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That pose reminds me of Supergirl trying to get her bearings, for lack of a working GPS...

No directamente, el sistema no ofrece esa información; lo más que puedes hacer es deducirlo. Algunos, según el programa que usen, tienen activada una función para responder automáticamente a cualquier bloqueado que les envíe un IM; pero supongo que si te hubiese salido ese mensaje ya lo habrías deducido y no estarías preguntando. Más indirectamente, la única forma es enviando algún IM o teleport de vez en cuando y, si el otro sigue sin contestar, asumir que es porque no los ve (esto es, porque en efecto te ha bloqueado); no recomiendo abusar mucho de esto porque, si el otro no te ha bloqueado aún y simplemente estaba ignorándote (por la razón que sea), puede que lo haga si insistes mucho. O bien podrías pedir a alguien, un intermediario, que se lo pregunte. Pero esto es todavía más delicado (a nadie le gusta que le lleguen mensajes de alguien a quien has bloqueado, y puede poner en un compromiso al susodicho intermediario), así que sólo lo recomiendo si estás segurísimo de que el bloqueo fue por error.

Try the Second Life Editors’ Picks - Chat Hotspots. I hang out at London City, but for sure there’s others. You make friends here pretty much like you would in real life. Find popular hangouts, see what they do, join the conversations & activities whenever you like. Slowly you’ll see people you share interests and actually ‘click’ with—and they with you. Ideally, don’t use the friendship request thing at first... that’s just an electronic function that creates the illusion of friendship, and in a way can even distract you from the longer, but always worthier, process of finding true friends.

Believe me, I know. I get puzzled, even irked when they want too easy, partly because they waste your time struggling to explain complex stuff in just 100 words, and they start ignoring you after word one—if that. And in part because I believe easier isn’t always better (the example I always give them is, “how quickly would you get bored if it was tic-tac-toe easy?”). But if you truly want to help, you have to forget yourself and make it about them. You have to go from “I want to be the one helping, and doing it MY way” to “I want them being helped, I don’t care how or by whom, as long as they get what they want”. Not saying you have to lower your pants all the way, but yes, you have to compromise & tolerate a bit; otherwise it really isn’t a big willingness to help, as much as an attempt to convince yourself that you’re helping. Not quite the same. ... and I’m also saying this for your own sake, Aidy. If you take the inflexible route, and while it might help some a bit, you’ll still go through a lot of effort, in part because your proposed notecard truly means to cover a lot, and in part precisely because one way or the other you’ll labour long and hard to tailor it as much as possible, which is FAR from easy—to put it mildly. You’ll just spend a lot of time on it, gurl, and possibly not get a whole lot of satisfaction from the results 😉

Dunno, just found a wiki page saying they can be up to 65K, which I guess is a lot. But if you’re asking cos you plan to put everything but the kitchen sink in it, I suspect it’s going to be a major effort for way too little practical results. Simply put, and almost regardless of how well you craft it, it’s gonna be a wall of text which many will quite simply not read—even if they say they will and thank you. Of all the pre-made tutorial formats, an SL notecard rates pretty close to the bottom. I’m old-school too & not too fond of vids, but that’s the thing: it couldn’t possibly matter less what I like or not. If they like videos most and find ’em more instructing, then videos are the best option, period. It’s about what helps them most, not what you’d prefer it to help them most, or what you feel would help you most. Pray believe, I’m not saying this in a mean way... we all tend to think that way a bit, it’s quite inevitable. But it’s also true: if we don’t help in the way the other really needs, we’re still not doing it right, good intentions notwithstanding. Put it another way. I’ve been helping for years and, in my experience, the best way to help each one is to adapt to them. Some go through rather techie instructions like a rocket, some need a long, careful explanation of the difference between right-click & left-click; some have a good attention span, some have near zero; some are pretty methodical and follow instructions like it’s the Bible (and yes, a notecard might get close to be what these need), some get desperate and start clicking everything while swearing they’re about to uninstall SL, so they need a lot of handholding and cheering up. The closest by far I’ve gotten to being able to help most people, is to adapt to each. Point is, you’ll get nowhere close to tailoring a notecard to cover all, most, or even a reasonable number of these cases. You can’t with a website or video either, but at least those are easier to skip fro & back to find the info they’re after a bit quicker; being richer media, they’re just easier on the eyes & more navigable. At best, you could—and probably should—split into many notecards, each for a specific topic, and give each on specific questions. Sure, most noobs are gonna ask about the rest sooner or later—but there’s a fairly good chance they won’t read anything they don’t want to know about at each precise moment; and an equally good chance they’ll have dismissed, lost or even deleted your notecard by the time they reach that bridge. They’ll just ask someone else willing to give that specific info at that specific moment, rather than everything again.

