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I am the tactician of my party.
Ren Toxx replied to Gopi Passiflora's topic in General Discussion Forum
I am the absentee. Or was it the absynthe? đ€ -
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If people did in real life as they do in Second Life ...
Ren Toxx replied to Orwar's topic in General Discussion Forum
âGive me your WhatsApp, your Facebook and your Instagramâ. Yeah, thatâll never fly... ... unless youâre Arnold Schwarzenegger. In which case, it better does. -
One of these days weâre gonna have to settle on E.V.E.R.Y.O.N.E. Might be easier to remember, if not type.
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If Noob You could see you now...
Ren Toxx replied to Eddy Vortex's topic in General Discussion Forum
âHow did you get THAT tall? Oh, wait, nvm... hover height up the ying-yang. Yay!â Then a week later, after discovering Camera Controls... âHow did you get THAT tall?â -
Iâm homeless in SL, and I keep forgetting what clothes I did/didnât buy, so itâll be #3 for me.
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Remember the French saying, âvive la diffĂ©renceâ. Look for variety, donât limit yourself to those who seem a perfect match based on trite âlikes & dislikesâ lists or banal similitudes of age, gender, race, etc. Sure, itâs good to have some common interests and views to share; but if you take that too far, only seeking amongst those who most reflect you, youâre not looking for friends, youâre looking for mirrors. If you think you donât do the above, ask yourself if you let time pass and donât tend to quickly discard those who seem reserved, taking their time to open up and accept friendship. Because if you do that, youâre still in a way looking for âyesâ peopleâthose whoâll immediately want what you want, the moment you want it, and they better not dare hesitate! Reserved doesnât mean unfriendly or with no potential to eventually become an excellent friend; also, if you want it fast, are you concerned with making actual friends, or just with breaking some sort of record? In fact, donât even offer friendship verbally, let alone the actual SL request, at first. Real friendship is something that happens on its own, organically. The list is to easily find those youâd like to contact againâand those who would like you to contact them again, which isnât everyone, any time. Some people are only up to chat & socializing when at the typical hangouts you may have found them at; but they may need their âmeâ times, just like you do. And in another way, adding to the list is like putting a âbadgeâ to it⊠if you fret too much about when can you send it, or when will the other accept it, youâre more concerned about the âbadgeâ than the actual friendship; and so youâre still doing it wrong. Thereâs even some (usually new players) that, perhaps unconsciously, send it up & front so that they can say, ânow that weâre friends, we must talk, we must do things together, we mustâŠâ Well, if you have to push it with âmustsâ, youâre still doing it wrong: if it doesnât work on its own, it doesnât work. Donât deceive yourself that it does. Foster actual friendship, let the âbadgeâ be the last step, when everything that matters is already accomplished.
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Sort of, at least in some viewers. Firestorm lets you reject requests automatically, with a messageâwhich maybe you could leave empty, or perhaps write something very neutral like âthis user has disabled requests and prefers to make friends organicallyâ. Some people understand & accept it. Others donât, but whoever wonât talk to me unless I add them, thatâs actually to my benefit: they save me the effort to discern the ones Iâd never addâor even talk to.
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Yes.
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... because, in many cases (and, in some, quite purposely), it is designed to make you feel badâand so, to avoid it, you will say âyesâ without wanting, or being yet convinced itâll result in a good friendship. Fact is, they already got you in their list, and further down the road some form of melodramatic âhey, I thought we were friendsâ will ensue, as a continuation of the same strategy. Normally I just let it go over my head and never ârubber-stampâ anything until an actual friendship has grown. But in cases where I feel the other is getting cute with the âyou donât like having friends?â insinuations for it not to be a calculated tactic, I start hitting back by throwing around the word âhonestyâ like thereâs no tomorrow: âI want honest friends...â, âHonest people accept others like they are, including their reluctance to call it a friendship before thereâs one...â, âHonest people donât use tactics...â, etc. It often does the trickâalmost invariably I never hear from them again, which wasnât quite the point, but of course it meant they went for others who would fall to social pressuring tactics. So, rather than wondering how âbadâ it makes you look (and therefore feel) by standing your ground when it comes to making friends organically, just ask yourself if you wish to be vulnerable to manipulation. In other words, put things in their right perspective đ
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If it was that many IMs, there might have been something about your avatar even if you didnât see itâSL can act fun that way. Itâs up to you if you want to take the trouble to fix it when youâre just shopping and donât particularly care to look good. I know I donât, sometimes I slap in a random saved outfit, sometimes a totally invisible avatar (to minimize lag to everyone, including myself), and sometimes Iâve worn demos. Like you, I donât fuss too much just for a quick visit to a store; but neither do I about such IMs; Iâd just ignore them or send a polite âthanksâ, assuming them to be in kindness.
