Ren Toxx

You can always paste them in local chat with [Shift+Enter] to whisper it if no one’s within 10m. (or even walk away a bit, otherwise), a group you own for your land and no one else is in at the moment, or in IM to one of your alts if you have them, or even in a friend’s that no longer logs in 😅... it certainly isn’t for lack of options. I do get what you mean, and while a simple SLURL for the purpose of TPing can’t be much seen as purposeful spamming/advertising, it’s a realistic concern, given that actual hit-and-run spammers & advertisers also often use the silly argument that “they’re not spamming/advertising, just sharing their awesome... blah, blah, blah" 😉

Hru?

Text, but I don’t mind if the other speaks as long as it’s understandable—not a crappy mic or connection that makes me struggle to fill in the stacatto silences.

When they’re just a pest. Hardly anything offends me—and I can give as good as I get, if not better—, but if it becomes just boring repetition, I slam the door on their face (bless block auto-response). That’s for IMs, of course. For public things I’m much more likely to mute specific sounds than whole avatars, unless they’re well into griefing levels.

Hang out.

Yes.

Also, some places have dancing systems (panels, poles, or just about anything usually labelled “Dancing - click here”) which you can use for free, as long as you’re there. And if you’re patient enough, you can always end up gathering quite a few free, but nice enough dances from numerous stores such as MOVE!, Abranimations...

I don’t quite see the disadvantage—either in drawing the line, or even in those disagreements, which can foster discussion. It’s precisely that discussion that fosters progress in drawing the aforementioned line better. Works in RL, and works in here. Almost always, owners draw the line in their turf; then some accept more input, some less. Then many patrons offer their own input, even if not requested; and some will throw a massive fit if their proposed line doesn’t immediately prevail over that of everyone else—including the owner’s—, while others will accept more or less evenly that there’s gonna be a line which may not necessarily be their preferred one. It’s how it works. It’s how it’s always worked. PS: Not sure I see the issue with this thread either. Other than that weird, out-of-the-blue taunt by one participant to get anyone to talk about her in order to report it (and yes, you can report mine if you’re so eager about that), and a certain inevitable derailment due to the somewhat generic laying out of the topic, it still seems fine enough to me.

Far less than I used to. Partly because I don’t even want to know how much I’ve sent over the years, and partly because at some point you start thinking more and more often, “I already have tons of that”.

I have fun with those, making literally everything I answer acronym-like. To wit: (Other) hi hru (Me) hifty (Other) wat? (Me) isiaftyvmfa To be fair, most get the point by then and start writing normally themselves.

“Are you drunk?”

[is tempted to give at least a nice 1 out of 10 because she hasn’t seen one of these in a while, at least not in the forums]

Yes, it’s quite possible. Some people are just not well upstairs, some are trolls, and some are both. I’d advise reporting the avatar and using movelock and/or sitting to prevent his pushing you around, but otherwise giving absolutely nothing in the way of a reaction. Most end up boring of it and picking a different target.

Actually, I’m a bit mystified myself (almost to the point of a pet peeve, yes) about the whole notion of people with sophisticated avatars scoffing at being approached by those with cruder ones. I’ve talked to plenty who were more than interesting and nice enough, and I couldn’t care less if they’re still on a default av from 10 years ago; just as I’ve talked to many others who managed a very good one after less than a month, either with help or on their own, but were total idiots otherwise. Maybe I’m weird but, for me, avatar-making prowess is barely worth a once-over, and certainly not something I feel I have to make into a personal requirement.

Can we do old flames? 🤔

Until they do—and here’s doubting they will, least of all conclusively—, I’d guess no.

Corollary: “always be prepared for...”

That’s odd. I’d check if the person is in fact an admin—would hardly be the first troll posing as one to issue stupid orders—, tho admittedly that’s not always easy. In case it truly was, one possibility is that these clothing policies are next to impossible to formulate precisely (I’ve seen places that specified, “more than 75% of your <body part> exposed”, which I thought was funny... do they stick a rule to your parts, to measure it?), therefore many settle for cruder but easier-to-formulate ones like “no attached parts”—which, of course, in some practical cases may result in seemingly absurd admin decisions, as in your case where naughty parts were still visible—. So it depends on whether the place admins are allowed broader judgement calls (which can have their own problems, like the typical “but your rules don’t specify this exactly!”) or not. Then again it could be just an overzealous, inexperienced or otherwise plainly mistaken admin.

Aesthetics -- Quite nice indeed, varied within a city theme, and the owners keep updating it to the times; you can see it balances aesthetics with graphics load, to cater to users on lower-end hardware, but the result is still charming, with some downright photogenic spots. I perma-derender much of it since for me aesthetics are a one-time observation, but for everyday I prefer FPS. Community -- It’s a very eclectic mixture of new & old players, socialites & loners, common & downright weird people; there’s a high sense of community with a relatively subtle... I reckon, British feel to it. I can stand there all day and not say mum to a soul, or join the fray and fool around with them; both things are easily accepted and it’s by far what I like the most. Amenities/Infrastructure -- There’s a lot of what you’d find in an open city environment, including many clubs, but also secluded spots, photogenic views and fun areas. Moving around is easy, manually or thru systems I’ve seen around. Neighborhood -- There’s neighbouring regions, each slightly customized for its specific purpose; I stay in the main one, where people gather, the other being more residential, event-driven or welcoming areas.

I learned long ago that there’s people even less sociable than I am, just as there’s many who are far more sociable. What’s more, I learned long ago to not just respect those differences, but even cherish them. So, hell no to the “forced nexus” thing. I want choice. And I want others to have choice too.

Hanging out at the Forum Cartel, as Christmas-y as I’m bound to go...

I just shrug it off; depending on how they go off, it’s even worth a chuckle with friends. And at any rate, it’s the easiest, quickest indicator of “whom to never bother with”—I take notes in the profile, just in case. I’m a naturally curious person, but I don’t usually bother wondering why these people are like that; I just assume they’re either trolls, animals with a barely acquired ability to write, or both. The one thing I never, ever do is to go away, or even move an inch. It’s a matter of pride: I chose to be there, and no one’s making me leave.

I never even remotely accept friendship after just a few hours—or days, for that matter—, in fact I often have it on auto-refuse, which in and on itself (or the automatic refusal text) already makes some go ballistic. What I do have is (sometimes) long conversations with those asking way too soon, not so much out of a need to explain myself as because I wish they were a bit more serious with their concept of friendship; a few actually seemed to understand that it makes sense to wait until you actually know each other well and are sure you’ll get along and understand each other’s moments and busy times. Then I see them disengaging and pinballing from woman to woman in the are, likely doling out requests left & right. Cos they understood so well.

I banter with anyone who’s up for it. And many who aren’t.

Chat, shop, and build.