Guess it depends if you were doing iRL things you definitely don’t have to elaborate on.

Yes. It spat at me, saying “you REALLY need a shrink”.

In the OP’s defense, he rather easily admits it: he’s only interested in one thing, it sure ain’t friendship, so there’s no point in him talking to men—therefore he might as well derender them, saving himself (and, incidentally, everyone else) the resources. Not that he had to say it, it was blatantly obvious; but some would be surprised by how many guys are almost literally incapable of admitting this, even when it’s exactly as obvious. I’ve had conversations north of an hour and involving a great deal of ‘boa constricting’, to wring it out of guys who kept swearing on their mothers’ honours that all they wanted was friendship, nothing else, and it ‘just somehow happened’ that everyone they had asked for it so far, were females. It’s a tremendous waste of everyone’s time, because they’re really not going to change their minds no matter what, they’ll just move on to the next (hopefully less observant) girl to seek what you never were interested in giving anyway. So yeah, all in all I’d say there’s far worse things than a guy who almost immediately goes out and says it. In fact I’d go as far as supporting such a function, so long as it showed in-world that they’re using it. That way one can choose to be as quickly selective and/or dismissive of them as they are of so many others.

I don’t actually let go, I just have low RAM.

Well, here goes for @Orwar...

Mine aren’t random, I’m more for keeping a constant level of kindness—for example, refusing to go all-bitchy on things others are quick to make a fuss of. We all have toxicity, it’s just many people show it at the slightest chance because of the all-too common misconception that it makes you sound outspoken (and therefore cool). I’ve had people telling me I’m extremely kind, just because I wholly ignored the angry tirade they first spewed at me (or the world in general) and kept calmly focused on whatever their actual issue was, until they got the hint and we (often easily) talked it thru. Wasn’t even particularly cheerful or sweet, I reserve that for my friends; yet they ended up feeling I was very kind to them. Just showing patience often does the trick—that shows you how rare it’s deemed. And all things rare can be given as a gift. Sometimes I help people with questions or issues, where there’s not already a helping staff in place whose work I’d interfere with. The virtue of it is, you already know what they need (which you don’t always know, with a compliment or a material gift). And sometimes it’s not technical help, but just listening, even if you can’t solve it for them. Maybe they broke with their partner, or lost their job. Some people just say “oh, that sucks” and change the topic as quickly as possible; they don’t want their mood spoiled. Or they say, “oh, that sucks; I know, I lost mine, too”, and end up telling you all about it; they don’t really want to listen, though they don’t mind if the other does. Sitting with the other with a “tell me everything about it; don’t omit any detail” isn’t something many people do, let alone for strangers. The “leave drama out of SL” thing often ends up meaning “let’s not talk about drama, unless it’s mine”. Listening to a stranger, really listening until you feel he’s healed a bit through catharsis, can be a powerful act of kindness too. And if done right, you both end up feeling better.

Mostly at London City, which has high traffic (and so, as Rowan said, less rez speed), voice, and a near-constant flux of veterans and new players; most of my friends there, so I feel very much at home. Then sometimes Ahern—smaller in most senses, no voice, and occasionally too indulging on trolls, but still worth dropping by every once in a while.

