LyricalBookworm

I have about 7400 items. I try to keep it under six thousand by cleaning it out twice a year. I'm in the process of the second sort out at the moment.

Girl Friend

"Yet words are our tools and we must not be afraid to express the truth we know in the best words we can." I always find this quote comforting from a dearly loved book when I doubt myself when sharing thoughts. Our words are a powerful tool to be used for truth. Always speak your truths as you know them without fear or apology. Our individual expressions are unique and special and a precious gift to share. ❤️💗 What a beautiful topic by the way!

Can we please get back to the discussion and be kind to one another? My family has two homes. One on my sister's residential sim and one in Bellisseria and we love them for different reasons. I love that we will have four seasons at my sister's sim. I love the more fantasy feel to it. I love that I can teleport there and be close to a family member. I love Bellisseria for the community feel. I love that I can bike ride around or take my paddle boat out onto the water. I think there is a market and always will be for both types of living arrangement. I don't see the land barons losing income from Bellisseria. I hope it won't at least because options are a good thing to have. Bellisseria isn't going to appeal to everyone. Some may move out in the future while others move in. I love supporting both. I don't understand a lot about being a land baron. I'm sorry if that is the wrong title since I'm only using the title that was used here. I only know that I enjoy supporting business owners as well as the Lindens too because without either, we wouldn't have the world we do have in Second Life. I realize this is a very naive outlook, but that is all I can contribute on this subject.

I have three alts. All are updated mesh wise. I only use one though. She is my escape when I'm not doing so well and need downtime. The only one on her friend's list is my hubby.

I explored some of the underwater in Bellisseria this evening. It was super fun.

I have a few times. I think the one that hurt the most is when I was sitting at the park with my family and I had a child avi come up and tell me that I was ugly. That never feels good in either world does it? I was full mesh looking as I do now. So really we cannot please everyone either way can we? I did spend a lot of time on my avi making her look as much as the rl me as possible because this is my social platform. I wanted to feel as much like myself as possible. It became important to look like me even with all my imperfections. Like my freckles that I have and my imperfect nose. The fact I'm really petite and look ridiculously fragile. I did this so my interactions with others meant something more to me than looks. I went to all mesh because with the huds it was actually so much simpler than the system avi for me. I don't dress for others, but for myself. Perhaps this is a type of vanity. I really don't know. i judge a person by their personality and actions, not how they look. I try not to judge at all, but I'm human and it happens. I used to role play avidly here in sl until about four years ago. It had turned into a highschool popularity contest I just wasn't willing to keep up with. When I went to all mesh, the medieval attire options were also very limited. Recently though, creators have come up with some gorgeous options I've added to my wardrobe and I may immerse myself in a role play with my husband if we can find one worth immersing in. I am sorry you experienced such blatantly rude behavior from others. I think when others lash out like that they are so miserable inside and seeking attention no matter if it is negative or positive. I don't take that behavior as a type of vanity though because it goes deeper than outward appearance and into the person's psyche itself. There is something there that makes them an unhappy person and no amount of outward beauty will fix that.

My existence, experiences and purpose within Second Life has nothing to do with vanity. It never really has. I joined in 2009 when some health hiccups made it impossible for me to leave my home on a regular basis. I was in my early thirties, finishing up graduate studies to be a professor, etc. That all changed overnight. All of a sudden I could no longer work, attend classes, etc. Second Life gave me the chance to socialize. I'm able to do things here I no longer can in rl like bike ride, take walks, continue to be part of a spiritual community. I even became a mom here which will never happen in real life. It helped me to remain sane and not feel pity for myself. It helps me to remember my blessings instead of the negative all the time. That has nothing to do with vanity. I personally feel it is pretty presumptuous to try to fit the entire sl community in your vanity box. I think you will find most are just living their best sl and finding what makes them happy in this world of infinite possibilities. At least that has been my impression from personal interactions with other residents. Also from the responses in this thread. Nothing is ever really black and white.

I don't use voice for the most part because I'm deaf. I feel that it really isn't my job to appease an insecurity someone may have and if the use of voice is a requirement for friendship, I will decline said friendship. That being said, I've sang in Second Life at informal events one of my spiritual groups hold.

Decided to spend some time at the neighborhood pool today with my tiny bun head Edith. 💕

That is adorable!

You're always very kind to me. Thank you so much for that. Your words brought tears to my eyes and I appreciate them very much. I get so anxious very easily so really. Thank you. *hugs*

I got very bashful and anxious about this so I appreciate your kind response. Thank you.

OH my gosh. I always seem to ask these types of questions. I'm going to go hide now until I stop blushing. I'm so sorry! Eek. 😳 I honestly didn't realize it was something of that nature. I do sincerely apologize. All I can do at this point. 🙄 Pretty much all I will be saying further.

Now I'm curious. What is an HJ?

