Persephone Emerald

^ Is this still the look you want? If you got a Maitreya Lara body before and still want a medium build, then I suggest staying with that body, but updating it with the HUD to the current version(s). The Maitreya Lara v5.3 will fit the most clothing, including what you already have. The LaraX v1.1 would need new clothes, and doesn't yet have much on the market to choose from. Both bodies are included for free in your update, and you won't have to spend time looking for a new body. The easiest way to update your look is with a new head and skin. Lelutka EvoX heads are the most popular and have many looks to choose from. Akeruka EvoX compatible heads are another good option if you like them, but I think the Lelutka heads are easier to use and it's easier to find applier makeup for them. The new Lara 5.3 and LaraX come with Velour BOM body skins, so you would only need to buy a head skin in a matching tone. Many skin creators make head skins in Velour tones, so you're not limited to just one skin designer, and you might find a skin you like on sale. I'm not available as an inworld shopper, but someone else might be willing to help you with that.

What type of body are you using? Weekend sales are sometimes a good way to find new clothes, skin and hair. If you're making a whole new avatar, though, you'll probably want to start with a mesh body & head. Is your avatar male, female, furry or other? Do you have a budget for how much you want to spend? And do you want a slender, curvy, athletic, hourglass or pear-shaped body (if female).

How is anyone going to have family roleplay? Will children have to be animesh? And don't animesh children present potential "Adult activity" problems too?

People put money into slot machines, hoping to get a rare prize of a payoff all the time. Human psychology is weird.

If you can post a picture of how your avatar looks, we can get a better idea of what's wrong. One common problem with mesh heads is wearing the wrong shape for that head. Start with the shape included with the head. Another shape made for that brand of head can also work. Then adjust the body shape before adjusting the face shape a little bit at a time. Another common problem for people who are not used to using mesh bodies and heads is having the default system body or head showing through the mesh parts. The best solution for this problem is to enable Bakes on Mesh on the body or head. Lelutka EvoX heads have BOM enabled by default, but bodies usually have a button for it on their HUD.

One advantage of a HUD with a selection of colors a similar tone is that it's easier to match with other clothing. "Blue", "grey", "pink" or "white" doesn't tell us what shade it is. I've bought items that looked white in a color panel at a store, but were actually light grey. 🙁 Some people wear multiple bodies, so they like having multiple sizes in a pack, but there's an advantage for the merchant to knowing which sizes are more popular when they sell each size separately.

@Governance Linden Will child avatars no longer be allowed in Bellisseria? Or in any Moderate rated regions?

Also when one doesn't adjust their hover height correctly

If you decide to purchase a mainland parcel, you can hold an extra 10% of land without paying extra tier on it by creating a group and buying your land for your group instead of as an individual. To create a group, first create an alt account. Then create your group and add your alt to it. You can invite friends to join your group and give different group abilities to different titles in your group. It's best to give owner abilities only to your alt, so others can't sell your land, mess up stuff, or take control of your group.

The colored squares over SSP regions tell the Moles (LL contract employees creating the new regions) what work still needs to be done on those regions. As users, we can only guess which each color means, but we do know that green is the first color (or sometimes white) and red is the last color, before a region is released.

Somebody put out our kitten. 🐈 M E O W S

LL could say it's out of theme to add prim land under houseboats, because boats are designed to be on water. They can't say it's out of theme to add a sandy island under a Stilt Home, because some of the Stilt Homes are on sandy islands already.

Quality utensils include correct knives. B L A D E

What you're seeing is the shadow from your head on the upper part of your neck. If you turn off shadows, you won't see that. Also, why do you need a neck fix? If you have the same tone for your body and head, and the head skin is worn above your body skin, you shouldn't need a neck fix. p.s. I think the line between your body & head skins may come from different materials settings on your body & head. You are using a BOM skin, right? Not an applier skin from your body's HUD? I'm not an expert on these things, so I'll leave it to others to explain in better detail.

Six new Ranch coast regions & the furthest north train station at Wild Winds ( 3 regions from Strong Angel).

