Ren Toxx

s’OK, I said it tongue-in-cheek. And I enjoyed every word of your Mark Twain 😉

Ren acknowledges and starts saving for @Orwar’s sadistic—in more than one sense—fees, but just witnessed @Amina Sopwith’s dissection in undisguised (if still third-person) awe, and is now in an ‘oooo, shiny!’ kind of dilemma. She can’t help it, she likes things well-roasted.

Ren sits and just enjoys the thread while sipping coffee (too early for popcorn), but the obsessive-compulsive in her is tempted to ask @Orwar if there are sadists who aren’t gleeful, or is he just like a Premium Sadist? And if so, she also wonders how can she apply.

I use one of Firestorm’s no-shadows, as I don’t like the shading of even default Midday. The result is of course cartoonish flat, but practical. Every now & then I try the parcel’s or one in the library, but rarely appreciate its aesthetics over visibility.

I’m (almost) totally quoting you!

“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” ~ Plato

I too hangout in London City and know there’s many Brits. I rarely wonder—let alone ask—where anyone is from, to the point of frequently and rather happily forgetting when they volunteer that info themselves; even so, I’ve come to know many who are indeed from the UK. Far as I can tell, however, they’re quite like the RL London I know, in that sense: having people from everywhere in the world, and happy about it. One of the several things that makes me like the place.

It might get them some back, I don’t know. Me, if they did this I would most likely think of anatomically hidden parts where they could insert their pleadings, and then I would look for the “Unsubscribe” and “Block as spam” mail functions.

[Ctrl + Shift + R], twice. For whatever reason, entering & exiting wireframe view seems to fix it. Sure would like not needing to do it so often, tho.

Making friends is hard; in some ways it should be (“what we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; ’tis dearness only...”). But trying is easy; depending on where you go, you’ll barely need to lift a finger to get friendship requests—either actual or verbal ones—and may even afford being selective. What it requires, more than effort, is patience. If you get bored and leave within 5 minutes, you’re unconsciously setting the filter for the ‘easy come, easy go’ variety. Even if you allow the time to verify who does share your interests, that doesn’t guarantee a friendship: I’ve met a lot of people who literally seem a clone of mine but there’s no spark, and others who hardly share any with me, yet we can’t wait to meet again and just have a lot of fun. And that’s something you will only see in time, not ticking checkboxes off a ‘common hobbies’ list on day one; for sure it can help to have some, but we’re talking friends, not groups or associations. Word of advice? Do figure it, independently of friendship-making, and perhaps even before it. If literally your only reason to log in is to spend time with friends and sometimes there’s none online, you’ll log off; and when they log in and you’re offline, they’ll do something else. The more this happens, the less they’ll consider you an option, let alone a preference, which in turn will make the friendship less likely to hold, or even happen in the first place. The best friendships are those who only add to what you already are/have, rather than being your sole support 😉

Enjoying each and every time you deal with the other.

I take it for granted that many approach others on the basis of appearance but, one way or the other, a functional friendship only exists after frequently dealing with, and openly liking, each other. By that time most people know that avatar compliments go exactly nowhere with me; some will give up trying after 5 minutes, some within days, but they won’t be friends. So no, I don’t think it influences mine.

Is there no clue indeed, or were you not even paying attention to them? I hang out at a social area nearby a Gateway region, so I deal with underaged users on a daily basis, and I can tell you there’s plenty of clues. Even setting aside those you can actually hear because they left their mics keyed up, they behave a certain way. They have short attention spans, they’re clumsily direct, often mercurial, and just don’t have the emotional and social sophistication to maintain the pretense of adulthood for long. I’m just saying, it often just takes talking a bit beforehand. If you’re into talking at all, that is.

I’ve always liked forums for their more orderly conversations.

I hang out at places like London City or Ahern. They’re generic hangouts, not about shopping, clubbing or bonking, and they’re sedate enough that they let you be, if you’re an introvert. As for standards, obviously it’s up to you if you prefer quantity over quality. I’d rather have a few who know and respect that I’m not a shopaholic, a party animal or a trollop. In fact I can be a bit of a hard case, yet they accept and in fact like me just the way I am. That’s priceless.

I don’t ‘make’ friends, I let it happen naturally. I don’t deviate an inch from what I’d otherwise do: go to populated areas, see what they do, join if & when I want. If I visit often, little by little I see whom I like, and who likes me. I talk more with them, do more stuff. At some point there’s effectively a friendship; sometimes it’s reflected in my Friends list, sometimes it isn’t—by that point, they already know that’s the last thing I concern myself with, and that if they fuss about it, it’s less likely to happen. Point is, sometimes if you try too hard, you start doing things that effectively hamper the friendship without realizing it. Maybe you don’t act naturally and some sense it, or act as something you aren’t— and next day when your supposed (potential) ‘friend’ talks to you again and finds the real ‘you’, it’s not what they hoped. Could be lots of things; all because you tried making it happen. So, don’t try. Do your thing, let friendship find you. Yes, you may get a few less nominal ‘friends’ that way, but they’ll be truer ones. And you won’t have to do anything you wouldn’t otherwise do, so it certainly won’t be ‘hard’ 😉

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If everyone was a friend, then no one would be a friend; the very word would lose its meaning, the concept its value.

I’m one step ahead of The Joker: I don’t chase goals because, if I ever reached one, I wouldn’t know what to do with it.

It allows it because there’s less nefarious purposes for radar-based zooming, such as locating others at ample ground-level areas. Skyboxes don’t guarantee privacy unless you own the parcel and it allows you to restrict both outside rendering of avatars, and access to the actual parcel.

1.- I haven’t been dragged into the street and shot for it yet. Then again, they’d have to do it all the way from the shower. 2.- Sissel Kyrkjebø.

My orb reads them their Miranda rights, promises to let them call their lawyer, and even tells them, “It was so nice to kick you! Let’s do it again, sometime.”

90% of the time I just ignore them, because their very crudeness doesn’t exactly promise an intelligent conversation ahead, and I’m not in the habit of trying to discuss with dogs. I’ve tried—I prefer to give everyone the benefit of the doubt—but, alas, the vast majority of my attempts ended up with the verbal equivalent of a blank stare if I so much as suggested to discuss anything other than the specifics of ‘where’ & ‘how’.

They speed up the process of the intruder going elsewhere where those things are assumed and indeed offered. Therefore they too contribute to great warmth, companionship, etc.