Edith and I spent some time out in our backyard playing in the pool today. I will apologize up front because I realize I tend to share a lot of photos of my daughter and entire family. I forget that I may share too much so please forgive this fault of mine. My daughter and family mean the world to me. ☺️

Yes I know, which is what I said I would do a bit unclearly perhaps in my post.

One of my favorite holidays is Halloween. My search for our costumes begin the day after Halloween for the next year. I bought my costume yesterday. Hubby and daughter's costumes will soon follow! I'm not a fanatic or anything. Really.... Not all people are creators which is one problem I see with a hunt because it limits who can actually take part in the gifting side of things. I am not a creator so wouldn't take part in a hunt, but if a traditional trick or treat expedition were set up, our security orb would be turned off for the day and lots of bowls of candy would be set out for people to come and get as well as a tons of decorations would be up. Like perhaps set up a list of participating houses that wish to set out treats for others or something. I would simply love to take our daughter trick or treating and to share a little bit of spooky fun with the community. I know it might sound silly to most since she is a Zooby animesh little one, but there it is. Just my thoughts. 😊

The Moles and Lindens are pure awesome sauce. That's all I wished to say. 😊

My hubby and I keep security orbs in both our home in Bellisseria and the home we keep on my sister's residential sim. It has nothing to do with having some type of silly power trip over another resident and everything to do with not having to worry about strangers intruding into our space we pay for. I'm very shy, very soft spoken and I get strong anxiety around others I don't know even in second life to the point of being physically ill among other things. I come to sl to relax, not to get stressed out because others don't feel the need to respect the privacy of others. Especially when I put real life money into second life. In both homes we follow the rules for setting up security orbs and they remain on. Ban lines are not allowed in either place my family resides. I'm glad they're not. i certainly love to spend time with my family and friends who always have access to our homes. New trusted friends most certainly get added and are also most welcome. The point is, I focus my energy and time on people who deserve it, not someone who feels they have a right to wander into my personal space without an invitation. Second Life is a virtual world where the residents can make their own reality as long as they are following the TOS. It isn't a platform for socialization alone. For some it isn't for socialization at all, but building, creating, shopping, decorating and the list goes on. It's a platform for so much more than that. If someone's enjoyment of sl is being ruined because they're not allowed to trespass into private homes and land, perhaps it's time to find a new hobby?

Words we type have no tone. That makes it so easy for things to be interpreted so differently than how they are intended. That is why it is so important to use our words wisely, but for also others to realize they may be interpreting a tone that isn't even there. Words are powerful. I don't know Beth or Sylvia personally. Only from what I've seen in these forums. They are both honest and blunt. I personally admire that because it is so much easier to understand since they say exactly what they mean. They don't try to placate others. They shouldn't have to when someone is being insulting towards them. Neither of them are the type of person to go after someone for expressing a handicap they have or someone who is honestly distraught over something. I know because I've expressed handicaps such as being deaf once or twice in passing, and both have been nothing but kind to me here in the forums. I do apologize to both of them because they certainly don't need me to speak up for them because they most certainly can do it for themselves. I profusely apologize for that. I'm just asking to please realize that words can be taken in a manner they aren't even intended. No malice is intended so I apologize if what I say comes across as such.

Sailing with my hubby through Bellisseria. Hope everyone is having a lovely day. 😊💕

What I don't understand is the persistent need for telling others they don't work, don't have a job or are lazy because they've been able to attain a home while the ones who do not are forever at their job working long hours and so on. What a huge and rather rude assumption. Perhaps take a step back and realize Earth is a big planet and the community of SL consists of people from all over the world. Different time zones and different types of jobs. Some even do work from home. I work from home so it does happen. The need to belittle others in this manner is mind boggling to me just because they've been fortunate to get a home. Beth even said she considered herself lucky to of gotten a home. She was humble and to the point. Plus she made me snarf on water when I read, "I, too, can terraform and theme a region in a matter of hours... minutes, even (it'd be crap, but whatever)." That was pure awesome sauce! 😂 There is a huge difference between being blunt and being rude. In fact, all over this section of the forums you will find continuous responses of how people feel so thankful they got a home. I also don't understand the need to constantly attack the Lindens and Moles who are doing a good thing for all of us. It is bringing Lindens, Moles and all of us together as a community. They are doing a wonderful job. They are reading and giving feedback. They are all doing their jobs the right way even through the persistent verbal bashing they get because some don't understand the concept of being patient. The entitled tone from some is what is truly ridiculous. You're wanting a home that will be part of a large community of people so maybe just try to realize we're all on the same side including the Lindens and Moles who are working as fast as they can on a huge project that is going to take time. Try making friends seems to be a logical thing to do since this is the case. it isn't hard to be kind, to show a little patience and be a bit more positive.

Their newer furniture is all nicely made. All mesh. Even our bench on the back porch is from them. 😊

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