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  1. Yeah, I noticed that in some of the stilt homes. I guess the decks were built without rails because houses over the water might want to connect a pier or something.
  2. I wonder where our Maui girl Alyona Su is? She normally has lots of suggestions for topics like this.
  3. Agreed Nuuanu, shopping on SLMP is frustrating. Thanks for the fun guide! Like you say it will be more useful to Polys than to your average North American or European :-) And agreed AlohaShoyu, YumYum do some nice hairs! I use almost entirely DrLife hairs though, just because I have so many of them :-) FWIW I use Maitreya Lara too, most of the time a Lelutka Simone head, and a shape I found at Sublime a long time ago that they no longer carry.
  4. Aloha everyone. I really enjoy places that look like they've been built on stilts over water. The Temple of Iris is a fun historic example, full of shops and homes (?) on stilts over water, all connected via a maze of piers / walkways. The only other place like this I've found is a small area in the great Kowloon region. I find enormous beauty in places like this, even if they're normally very impoverished and polluted in RL. Can anyone recommend other regions like this? Just occurred to me that the new Florida-inspired Linden homes on stilts would be similar, but AFAIK their regions haven't been built yet.
  5. I spend what seems like a lot of time exploring. I Control-M to pull up Map, then click on a distant region to teleport to it. No idea what I'll find, and that leads to the joy of discovery. It's fun to stumble upon places that were probably busy ten years ago but are dead now, especially beaches, post-apocalyptic scenes, and vaguely Asian cities. It also shows how the build tech in SL has progressed over the years. I take a lot of photos, because even beautiful places come and go all the damn time.
  6. This question and line of thinking has a huge Matrix vibe.
  7. Han is so right! The vast majority of my Lindens go to tier (rent) on a property we "bought." I enjoy buying houses, so have a collection of them. Not all houses are expensive, but furnishing them can be! I used to spend a lot on clothing, but after a while it's hard to find things NOT designed to appeal to hormonal teenage boys.
  8. Hi Tadrie, Yes, the selection of skins for POC are an issue. The stores others have listed above have some nice ones to try, and I'd add Not Found too. In all cases, demo as many skins as possible, and grab one you like while it's still around... they come and go pretty frequently. Be prepared for all skins to be one color all over. I have never found a skin anywhere that allows for melanin-free palms and soles. There are products on SL Marketplace that will make your soles red or dirty, but nothing that makes palms and soles pale and clean. :-(
  9. I've found the same thing when looking for places. I lucked out, finding most places by stumbling onto them inworld. So Waialae, what you might want to do is browse some of your fav regions and look for the (often terrible) for rent or sale signage.
  10. Wow Kytteh, I absolutely understand this frustration after dealing with a similar episode myself. I like to leave my homes open and welcome visitors, but do expect them to be respectful. When they start getting predatory I report and ban them, but they can still cam in or use other devices as you describe. IN SL it seems the best policy is to expect no privacy as Rolig said, and to be prepared to move from place to place. I have a Linden houseboat that became a target, so I moved to a new one... then that one became a target too. Crap. As a reasonable solution I bought a pretty house on SLMP, and some land to rez it on. I still leave the doors open, but have learned to love the house not the land it's on. That way I can move again when the need arises.
  11. While I support freedom of speech, I understand that this is best experienced by people with open minds, not by people already convinced that their opinion is the only right one. We are all individuals with our own opinions, and we need to respect that. It's important to recognize that - if we are compelled to do so - we are more likely to impact someone else's opinion by listening to them and speaking with them, not by planting a sign. The size of the sign is unimportant; small or large it is unlikely to change anyone else's opinion. Because SL residents come from all over the world, signs about particular parties or candidates may often be meaningless. For example, people outside Bolivia may not recognize Jeanine Áñez; people outside Thailand may not recognize Prayut Chan-o-cha, and outside USA may not recognize Trump. Rather than signs supporting politicians, it's likely more effective to display signs supporting political theories, e.g. human rights, press freedom, feeding the hungry, etc. For anyone who feels they must plant a sign, plant one that mentions morals and ethics you believe in, not a sign with someone else's name. Signs supporting any particular candidates or parties may be planted proudly by a property owner who identifies with them, but to outsiders these people are sometimes perceived as trolls. This is true no matter the candidate or intention of the sign. Politics are just one small aspect of our experience as human beings. We have many more commonalities than differences. It seems logical then to focus on our commonalities, on things that bring us together rather than separate us. Having said that, I have to admit that when I see signs on a business that oppose my own point of view I am disappointed and am unlikely to support that business. I don't want to drop Lindens in the pocket of someone who may be working to destroy good as I define it. Maybe economics alone is a good reason for people to not have signs promoting a party or candidate.
