Dafadilia Wayfarer

It isn't any of my business in either world. People who actually put their nose in the romantic lives of others have way too much time on their hands. They need to find a more productive hobby that doesn't involve sticking their nose where it doesn't belong. Just my take on it...

Days I get to spend in SL are filled with things I cherish and love doing. First and foremost I'm a mother in SL to an adorable zooby toddler. I adopted my daughter in 2016 and never regretted or tired of choosing to do so. Some get bored of SL parenthood, but I've not experienced that. My days are filled with taking care of my daughter and cat, spending time with family and friends, roleplaying, visiting zoos and parks, going out dancing, bike riding, horse back riding, sailing, shopping, exploring, taking photos and blogging. I also have a job and do volunteer work at times. Nothing too exciting, but I enjoy them.

I think Valentine's day is really overrated. I found the best way to spend Valentine's day single is do something that is self care for you. Do something nice for yourself. When I was single I would watch my favorite movie or read a good book, have my favorite snack and a cup of tea. That has always been my self care routine. Why not get a small group together of people you know and all plan a day together of favorite things you all like to do in SL? Hubby and I never really celebrate Valentine's day. He usually has to work. Since we have been together I have always gotten him something Deadpool themed on Valentine's day. We order take out and watch the Deadpool movies. Don't know why, but we always have connected Valentine's day and Deadpool together. Romantic huh? 😆 We like it though and that is all that matters. Although this year he got me a gift that brought me to tears. I'm deaf and have never been able to afford the hearing aid I need. He got me my first hearing aid and that just was everything. I found that really romantic. Just keep in mind that Valentine's day seems to be geared to make singles and couples alike feel bad if you aren't with someone or can't afford the biggest and best of everything for that someone. It is stupidly ridiculous. Don't get me started on the amount of hearts everywhere. Hubby and I call it heart vomit. The sad thing is I used to love the heart shape, but now cannot stand it. Just always be nice to yourself and take time for days of self care. Do things that make you happy whether single or with someone.

After I read this, I noticed she has one tiny sharp claw out on her back paw. It's looming over the dolls shoulder menacingly. Perhaps you're right... 🤣

Bountiful Winter...

The song I chose to be for my husband... The song he always chooses for me...

My tiny girl Maggie hugging one of her dollies. ❤️

My sl twin and I out around Belli with our horses. Twins? Yes. Identical? Not even close! I thought it was hilarious to see her huge black mare compared to my dainty girl. 🤣

I started reading LOTR for the first time ever this time last year about. I never even got through half way since I moved countries and had to get rid of most of my books. I didn't have it in ebook form. Besides the fact it is an intense read especially when in the middle of a large move. Hubby recently found a used copy with this cover for me in a charity shop so I've started from the beginning. I'm excited to be able to get through all three books this time!

I agree with what others have said about seeking help to get some professional feedback because the most you will get here are individual experiences and solutions of what works for different people on the spectrum. For the most part I avoid speaking about this, but I tend to rock back and forth without even realizing it when something upsets me. Or I will become intensely fixated on what has upset me. Unhealthily so. Over the years I've learned two things that work to help me break away from getting stuck in either of these instances. The first and foremost are my dolls. My husband will put one of my dolls in my arms so I can cuddle them. The second is fuzzy blankets. Both help ground me to the moment and break the spell of being trapped inside of my head. I also try to do everything in moderation and when I start to get overly intense or sensitive about anything, I force myself to take a break. These forums are enjoyable for me, but only if I set boundaries for myself. I only take part in areas I know won't upset me. There are areas that can be touchy for me, so I avoid them. I distance myself emotionally from what I read. When I feel myself getting overly emotional, that means it is time to take a break from the forums. I've taken up to almost 9 months of a break before. You just need to find what works for you, but a therapist can really help in finding what works for you. I'm so sorry you are struggling.

Too nice? No. I think this is an average forum community with everything that comes with those communities. Nothing is perfect. From an observer's perspective long before I began to post here and there I've gotten to see both sides. There are many polite, nice and genuinely helpful people here who truly wish to make others feel welcome. A few trolls visit and join the forums to stir the virtual pot. New and old SL members alike come seeking answers to questions. Community members who step in to help those seeking help. There is also a clique that exists here that only accepts certain community members while completely ignoring others. Very much like any other forum I've been part of. Personally I don't see these things as either positive or negative. They are just the average ebb and flow of any forum. LL keeps the forums pretty well moderated so things stay pretty balanced from what I've seen. I think like anything a forum is what a person makes of it. Within moderation I enjoy reading through threads. It is interesting. I enjoy it far more than responding to topics most of the time. Unless I feel I have something to actually add to a conversation. I read and take part in the parts of the forum I'm comfortable with. I ignore the rest for my own sanity and take breaks when I feel I'm getting a tad too involved. So no I don't find the forum members too nice. There is a nice balance to these forums. I think that is so much better than being too nice.

My peeve for now. Although I consider what I'm feeling is a bit more than just peeved. From the outset of Covid my husband and I have done everything to be careful since he is older and I have a compromised immune system. Besides that, it is just the right thing to do to protect others as well. We have social distanced, worn masks and gotten the vaccine when it became available. We have yet to get the booster because both of us were ill over the holidays and just barely starting to feel better. Sorry to be long winded, but just explaining the background. We have been careful. Very careful. My hubby is an essential worker where he tests daily during his shifts. He tested positive for Covid along with several other coworkers. So now we both have Covid. We know all we can do is stay home, quarantine, rest, push fluids and take care of ourselves. I do realize that neither of us will get the full force of it because we were vaccinated thankfully, but we were just so careful. It is frustrating. Sorry for the long rant. Please be safe and take care of yourselves. Stay healthy!

Twins of Rivendell. I was hanging around home in Belli with sl twin Bevin and just took some photos since we do tend to dress alike. Also caught a photo of my munchkin falling asleep. The fantasy side of Belli was the perfect spot to capture some photos.

Twins of Rivendell

I never understood the need to publicly advertise when staying or leaving a public forum. Many have left or taken extended holidays from the forums here without making an entire thread about it. To each their own. If you feel the need to stay, stay. If you feel the need to leave, leave. Perhaps taking a break from the forums is best if seeking feedback is necessary to make that decision for yourself. Always do what is best for you and your well-being. The forum will continue either way.

My babies Maggie and Lorelai playing with snowflake bubbles at home in Bellisseria...

Yes, because alienating a large portion of any community never has negative backlash. I don't see this as a beneficial idea as a premium member. This would actually make me consider dropping both my premium memberships since I don't really care for the idea of making anyone feel left out. In the grand scheme of forums this is a pretty peaceful and helpful one for the most part. All forums get a few trolls or rude individuals. Linden Lab deals with these pretty quickly from what I've seen over the years.

I woke up in pain with a back spasm all along my spinal chord today where I couldn't even get out of bed on my own. I was born with congenital scoliosis among other conditions that cause the muscles and nerves along my spine to "act up". On days like this my hubby helps me without complaint. Always there. Always reassuring and loving. Even though he had to work this evening he made sure he made our afternoon tea and his lunch so we could eat together and make sure I was settled comfortably before he left for work. I'm the one who usually cooks our meals and makes his lunch. Especially on days he works because he does so much already to begin with. I enjoy doing these things. He never complains when I can't though and always takes care of me most lovingly. On days like this I really wish he could just stay home from work and hold me, but I understand he has to work. I'm so thankful for his unconditional love, patience and kindness. He is the most beautiful man I've ever known. ❤️

The Winter Hunt