Why does it matter?

[Silent Mistwalker]

On 4/18/2022 at 9:59 AM, Sid Nagy said:

Oops.
That's all.

See. I told you. Teddy bear.

 

 

[Love Zhaoying]

1 hour ago, Silent Mistwalker said:

 

I had someone say my artsy, tasteful nude photo (back when I did such things) reminded them of a Summer's Eve commercial once. Was very offended but this makes it funny!

[Madison10292018]

In a word, anti LGBT bigotry.

Ok, three words but you get the point.

Edited April 19, 2022 by Madison10292018

[Persephone Emerald]

2 minutes ago, Madison10292018 said:

In a word, anti LGBT bigotry.

Ok, three words but you get the point.

Actually, I think one word would suffice in this instance: Misogyny.  I doubt this guy would've bothered a male avatar in this way.

[Persephone Emerald]

I can think of one other possibility, though I think it's unlikely. The guy might've been an alt of the naked guy avatar that I ejected and banned from Alycia's house after he cammed inside and sat on her sofa. I had been in her house as Persephone. That guy had been standing outside and peering into the window. I told him this was not a nudist colony and gave him a LM for another sim that is. He gave me some back talk and left, only to come back later when I was in the house as Alycia.

I looked totally different when I was walking around the Victorians but my name tag and profile were the same.

[Cali Souther]

1 hour ago, Silent Mistwalker said:

See. I told you. Teddy bear.

 

 

Adorable!!!!    

Sorry, no more off topic posts, I promise.

[Ayashe Ninetails]

14 minutes ago, Cali Souther said:

Adorable!!!!    

Sorry, no more off topic posts, I promise.

I didn't want to be the first one to throw the thread off with a massive "AWWWW" but lil baby Fozzie is sooooo cuuuute.

And omg are we all Muppeting?! Ahhh I need to find one.

 

To sort of swing back to the topic:

19 minutes ago, Persephone Emerald said:

I can think of one other possibility, though I think it's unlikely. The guy might've been an alt of the naked guy avatar that I ejected and banned from Alycia's house after he cammed inside and sat on her sofa. I had been in her house as Persephone. That guy had been standing outside and peering into the window. I told him this was not a nudist colony and gave him a LM for another sim that is. He gave me some back talk and left, only to come back later when I was in the house as Alycia.

I looked totally different when I was walking around the Victorians but my name tag and profile were the same.

This is possible. It's also possible it's a random guy with too much time on his hands.

[Maryanne Solo]

You bunch of Muppets! 

I'm going to pull forum avatar rank on you all if you keep this up! 🙄
You've been warned! Bwahahahaaa!

[Silent Mistwalker]

16 minutes ago, Maryanne Solo said:

 

That is Witchiepoo from H R Puffnstuf. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/H.R._Pufnstuf

Edited April 19, 2022 by Silent Mistwalker

[Scylla Rhiadra]

5 hours ago, Fluffy Sharkfin said:

There have been some advances made in gender equality over recent years and the notion that women must be delicate and graceful, etc. in order to be considered feminine is increasingly seen as archaic, but there has been comparatively little change in societies perceptions of what constitutes a "real man".

Right! Which is why some of us (*cough* me *cough cough*) would argue that feminism, with its focus upon breaking down gender stereotypes, is advocacy for men's freedom, as well as for women's.

I have a close friend in-world -- he's a sweetheart, gentle, kind, and liberal -- who until quite recently insisted upon wearing his "attachable" (invisible, of course) all of the time, because it didn't "feel right" not to have one. That's how weird it can get.

On the other hand, almost none of the men I know are into the steroid-powered super-buff look.

[Nalates Urriah]

And there are a few people in SL that sound like someone who's voice would be recognized. What are they going to say?

[Fluffy Sharkfin]

6 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

Right! Which is why some of us (*cough* me *cough cough*) would argue that feminism, with its focus upon breaking down gender stereotypes, is advocacy for men's freedom, as well as for women's.

I have a close friend in-world -- he's a sweetheart, gentle, kind, and liberal -- who until quite recently insisted upon wearing his "attachable" (invisible, of course) all of the time, because it didn't "feel right" not to have one. That's how weird it can get.