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Not really. I know this is semantics, but being exposed to something isn’t the same as participating of it, and therefore taking a break needs not apply. I’ve been hanging at a place which kinda sells itself as naturist without in fact honouring the concept, and so sex happens, sometimes in seats next to mine. But I have a high tolerance for what constitutes ‘shoved on my face’, in fact an almost perverse pleasure in exercising detachment. For me at least, not wishing to be involved makes a world of difference. In your example, Gopi, going to Las Vegas doesn’t necessarily imply a wish to non-stop sex and party, and so all you have to do is nurture the ability to focus on whatever it is that you wanted to do.

I’m Brian, and so is my woife!

No, Linden Lab were very careful not to put a single line of code that could remotely be construed as ‘something new’... things like Bento, BakeOnMesh, Animesh, AWS, LSL improvements, cloud av rendering, Inventory MP, extra layers & flexibility... zip, zero, nada. Never happened. Alas, I have it on good authority that last time they decided to change anything beyond bugfixing, it was to revert everything they’d done the previous ten years (i.e. pretty much since SL started), so now we’re basically deprived of mesh, voice, tattoos, Marketplace, flexiprims, sculpts, alphas, and practically SL itself. That all these things (and the others they were careful not to add) seem to remain there, working as usual, is a fantastic mystery to all concerned. But still LL did it, diligently, just to make sure people would have things to whine provide insight about.

I hangout, chat, shop, dress, and script. And then I do it all over again. I don’t get bored; if at any moment I prefer doing something else SL lacks, then I log off and do that—or even do it concurrently with being in SL, if possible. It doesn’t occur to me to moan about SL lacking that possibility anymore than about a cup of coffee not being able to proof-read my writings, or LibreOffice not quite getting me up in the morning. Would it be good if SL did more? Sure, but that is so old a debate, I just can’t be arsed into it anymore. In the end, some people actually like SL for the opportunity it brings them to find new things to complain about. They’re easy to see by their unbreakable focus on all the things that don’t work, instead of the ones that do... and also by how often they keep coming back to the very thing they complain so much about. Whining is a popular sport, and of course some go as far as feeding off the reactions to it. That’s par for the course and, if you keep an open mind, it can even be amusing to see how much they like to dislike things—and how incapable they are of admitting it.

Inclined to females because they use their voice more like another instrument, letting their melodic line shine on its own; males rely on throat gymnastics (roarish, breathy, broken, etc) to express, which is fine if you’re into emotional singing. I’m not. I go so far as ignoring lyrics, so a German singer is as good to me as an English one. Therefore, if the singer starts being overly expressive on some point I’m supposed to get by following the lyrics’ meaning, it puts me off. (Same disclosure that this is all generalizations, of course, and I’m open to any number of exceptions, to the tune of not actually caring about the singer’s gender as long as he/she sings the way I like).

I hang out at the London City sims, where texting and voicing are equally invited. Now, often the only problem seems to be that some voicers have trouble with the ‘equally’ part, i.e. they think that because voice is enabled, everyone must voice, or else. Their level of pressuring (and, indeed, mentality) varies, but for every voicer who is downright inclusive (reading aloud what texters say in a conversation, to ensure their participation is acknowledged), there’s usually about four who all but say they’ll ignore texters unless they switch to voice. Some aren’t even capable of couching it in words vague enough to walk back (’I didn’t meant it like that; of course I tolerate everyone’s choice!’) later if necessary. Some don’t want to, actually; there’s always one or two rather proud of their belief that theirs is the only acceptable choice; and when they find that the one thing the place enforces is freedom of choice, they move to others where there’s no such freedom. I find that beneficial because, in the end, it’s not an issue about texting or voicing; it’s about tolerance.

My friends.

Quite. The OP’s original idea should be done in a way that’s just as visible for related participants—for example, other visitors at a venue, the poster’s friends, etc. Fully a two-way street, that gets external audiences viewing the web front of it and deciding to log in to participate or come from elsewhere in SL. Of course this is all idle talk. Even the extremely basic posting abilities the social page had, were a train wreck that never got fully fixed, let alone improved.

That kind of thing only makes it worse with us weirdos. We get real interested.

We live amongst you. Always did. Only, we never wanted you to take us to your leaders. We already are your leaders.