I haven't watched/listened to the video yet. I need to catch up. However, "Should" doesn't mean the same thing legally as "must". "Should" sounds like a suggestion, not a rule. I expect to see more doll and anime avatars that aren't technically children. People who use child avatars can also have a non-child look for areas that might not be safe for a child avatar. Verification of RL age? I don't know yet how that's going to work.

For me, it usually tossing my drink into my eye. 🤣

Yes, foot and hand size depends on one's skeletal structure. It has nothing to do with one's muscle or body fat. People do sometimes give their avatars hand and feet that look proportionally too small for their avatar - just as their arms might look too short -, but people have smaller or larger hands and feet in RL too. I wear a size 8 (US) shoe in RL, which is average, but when I was young it was a 6, which is on the small side. My hands are still proportionally smaller than average, so if I make my avatar hands look like they do in RL, some people might think they look too small. We're not obligated to make our avatars look like our RL bodies anyway. Use whatever shape you prefer for SL.

Maybe *you* don't experience people around you expecting you to be strong or tough, but you're a white woman living in the modern United States. Men have long been expected to be tough and to not express vulnerable emotions (at least in western culture). They're told to not be a sissy, to not cry "like a girl", to suck it up, show some balls, and "be a man". That poem by Kipling emphases just this kind of "masculine" resilience and psychological strength. It wasn't aimed at women. It doesn't suggest that it's ok to feel vulnerable or to cry sometimes. It doesn't suggest ways to develop psychological resilience. It just says that if a man doesn't have this, then he's not a real man. People of color, especially black people and immigrants, have also long been expected to be tough and not to express emotional or psychological vulnerability. Just look at television and movies. How many times have you seen a person of color being shown as crying vs. a white woman? Look at our music too. Diana Ross sang "I Will Survive". Yet it's not unusual to hear songs where a white woman is basically crying about how some guy broke her heart. Historically, white women have also been expected to be tough and resilient at times too - for instance pioneer women - but we've also had this cultural idea of being the "weaker sex", biologically prone to fainting, hysterics, and crying spells. Real Life is not an even playing field.

There are l good points made in this interview, but I don't think a racial bias is the only problem with glorifying resilience. Now, first of all, resilence is absolutely necessary for survival. However, being able to remove oneself from a harmful situation is better than just being able to absorb and survive harm. When a child is abused, they may not be able to remove themself from a harmful situation, so they have to develop resilience (and coping mechanisms) in order to survive. A victim of domestic abuse or slavery (and I don't mean just historically) may not be able to escape their abuse either, so they also have to develop resilience in order to survive. People develop all kinds of coping mechanisms in order to survive physical and mental abuse. These help them to survive initially, but may be less than ideal when that person is no longer in the original abusive situation. Take disassociation as an example. Being able to take one's mind away from reality helps a person to survive during the abuse, but if disassociation is later triggered in situations that are not physically harmful, the person may have difficultly interacting with others or might even experience mental blackouts in their daily life. I think we probably want to focus on *healthy* coping mechanisms for this thread, such as listening to music, talking with supportive people, journaling, play, exercise, or artistic creation. Many of these activities can be part of a rewarding and healthy use of Second Life. If being in Second Life feels like existing in a stressful or toxic environment, however, then removing oneself from it for a while might be the best solution, rather than enduring stressful or toxic situations in a virtual world. Btw, I prefer using the term "coping mechanisms" rather than "resilience", because resilience seems to me to imply some kind of moral superiority.

I like this use of the word "Conservative" as meaning to conserve an existing state (or traditional values). "Progressive" would thus be an opposing term, as meaning seeking change from an existing state (or traditional values) in favor of a state or values that are viewed as "better" or more evolved. ("Regressive" would mean going back to a worse or less evolved state or values.) Unfortunately, these terms can't be unwound from their RL political associations, so it's best to avoid them on these forums.

This is true for any LH theme. Some people take a perfectly nice, mostly flat parcel and ruin it by putting down a box prim with a grass texture that does even come close to matching. I think all the content packs should include appropriate ground textures, to minimize the use of ground textures that don't match.

Dirty laundry

Even newbies jump over yucky STUFF.

Yes.