  12. That SL face mask gives a whole new meaning to "speak to the hand!"
  13. This might be goofy, but the Mountain area of Linden Realms has a considerable network of caves that can be explored.
  14. This whole discussion is incredibly sad and would likely be so to anyone not white. I understand the desire as noted above to prevent cyborgs from overrunning a 1920s sim, but to outright ban a race or gender or any other descriptor is absolutely discriminatory. Yes, that may be allowed by SL's TOS so that artists can maintain an ambiance on their sim, but it's still an ugly reflection of how desperately we need to evolve in RL. It's time for us to allow cyborgs into our 1920s sims, to allow LGBTQ people into our bakeries, to start celebrating our differences rather than hating them, banning them, and pretending they are unacceptable or don't even exist.
  15. Have to be honest, I leave any sim that auto-plays Christmas music. It's annoying, like when you walk into a store (remember when we used to do that?) and they're playing non-stop corny Christmas tunes behind a table of laughing Santa statues, a display of automated greeting cards, a shelf of "holiday flavored" coffees, and a selection of televisions all playing Frosty the Snowman. AAAGGGHHH!
  16. Aloha nyahrou. I hope this isn't overly simple, but there is an option in Preferences > Chat > Typing > Play typing animation when chatting. Uncheck that box and see if that helps.
  17. Aloha Yamata2018. A LOT depends on what specific ethnicity you would like your avatar to mimic. For example, Russia, India, and Viet Nam are all Asian, but people look very different. Maybe your avatar looks hapa (mixed race). Look through mesh head shapes; you will find many that approximate an ethnicity. Once you have that head and shape you can edit the shape to personalize it. Genesis, Lelutka, and Vista all do heads with nice Asian shape options. Good luck!
  18. Aloha. I became a premium member nearly one year ago, and would like to renew. I logged into my account, and no renew options are shown. I could buy premium again, but this is only available as a membership change (upgrade / downgrade), not as a continuation. I don't see any documentation that my premium membership will be auto-renewed. So how are premium memberships renewed? Thanks in advance for your wisdom.
  19. For many years I worked for a well-run private company, a leader in its field with tens of thousands of employees, that eventually accepted a buy-out offer. The promise was that all the additional investment would further improve the company's products and services. The buyer appeared to be from a similar industry, but to our surprise turned out to be on a buying spree and we were one of many companies purchased. There was inevitable job function overlap, and thousands of talented people were laid off. That purging of knowledge and experience led to an immediate collapse of product quality, and within months the company lost most of its customer base. The few of us deemed essential who were left behind then spent traumatic years dealing with extremely dissatisfied customers, apologizing profusely for mishaps we had no control over, and trying desperately to fix myriad quality and service problems using ineffective but money-saving tools the new profit-focused owner had provided. And we all did this while scared to death that our own jobs were going to be the next ones cut. I don't wish that hellish experience on anybody, and I hope that the dedicated employees and customers of Linden Lab will benefit from additional investment - rather than suffer from purely financial decisions (it's just business, nothing personal!). Very skeptical fingers crossed.
