Persephone Emerald

If you can post a picture of how your avatar looks, we can get a better idea of what's wrong. One common problem with mesh heads is wearing the wrong shape for that head. Start with the shape included with the head. Another shape made for that brand of head can also work. Then adjust the body shape before adjusting the face shape a little bit at a time. Another common problem for people who are not used to using mesh bodies and heads is having the default system body or head showing through the mesh parts. The best solution for this problem is to enable Bakes on Mesh on the body or head. Lelutka EvoX heads have BOM enabled by default, but bodies usually have a button for it on their HUD.

One advantage of a HUD with a selection of colors a similar tone is that it's easier to match with other clothing. "Blue", "grey", "pink" or "white" doesn't tell us what shade it is. I've bought items that looked white in a color panel at a store, but were actually light grey. 🙁 Some people wear multiple bodies, so they like having multiple sizes in a pack, but there's an advantage for the merchant to knowing which sizes are more popular when they sell each size separately.

@Governance Linden Will child avatars no longer be allowed in Bellisseria? Or in any Moderate rated regions?

Also when one doesn't adjust their hover height correctly

If you decide to purchase a mainland parcel, you can hold an extra 10% of land without paying extra tier on it by creating a group and buying your land for your group instead of as an individual. To create a group, first create an alt account. Then create your group and add your alt to it. You can invite friends to join your group and give different group abilities to different titles in your group. It's best to give owner abilities only to your alt, so others can't sell your land, mess up stuff, or take control of your group.

The colored squares over SSP regions tell the Moles (LL contract employees creating the new regions) what work still needs to be done on those regions. As users, we can only guess which each color means, but we do know that green is the first color (or sometimes white) and red is the last color, before a region is released.

Somebody put out our kitten. 🐈 M E O W S

LL could say it's out of theme to add prim land under houseboats, because boats are designed to be on water. They can't say it's out of theme to add a sandy island under a Stilt Home, because some of the Stilt Homes are on sandy islands already.

Quality utensils include correct knives. B L A D E

What you're seeing is the shadow from your head on the upper part of your neck. If you turn off shadows, you won't see that. Also, why do you need a neck fix? If you have the same tone for your body and head, and the head skin is worn above your body skin, you shouldn't need a neck fix. p.s. I think the line between your body & head skins may come from different materials settings on your body & head. You are using a BOM skin, right? Not an applier skin from your body's HUD? I'm not an expert on these things, so I'll leave it to others to explain in better detail.

Six new Ranch coast regions & the furthest north train station at Wild Winds ( 3 regions from Strong Angel).

I haven't watched/listened to the video yet. I need to catch up. However, "Should" doesn't mean the same thing legally as "must". "Should" sounds like a suggestion, not a rule. I expect to see more doll and anime avatars that aren't technically children. People who use child avatars can also have a non-child look for areas that might not be safe for a child avatar. Verification of RL age? I don't know yet how that's going to work.

For me, it usually tossing my drink into my eye. 🤣

Yes, foot and hand size depends on one's skeletal structure. It has nothing to do with one's muscle or body fat. People do sometimes give their avatars hand and feet that look proportionally too small for their avatar - just as their arms might look too short -, but people have smaller or larger hands and feet in RL too. I wear a size 8 (US) shoe in RL, which is average, but when I was young it was a 6, which is on the small side. My hands are still proportionally smaller than average, so if I make my avatar hands look like they do in RL, some people might think they look too small. We're not obligated to make our avatars look like our RL bodies anyway. Use whatever shape you prefer for SL.

Maybe *you* don't experience people around you expecting you to be strong or tough, but you're a white woman living in the modern United States. Men have long been expected to be tough and to not express vulnerable emotions (at least in western culture). They're told to not be a sissy, to not cry "like a girl", to suck it up, show some balls, and "be a man". That poem by Kipling emphases just this kind of "masculine" resilience and psychological strength. It wasn't aimed at women. It doesn't suggest that it's ok to feel vulnerable or to cry sometimes. It doesn't suggest ways to develop psychological resilience. It just says that if a man doesn't have this, then he's not a real man. People of color, especially black people and immigrants, have also long been expected to be tough and not to express emotional or psychological vulnerability. Just look at television and movies. How many times have you seen a person of color being shown as crying vs. a white woman? Look at our music too. Diana Ross sang "I Will Survive". Yet it's not unusual to hear songs where a white woman is basically crying about how some guy broke her heart. Historically, white women have also been expected to be tough and resilient at times too - for instance pioneer women - but we've also had this cultural idea of being the "weaker sex", biologically prone to fainting, hysterics, and crying spells. Real Life is not an even playing field.

