I'm not saying that many experience what I do in their sl relationship by taking things to real life, but that doesn't mean that relationships solely based in sl can't be fulfilling, loving, understanding and filled with trust. It depends on the people in the relationship.

Big pet peeve for the day: When I'm at my favorite park in sl with my daughters minding my own business and having a random person first send me a texture I'm nervous to even accept let alone open. I sent it to the trash bin without even opening it. Right after I get a DM from the person who sent this texture telling me they had taken a photo of my daughters and I, and now owed them 1000L for the sent photo because they are a professional photographer. 🤣 If I want photos, I'll take them. I may not be a "professional photographer", but at least all I have to pay for is the upload fee and get an actual photo I want. Or I'll go to a trusted sl photographer who will set up an actual photo shoot. I've never had this happen before and I really didn't know how to respond besides replying with an "lol".

Music Among the Silent Snow

Yes I do! All three of my accounts get changed into pajamas and tucked into bed. I even make it dark for them so they can sleep more peacefully. I don't know why I do this, but it is fun and oddly comforting to make sure they are all settled before I log off. 🤣

*I would love more land impact options available on our Bellisseria homes. That would be awesome. *Access to previous last names available because as mentioned I would love to be able to have my old last name from my first account.

I seem to do a better job of this when I'm around the regions with traditional style houses or houseboats than anywhere else. I have tried doing it new my cabin and my fantasy home without success! I have lots of fun trying though. I really admire anyone who can navigate around Bellisseria this way. It takes serious skill.

I think of my alts as sisters and different versions of myself. All three are elves. All my accounts are used for different purposes. Dafadilia is basically just me with elf ears. She is my main account although I've been in sl since 2009. Daffy's looks are based off my rl looks with the same build, skin, hair and eye color. I'm a wife, mother of two daughters and cats, sister, aunt and friend on this account. I work with my sister, I volunteer my time, go to friend's meeting with hubby, daughters and sis, events and everything as Dafadilia. My alt Flori has white hair because at 44, my hair has begun to get white streaks. Same shape, skin tone and eyes as Daffy though. Flori is a roleplay character. She is a medieval elf. Hubby and I both have medieval characters we roleplay together. As Flori I'm also a wife, mother of two daughters and cats, sister, aunt and friend. I just become more immersed in a roleplay environment as Flori since she is a roleplay character. My alt Phoebe is an escape when I just need to breathe and have alone time. She is me with brown hair, same shape, skin tone, and eye color. She is my "freebie account" I set up originally as a challenge I was trying to do by putting her entire look together for free or very little cost. Her head, body, hair, skin, and everything else were free or low cost items. I will usually look around for freebies I'm interested in, do hunts and when I'm working on my blog. I do use all three accounts for taking photos of my blog. I will only edit photos or work on my blog when I'm logged into Phoebe though. I try to keep that time separate from my social side.

I agree that only certain items should be modifiable like clothing, furniture, houses, etc. I try to spend my money wisely even in Second Life. I try demos when available and look at all details before making a purchase. Even doing all this has some items purchased where something is wrong and needs to be fixed. An example is when I try a demo and everything about the item looks acceptable. I will purchase said item and go to use it only to find that it is set to full bright and the item is no mod. This has happened many times over the years and I've reached out to the creators explaining the issue. Most are very kind and will send over a fixed copy of the item, but I've had a few become very rude. If a creator is going to make an item no mod, they should make sure they are open to feedback when an item is messed up and needs work or everything is perfect before they box it up to sell. I expect the item I purchased to be everything the demo is and hopefully better than the demo if it is a no mod item. There is also the issue of items being advertised very clearly as modifiable when they are not. Or when it isn't advertised as either at all. I've also reached out to creators when this happens and most again are very friendly, open and polite. Again, a few begin to rage just because a customer actually dared try to explain something was wrong with their product that needed attention. I don't care what an item costs. Some of us are on tight budgets and we watch very carefully where our money goes in both worlds. The cost of an item doesn't determine if it is worthy of being fixed if something is wrong with it. It also should never determine when the creator is contacted or not. If something is faulty on a purchase that needs to be addressed, I will be contacting the creator. Throwing an item away before trying to get the issue addressed is wasteful. At least to me. From my own experience, most creators are very polite and appreciate being notified of problems that can easily be overlooked with products that are no mod. It isn't complaining when people are expressing opinions intelligently of why they feel things should be changed. That is how change happens.

These days I rarely will respond to an IM when I don't know the person. I'm very shy and anxious with people. When I first joined SL back in 2009, I would respond to most IMs. I had no issue giving people a chance. These days I rarely respond to IMs from people I don't know. Past experiences have taught me to remain in my small circle of friends since my anxiety has worsened here when it comes to strangers. If the person messaging me is in need of help with something, I will always more than likely respond. It depends on the type of help they are needing of course. Other than that, I stick to the people I know.

Such a beautiful scene. Thank you!

I was an English Professor until health issues arose that required me to be able to remain home much of the time. Now I'm a freelance writer/editor for software/tech companies as well as taking the odd editing job that varies subject wise.

My baby daughters Lorelai and Wednesday. Earlier we ventured over to my sister's residential sim to check up on things so thought I would snap a photo of them watching the ducks on the pond. ❤️