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The hangouts I visit, like London City, have all sorts, including completely non-human avatars. Thing is, whilst I too am very tall and several guys do comment on it, itâs always in good fun, like even tall ones saying I make âem feel short, and oneâa friendâbeing wary of ever inviting me to dance, arguing Iâd either hypnotize or choke him with my bews (which happen to be exactly at his eye level), depending how close the dance. All in good fun indeed. If thereâs any who wouldnât talk to me because of my height (or, for that matter, my feistiness), thatâs just as well, since I wouldnât want to talk to them either. I donât, for a fact, care in the slightest about looks, nor do I have any problem with more timid people, as long as they donât have any problem with me. If they do, well, SL is big, so we neednât cross paths.
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The contra peeve thread (Things you ain't mad about.)
Ren Toxx replied to PermaRuthed's topic in General Discussion Forum
Horny people who are very upfront about it. Makes for a thankfully short exchange, rather than the protracted, immensely time-wasting attempts at convincing you (and sometimes themselves, too) that they care for things like good conversation and even friendshipâproviding it ends up with pix-a-bonking. Bonus points if theyâre noobs who honestly thought that thatâs all there is to SL, yet are pleasantly surprised to find otherwise. It makes for a genuine chance to show them the broad possibilities. -
Favorite things, communities and places
Ren Toxx replied to CeleneHighwater's topic in General Discussion Forum
Mostly I hang out at London City, occasionally alternating with Ahern. I donât visit activity sims like sailing or fishing, and when I explore itâs always on my own, so that I donât have to compromiseâIâm too curious about some things, and too indifferent to others. As for shopping, Iâm more of the subscribing type, so itâs about sources... groups for the stuff I use (Maitreya & Lelutka), of course, and also some things off Facebook; mainly from the stores themselves... some of the most popular, like Addams & Blueberry, but also from stores with a tradition of release sales and economic fatpacks, like KC Couture for shoes, or sMesh and Hilly Haalan for clothes. What I almost never do is events, I just canât summon the patience. -
It was never my intention to outright bash Orwarâs beliefs. Prod them, poke them, roast them a bit, yes. I believe heâs particularly fond of the whole roasting thingâand Iâm always glad to use my blowtorch. But at the end of the day, Luciferians and agnostics usually get along just fine. We donât kill each other (it just isnât practical to dispense of so much fun), so donât worry for him.
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Watch out, he might send you all to heaven, along with the tax collectors and street workers.
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What are the most important features of SL to you?
Ren Toxx replied to JetReigns's topic in General Discussion Forum
Teleport, and mute. -
âAsk not what Linden Lab can do for youâask what you can do for Linden Lab.â In other words, Abuse Report what you believe is clearly against Second Life Terms Of Service, either hate speech or anything else, and then pay no further attention to it.
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Friends list - they add you today and delete you tomorrow
Ren Toxx replied to Doc Carling's topic in General Discussion Forum
... which is exactly what many of them are counting on. And that, in turn, is why you should stick to your guns. Youâll only get that reaction once, and your Friends list will have less people inclined to manipulate you. -
Ok, I am man who likes to play in SL. Some former partners have vowed revenge when I divorce them. Lately, every time I log into Firestorm my connection gets bad, it crashes and my system goes to desktop. Can residents attack my connection to Firestorm?
Ren Toxx replied to AugustVonHelson's topic in General Discussion Forum
Hey, psst, lilâ secret here... [whispers in your ear] â... hacking is for wannabes. Weâre far more likely to befriend your new wives and tell them you have performance issues. And not just with your viewer âșïžâ -
Swear to God, I read â... only usa holes are leftâ and was thinking all kinds of âmurican kinky...
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I was friendly once. Scared the sh*t out of my friends.