There are l good points made in this interview, but I don't think a racial bias is the only problem with glorifying resilience. Now, first of all, resilence is absolutely necessary for survival. However, being able to remove oneself from a harmful situation is better than just being able to absorb and survive harm. When a child is abused, they may not be able to remove themself from a harmful situation, so they have to develop resilience (and coping mechanisms) in order to survive. A victim of domestic abuse or slavery (and I don't mean just historically) may not be able to escape their abuse either, so they also have to develop resilience in order to survive. People develop all kinds of coping mechanisms in order to survive physical and mental abuse. These help them to survive initially, but may be less than ideal when that person is no longer in the original abusive situation. Take disassociation as an example. Being able to take one's mind away from reality helps a person to survive during the abuse, but if disassociation is later triggered in situations that are not physically harmful, the person may have difficultly interacting with others or might even experience mental blackouts in their daily life. I think we probably want to focus on *healthy* coping mechanisms for this thread, such as listening to music, talking with supportive people, journaling, play, exercise, or artistic creation. Many of these activities can be part of a rewarding and healthy use of Second Life. If being in Second Life feels like existing in a stressful or toxic environment, however, then removing oneself from it for a while might be the best solution, rather than enduring stressful or toxic situations in a virtual world. Btw, I prefer using the term "coping mechanisms" rather than "resilience", because resilience seems to me to imply some kind of moral superiority.

I like this use of the word "Conservative" as meaning to conserve an existing state (or traditional values). "Progressive" would thus be an opposing term, as meaning seeking change from an existing state (or traditional values) in favor of a state or values that are viewed as "better" or more evolved. ("Regressive" would mean going back to a worse or less evolved state or values.) Unfortunately, these terms can't be unwound from their RL political associations, so it's best to avoid them on these forums.

This is true for any LH theme. Some people take a perfectly nice, mostly flat parcel and ruin it by putting down a box prim with a grass texture that does even come close to matching. I think all the content packs should include appropriate ground textures, to minimize the use of ground textures that don't match.

Dirty laundry

Even newbies jump over yucky STUFF.

Yes.

What facts am I changing, Luna? I said that dopamine makes people feel good and that a dopamine high can be addictive. My point was that just because an activity feels good, that doesn't necessarily mean that it's healthy or that it increases one's resilience to stress. I also get irritated by how you act like your views and practices are always right, always the best. No one is always right or always the best. That's narcissism. Even if you dress it up with pretty rainbows and new age psychobabble, it's still narcissism.

You know darn well that I'm not dismissing Science. I'm simply pointing out that Science (including soft sciences such as psychology) is dynamic. There are very few absolutes in psychology. It's a relatively new science with constantly evolving theories. Trying to make sense of human behavior is also not as simple as proving the Earth is round(ish) or that light has properties of both a wave and particles.

I got this free deformer set on MP today for my alt Alycia. The shoulder deformer in it called "please fix my shoulders - Lower 4" works well for her Maitreya Lara and doesn't look bad on LaraX either. I'm planning to get this set for all my female avatars. Some poses and animations still don't look great with this deformer, but overall, the look is better.

Playing in SL (and even engaging in a dramatic forum thread) feels good because this behavior creates dopamine. Sex, gambling and shopping can also create dopamine. This is what makes these kinds of activities addictive. Those of us who have been in SL for years know it can be addictive. Sometimes we have to step back and resist that drive to dive into this lovely fantasy world because, even if it feels good, too much of a good thing might not be good for us. What I got from @Cinnamon Mistwood's posts wasn't that trolling or griefing is a healthy coping mechanism, but that everyone has different ideas of what they believe is fun or healthy, and it's not healthy to believe that your views are right, to the exclusion of everyone else's views. That's just narcissism. Psychology also doesn't know everything. Like all sciences, it's a bunch of theories competing for acceptance and dominance. Lobatomies and shock therapy were once considered cutting edge psychological medicine. (No pun intended.) Now psychiatrists debate over whether ADHD meds and SRIs actually help patients or not. People try different treatments to see what works for them, but there's no guarantee that what seems to help one person will help someone else.