Ren Toxx

Head just above the flotation line.

I’m an out-of-the-box thinker. I’d immediately find creative uses for dem binders.

When you find out, can I haz the landmark, please? I’ve heard they’re a riotous bunch

None whatsoever. Even if it’s gonna be an Adult proposition, I’d love nothing better than "Sex?” - “No.”, for minimum time & effort waste. More generally, people have been surprised to see how much better I respond to directness.

I am Gunther, and so is my wife!

Good idea. It should have special mods that’ll only lock the threads the moment people stop digressing from whatever the OP was talking about, and/or start mentioning anything Second Life

After 9+ years, you should know more than any of us how to talk him into delicate issues. Only 2 cents I can think of: If, again after so long together there’s this blunt refusal to talk about whatever, I’d say this in itself is serious enough—nevermind what he’s actually doing, but all the worse if just sail-training. I’d buy the “surprise” theory if he just avoided / equivocated, but one doesn’t go offline on your face to cover up for that. You say you have quite different socializing drives. Take this with a grain of salt but, in my experience, sometimes the more social one can end up feeling a bit constrained, at least if your online times coincide enough that each time he logs he has to choose between staying with you—and perhaps 1 or 2 others, but not always—or just going out to meet people. If that’s it, and you’re gonna try again bringing this issue forth (I wouldn’t, but that’s me), lay it out as ensuring, and making it clear to him, that you’re truly willing to give him whatever space he needs.

You can always paste them in local chat with [Shift+Enter] to whisper it if no one’s within 10m. (or even walk away a bit, otherwise), a group you own for your land and no one else is in at the moment, or in IM to one of your alts if you have them, or even in a friend’s that no longer logs in 😅... it certainly isn’t for lack of options. I do get what you mean, and while a simple SLURL for the purpose of TPing can’t be much seen as purposeful spamming/advertising, it’s a realistic concern, given that actual hit-and-run spammers & advertisers also often use the silly argument that “they’re not spamming/advertising, just sharing their awesome... blah, blah, blah" 😉

Hru?

Text, but I don’t mind if the other speaks as long as it’s understandable—not a crappy mic or connection that makes me struggle to fill in the stacatto silences.

When they’re just a pest. Hardly anything offends me—and I can give as good as I get, if not better—, but if it becomes just boring repetition, I slam the door on their face (bless block auto-response). That’s for IMs, of course. For public things I’m much more likely to mute specific sounds than whole avatars, unless they’re well into griefing levels.

Hang out.

Yes.

Also, some places have dancing systems (panels, poles, or just about anything usually labelled “Dancing - click here”) which you can use for free, as long as you’re there. And if you’re patient enough, you can always end up gathering quite a few free, but nice enough dances from numerous stores such as MOVE!, Abranimations...