  20. Thanks for the offer Fenrizwolf, that's sweet! Your place is pretty, and I'm sure a new renter will be along soon!
  21. Thanks Marianne. Yeah, the Fruit Islands are pretty, but the price and the strict covenant are two swords I won't swallow. And Fruit Islands have those strange "waterfall emitting from a butte" things that look more theme park than beach or island. :-)
  22. Aloha all. I need to vent. Have you ever had people break into your home? You know that sense of privacy violation, and your sudden vigilence and tension? What did they touch? What did they photograph? What did they plant? Have you ever had someone corner you, only to have people watch the abuse rather than do anything to help? And what if there’s no video, no evidence? Well, it just never happened then, did it? It was probably all in your imagination, and you have some growing up to do, right? I wrote previously about two men that entered my SL home uninvited and refused to go. The home was a rental and had no way to ban people, so I was left with having to report and block. That’s the official SL process, one that does nothing to stop the abuse while it’s happening; you’re left having to accept the abuse in hope that maybe, possibly it will stop several days later. There is no way in SL to fight back, to defend yourself; your only real option is to leave. That means logging out of SL immediately, or to immediately find and move into a new, safer home. Neither option prevents the abuser from continuing such behaviors with others, that same day or maybe forever. You just have to accept and hope that reporting and blocking will do “something.” To be fair, there are two sides to every story. Maybe I had it coming, right? Maybe it was just cyber-bullying and I should forget about it in the real world, right? I moved from that rental into a Linden home, and a stalker-like neighbor was regularly camming into my home - often enough that he eventually spoke proudly about doing so, and about seeing me without clothes on. I wondered whether I was appearing in a collection of voyeuristic photos. Again I reported the intruder, with the hope that someday the behavior might stop. At that time I was a new home owner and didn’t yet know about the “avatars on other parcels can see and chat with avatars on this parcel” tick box, which should prevent others from camming into our homes. So I moved away. To my knowledge the voyeur didn’t follow. Things in my new home have been going well. Then came last night: two girlfriends and I were on our boat, anchored in the middle of the Blake Sea, chatting offline. Yes, we’re in different rooms in the same RL home and sharing the same VPN; meeting in SL is our pandemic substitute for going out. It was fun until an intruder boarded our SL boat and was asked to leave but did not. Then he started lying about one of us having invited him, and to one of us chatting with him on Skype. It struck me that a boat is a lot like a rental home, in that there is no way to prevent other avatars from intruding and disrupting. The invasion, disruption, and disrespect were infuriating and triggered us all to say things we wouldn’t normally. It was painful to recognize that there was nothing we could do to stop the behavior. Nothing. Like in a rental home, our only choice was to leave. We all reported and blocked him, but it was painful to know that the intruder maybe / probably continued the bad behavior with others. For anyone else who has been sexually abused in RL, you know that reporting is a painful process that often leads nowhere or even to further harassment, and it’s a shame to experience that same dead-end road in SL too. Maybe the wonderful creative freedom and virtual escape from pandemic self-quarantine that we experience in SL comes at a price: having to acknowledge that the same abusive behaviors that are illegal in RL exist in SL too, but in SL they are something that we simply have to put up with. Take it or move away. There’s no easy answer to this in either RL or SL, which is why these behaviors persist. Maybe rich people in RL could buy a remote island and set up a new life. Maybe rich people in SL could buy a remote island region and set up a new life. The rest of us? We just have to take it. I don’t want to hear sh*t like “she must have had it coming,” or “virtual bullying isn’t real bullying.” If those thoughts come into your mind, get some d*mn education. I’ve met some really nice people in SL. Artists, educators, readers, writers. But a quick glance at all the ‘roid rage male and sexual object female avatar and clothing options makes it seem like SL is overrun by hormonal teenage bullies, frustrated old men going through male menopause, and abusive online trolls. You can spend all your time treading carefully in SL to avoid all that, only to have it come find you. Over and over. Maybe the SL experience I want isn’t one that you want, but nobody’s experience should involve harassment. This has me pondering whether to leave SL. Or maybe to save up, buy a remote island region sanctuary, set up ban lines, and never leave it for interactions with the rest of SL. But then what’s the point? I could draw a pretty picture for a lot less cash. And Linden Research has just been sold, and we all know what that means: new owners will jettison LL staff, will set up ways to profit off of user data, and will offer invasive new “features” marketed as great leaps forward. SL’s future is less clear, but what is clear is that the new focus will be stronger on profit than on user experience. Seems like a good time to *not* renew my premium membership. Thanks for listening.
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