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Ren Toxx

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  1. I am the absentee. Or was it the absynthe? đŸ€”
  2. “Give me your WhatsApp, your Facebook and your Instagram”. Yeah, that’ll never fly... ... unless you’re Arnold Schwarzenegger. In which case, it better does.
  3. One of these days we’re gonna have to settle on E.V.E.R.Y.O.N.E. Might be easier to remember, if not type.
  4. “How did you get THAT tall? Oh, wait, nvm... hover height up the ying-yang. Yay!” Then a week later, after discovering Camera Controls... “How did you get THAT tall?”
  5. I’m homeless in SL, and I keep forgetting what clothes I did/didn’t buy, so it’ll be #3 for me.
  6. Remember the French saying, “vive la diffĂ©rence”. Look for variety, don’t limit yourself to those who seem a perfect match based on trite ‘likes & dislikes’ lists or banal similitudes of age, gender, race, etc. Sure, it’s good to have some common interests and views to share; but if you take that too far, only seeking amongst those who most reflect you, you’re not looking for friends, you’re looking for mirrors. If you think you don’t do the above, ask yourself if you let time pass and don’t tend to quickly discard those who seem reserved, taking their time to open up and accept friendship. Because if you do that, you’re still in a way looking for “yes” people—those who’ll immediately want what you want, the moment you want it, and they better not dare hesitate! Reserved doesn’t mean unfriendly or with no potential to eventually become an excellent friend; also, if you want it fast, are you concerned with making actual friends, or just with breaking some sort of record? In fact, don’t even offer friendship verbally, let alone the actual SL request, at first. Real friendship is something that happens on its own, organically. The list is to easily find those you’d like to contact again—and those who would like you to contact them again, which isn’t everyone, any time. Some people are only up to chat & socializing when at the typical hangouts you may have found them at; but they may need their ‘me’ times, just like you do. And in another way, adding to the list is like putting a ‘badge’ to it
 if you fret too much about when can you send it, or when will the other accept it, you’re more concerned about the ‘badge’ than the actual friendship; and so you’re still doing it wrong. There’s even some (usually new players) that, perhaps unconsciously, send it up & front so that they can say, “now that we’re friends, we must talk, we must do things together, we must
” Well, if you have to push it with ‘musts’, you’re still doing it wrong: if it doesn’t work on its own, it doesn’t work. Don’t deceive yourself that it does. Foster actual friendship, let the ‘badge’ be the last step, when everything that matters is already accomplished.
  7. Sort of, at least in some viewers. Firestorm lets you reject requests automatically, with a message—which maybe you could leave empty, or perhaps write something very neutral like “this user has disabled requests and prefers to make friends organically”. Some people understand & accept it. Others don’t, but whoever won’t talk to me unless I add them, that’s actually to my benefit: they save me the effort to discern the ones I’d never add—or even talk to.
  8. ... because, in many cases (and, in some, quite purposely), it is designed to make you feel bad—and so, to avoid it, you will say ’yes’ without wanting, or being yet convinced it’ll result in a good friendship. Fact is, they already got you in their list, and further down the road some form of melodramatic “hey, I thought we were friends” will ensue, as a continuation of the same strategy. Normally I just let it go over my head and never ‘rubber-stamp’ anything until an actual friendship has grown. But in cases where I feel the other is getting cute with the “you don’t like having friends?” insinuations for it not to be a calculated tactic, I start hitting back by throwing around the word ’honesty’ like there’s no tomorrow: “I want honest friends...”, “Honest people accept others like they are, including their reluctance to call it a friendship before there’s one...”, “Honest people don’t use tactics...”, etc. It often does the trick—almost invariably I never hear from them again, which wasn’t quite the point, but of course it meant they went for others who would fall to social pressuring tactics. So, rather than wondering how ‘bad’ it makes you look (and therefore feel) by standing your ground when it comes to making friends organically, just ask yourself if you wish to be vulnerable to manipulation. In other words, put things in their right perspective 😉
  9. Showcasing a friends’ pretty apron dress... â˜ș
  10. If it was that many IMs, there might have been something about your avatar even if you didn’t see it—SL can act fun that way. It’s up to you if you want to take the trouble to fix it when you’re just shopping and don’t particularly care to look good. I know I don’t, sometimes I slap in a random saved outfit, sometimes a totally invisible avatar (to minimize lag to everyone, including myself), and sometimes I’ve worn demos. Like you, I don’t fuss too much just for a quick visit to a store; but neither do I about such IMs; I’d just ignore them or send a polite “thanks”, assuming them to be in kindness.
  11. The hangouts I visit, like London City, have all sorts, including completely non-human avatars. Thing is, whilst I too am very tall and several guys do comment on it, it’s always in good fun, like even tall ones saying I make ’em feel short, and one—a friend—being wary of ever inviting me to dance, arguing I’d either hypnotize or choke him with my bews (which happen to be exactly at his eye level), depending how close the dance. All in good fun indeed. If there’s any who wouldn’t talk to me because of my height (or, for that matter, my feistiness), that’s just as well, since I wouldn’t want to talk to them either. I don’t, for a fact, care in the slightest about looks, nor do I have any problem with more timid people, as long as they don’t have any problem with me. If they do, well, SL is big, so we needn’t cross paths.
  12. Horny people who are very upfront about it. Makes for a thankfully short exchange, rather than the protracted, immensely time-wasting attempts at convincing you (and sometimes themselves, too) that they care for things like good conversation and even friendship—providing it ends up with pix-a-bonking. Bonus points if they’re noobs who honestly thought that that’s all there is to SL, yet are pleasantly surprised to find otherwise. It makes for a genuine chance to show them the broad possibilities.
  13. Mostly I hang out at London City, occasionally alternating with Ahern. I don’t visit activity sims like sailing or fishing, and when I explore it’s always on my own, so that I don’t have to compromise—I’m too curious about some things, and too indifferent to others. As for shopping, I’m more of the subscribing type, so it’s about sources... groups for the stuff I use (Maitreya & Lelutka), of course, and also some things off Facebook; mainly from the stores themselves... some of the most popular, like Addams & Blueberry, but also from stores with a tradition of release sales and economic fatpacks, like KC Couture for shoes, or sMesh and Hilly Haalan for clothes. What I almost never do is events, I just can’t summon the patience.
  14. It was never my intention to outright bash Orwar’s beliefs. Prod them, poke them, roast them a bit, yes. I believe he’s particularly fond of the whole roasting thing—and I’m always glad to use my blowtorch. But at the end of the day, Luciferians and agnostics usually get along just fine. We don’t kill each other (it just isn’t practical to dispense of so much fun), so don’t worry for him.
  15. Watch out, he might send you all to heaven, along with the tax collectors and street workers.
  16. “Ask not what Linden Lab can do for you—ask what you can do for Linden Lab.” In other words, Abuse Report what you believe is clearly against Second Life Terms Of Service, either hate speech or anything else, and then pay no further attention to it.
  17. ... which is exactly what many of them are counting on. And that, in turn, is why you should stick to your guns. You’ll only get that reaction once, and your Friends list will have less people inclined to manipulate you.
  18. Hey, psst, lil’ secret here... [whispers in your ear] “... hacking is for wannabes. We’re far more likely to befriend your new wives and tell them you have performance issues. And not just with your viewer â˜ș”
  19. Swear to God, I read “... only usa holes are left” and was thinking all kinds of ’murican kinky...
  20. I was friendly once. Scared the sh*t out of my friends.
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