On the other hand, almost none of the men I know are into the steroid-powered super-buff look.

Yes, there seems to be this weird but popular perception that by benefiting one "side" you're surely doing something that will be detrimental to the other.  The idea that men and women are such complete opposites in every aspect is so ingrained for some that it seems to go beyond the traditional ideas that they have diametrically opposed characteristics and quite literally pits them against each other in some eternal "battle of the sexes".

It's a shame to see people with different perspectives clash and fight amongst themselves over issues concerning equality and individual rights, etc. because if they just stopped to look at it from a broader perspective they would probably agree that their common goal is that everyone be free to be who they want without criticism or judgement from others, rather than have their lives dictated to them by some ridiculous archaic notions dreamt up by a society that could never have hoped to comprehend the world we live in today.

[Madelaine McMasters]

Looks like it's time for this again...

 

[Kalegthepsionicist]

On 4/16/2022 at 5:07 PM, Lewis Luminos said:

In my experience with using female avatars, in situations like that, it's 100% because they find your avatar is a turn-on and they want to know what you are in RL so they know whether to pursue attempts to get sex.

Yes. They don't talk to male avatars at all.

I think maybe because they'd feel it was an insult or a challenge to their own gender identity and they assume it must be the same for everyone else.

Avatars that don't look like people are not a sexual turn-on (generally), so again I'd think that they're fishing to see if you're worth pursuing for sex.

Both my girls have furry forms and as long as they stay out of exclusively furry clubs whilst wearing those forms, guys tend to leave them alone, I rarely get anyone saying they should change to human (except in cases of venue dresscode, which is rare-to-never because I always check the venue dresscode first). 

Tammi gets left alone for the most part, because she is fat and a bit intimidating in the way she dresses (that was intentional on my part). Indra is more conventionally attractive but she's not white, which again helps to reduce unwanted attention (at least some of those knuckle-draggers are racist as well as sexist). 

they just do a roleplay

as jerk.

some people are not alpha irl, so in SL they become alpha beast 😜

Edited April 20, 2022 by Kalegthepsionicist

[Ayashe Ninetails]

7 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

I have a close friend in-world -- he's a sweetheart, gentle, kind, and liberal -- who until quite recently insisted upon wearing his "attachable" (invisible, of course) all of the time, because it didn't "feel right" not to have one. That's how weird it can get.

Oh wow, and there's me leaving my stuff collecting dust in my inventory for so so so long, I'll remember at the very last possible (worst possible) minute that it even exists, say wait a minute lemme just toss all this stuff on, and realize I don't like the settings. Hang on a sec lemme just... tinting this, changing that. Then go oh wait I'm not even set to HD lemme open my Lara HUD here... wait should I rock these, or these, or those...nah not those they look crazy with this skin nvm. Ok one final check all over, flip through the HUDs again. OH WOW I didn't realize it could do THAT - YOOOOOOO check this out! Suddenly standing there making crazy faces. 🤣

Maybe I'm the very opposite of your friend there. Wearing that stuff just feels so absurd to me sometimes that I can't help clowning on it. My male avatar is a full Ken doll - I only ever wear things on the female ones if I have to, and honestly, I don't even know why I bother LOL.

Hmm, maybe THAT's the reason nobody IMs me anymore. 👀😂

[Kalegthepsionicist]

On 4/16/2022 at 3:36 PM, Persephone Emerald said:

I was walking around the Victorian Linden Homes one day, when some guy spoke to me in voice, saying "Hey. Get off my Street."

I looked around and responded in text, "Ha ha ha. You don't own the street." 

He said in voice , "Can you use voice? Use Voice."

I texted back, "I could, but I don't want to."

He said in voice, "Why don't you want to use voice. I bet it's because you're really a guy."

I texted back, "Why would that matter to you if I were?"

He said back in voice,  "You're a guy. Have fun pretending to be a woman in SL." Then he walked off and "hid" on a parcel where I couldn't see him, but knew he was there by zooming on him with the People window. 

This interaction made me wonder why do people care what the RL gender is of the user behind the avatar?  I'm not looking for any kind of romantic entanglement in SL. Three of my avatars are female, as am I in RL. I use voice when I want to and have been told I have a sexy voice, but I don't owe some rude little yahoo any proof of my RL gender. Is a guy like that only rude to female avatars? Also, why does someone like that think that saying "I bet you're really a guy" is some kind of insult or challenge to my RL gender identity or self esteem? 

Someone else on these forums said another user complained because they were using an eagle avatar. A friend of mine said someone else followed him around saying he should use a human avatar instead of a phoenix. Do these people have so little imagination that they need avatars to look like people?

We can look like a dragon, a frog, or a toaster if we want. I sometimes like to wear fantasy skins and rainbow-colored hair. Sometimes I like to wear a skimpy, sexy outfit. Sometimes I like to wear jeans and a long shirt. This doesn't change who I am on the RL side of my keyboard. I am not my avatar.

I realize people are visual creatures and are thus more likely to feel sexually attracted to a sexy-looking avatar, but if I say I'm not interested in SL sex, that doesn't change just because my avatar is wearing a short skirt and showing some cleavage. Even if I tell them I'm old enough to be their mother in RL, some guys still seem to think of me as my 30-something sexy-looking avatar.

actually

the most dangerous guy is

he who are TOOOOOOO nice to everyone

he probably

a cookie monsta.....

 

 

(kidding)

[Rowan Amore]

1 hour ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

Right! Which is why some of us (*cough* me *cough cough*) would argue that feminism, with its focus upon breaking down gender stereotypes, is advocacy for men's freedom, as well as for women's.

I have a close friend in-world -- he's a sweetheart, gentle, kind, and liberal -- who until quite recently insisted upon wearing his "attachable" (invisible, of course) all of the time, because it didn't "feel right" not to have one. That's how weird it can get.

On the other hand, almost none of the men I know are into the steroid-powered super-buff look.

I remember when I was brand new to SL.  Some man told me women needed to buy an attachment if they wanted to have SLex.  Even back then,.knowing almost nothing about SL, I had to laugh.  Granted, in order to enjoy the visual aspect of SLex, a man would need to have his attachment but in all honestly, I'm rarely paying attention to all that and focus on the words.   

[Coffee Pancake]

14 minutes ago, Kalegthepsionicist said:

some people are not alpha irl, so in SL they become alpha beast 😜

 

[Silent Mistwalker]

46 minutes ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

Looks like it's time for this again...

 

 

If only 
they had allowed me 
to be me 
how different I would be.

[Kalegthepsionicist]

5 minutes ago, Coffee Pancake said:

 

thats a false interpretation of alpha male.

alpha = leader

and leader always  burden ***** on his shoulder.

they become servant of the pack , and should be the first one in front when ***** happen to their pack.

basically alpha mentally = you feel all ***** is your reapnsibility

[Rowan Amore]

3 minutes ago, Kalegthepsionicist said:

thats a false interpretation of alpha male.

alpha = leader

and leader always  burden ***** on his shoulder.

they become servant of the pack , and should be the first one in front when ***** happen to their pack.

basically alpha mentally = you feel all ***** is your reapnsibility

Kind of like moms do

[Silent Mistwalker]

6 minutes ago, Kalegthepsionicist said:

thats a false interpretation of alpha male.

alpha = leader

and leader always  burden ***** on his shoulder.

they become servant of the pack , and should be the first one in front when ***** happen to their pack.

basically alpha mentally = you feel all ***** is your reapnsibility

You know nothing about wolves. LMAO

[Kalegthepsionicist]

2 minutes ago, Silent Mistwalker said:

You know nothing about wolves. LMAO

I know, female is alpha in wolves

[Kalegthepsionicist]

17 minutes ago, Rowan Amore said:

Kind of like moms do

no idea lol,

if you have husbnad irl that responsible with your family, it means he is alpha in your family.

but if you take all that *****,

it menas you are the alpha. just simple like that.

alpha man feel not comfostable if they cant support financial problem.

beta male feel comfort.

thats one sample for you to understand rhats.

it doesnt mean there are no equalit.

its mentality of the alpha male.

Edited April 20, 2022 by Kalegthepsionicist

[Coffee Pancake]

Everyone needs to make a wisdom saving throw.