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Eileen Fellstein

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  1. I would say by working. Places will want 2 weeks or a month in SL usually. If you are newer, spend the time putting together a decent avatar that is appropriate for the work. Hang out at a place where someone is doing what you are interested in. Who knows, they may even help you get started in some way.
  2. mustangstud wrote: And how is it working out for you? Do u ever plan to meet or is it simply and "online" thing? A better way to put it than my misguided 'fishing' topic that I posted in a huff lol. Thank you. To answer. No, not presently but I have in the past. I found it quite fullfilling, truthfully. It's the only type of relationship I'm really open to right now. Sometimes that can be discouraging and frustrating as it does feel like I am being 'fished for' by those wanting to meet someone in this world and pull them out of it. Particularly when you tell someone that up front and after few days, it's not enough for them and they start pushing for more.
  3. Dresden Ceriano wrote: It's not about lag... it's about rules. What good does it do to have a list of rules for your sim if you can't enforce them? The OP was breaking a rule and was told to stop and that, if they didn't they'd be banned... where's the drama in that? The drama started when the OP decided to come here and create it by accusing the sim owner of lying and threatening them, at which point the sim owner banned them because he didn't want them causing any more needless, foolish drama. I'd have done the same thing... in fact, I'd consider that "going with the flow" and letting one person break the rules while still insisting that others adhere to them, stands a better chance of creating drama than not. Which means your stance actually supports the creation of drama, regardless of whether or not that was your intent. ...Dres (Btw, this is one of the most lame discussions that I've gotten into in a long time. I have no idea why I even bothered... but, oh well.) Aw dont worry. People can agree to disagree. I've always liked the things you have had to say on the forums. I hope my erspective can be a bit unique for some. I have worked in places in SL where I honestly felt the rules were intentionally BS just for the sake of being BS and for the sake of making drama. Unfortunatelly, some of those types of rules have become popular with no basis whatsoever in reality and are nothing more than a person's way of harrassing other's via the money they dished out to lease a bit of cyberspace (noting that the actual owner of anything here is actually Linden Labs solely. The only place you get an owner title is by buying the group chat which is 100 L$ aka 33 cents or whatever it is) A erson trying to enjoy SL sees many amazing creative things to buy for their avatar then is often harrassed when they try to use them, sometimes even on the very sim they bought them on. I fail to understand how a large avi was hurting the guy. To me, he was being the jerk and that is what there should be rules against when you open your sim and list it in public listings. Lindens are just too damn lazy to take responsibilty for it.
  4. I agree it's sneaky to not just ask you up front if you wanted to play that way, so trying to fool you was insecure and manipulative. People in an equal relationship sometimes do that for their own fun and entertainment. There is nothing wrong with it. I guess for some people it's not really dominance unless they can feel like they are getting something over on you. As far as the bracelet it'self just familiarize yourself with the scripting enough to know how to get out of it. And you can always just exit SL if something gets too stupid. Usually though it's a matter of turning off RLV scripting and relogging to reset the veiwer.
  5. Sephina Frostbite wrote: Eileen Fellstein wrote: lol, I am looking at this and wondering if in this case the alt actually wasn't an alt but a friend or someone she knew playing her alt for her. That or she is terrific at erotic RP add drama You could be right but I also was seeing some one a few years ago who made an alt to see if I was cheating or would cheat. His alt was fun, charismatic and amazing to be around. When he found out I was a faithful girl he confessed at what he did. I understood why he did it. There was another woman who was feeding him lies. However I missed his alt very much and sad he couldn't be that person. Im grateful we were friends until he quit sl. Wait... He couldn't be that person yet he was that person? That so set's up the 'honey you should log yur alt for a while' thing lol
  6. Turn off pute Go to local 7-11 Meet someone if that don't work, buy soap, it's in isle 3 In the meantime, c;mon in the water, it's fine! :D
  7. lol, I am looking at this and wondering if in this case the alt actually wasn't an alt but a friend or someone she knew playing her alt for her. That or she is terrific at erotic RP add drama
  8. Carl Thibodeaux wrote: Not trying to be racist here, but lately been seeing people refering to each other, aswell as groups/profiles with the N word in them. I mean, sure people use it to talk to one another, but when is it going too far? Is their a line it has to cross before you can report it? Looks like the world of warcraft riff-raff made it to SL. any use of that word is too far for me and the person will just be blocked. You can't stop them, but yea, you can turn it off on your own end.
  9. Dresden Ceriano wrote: It was a freebie place... which makes your whole argument a bit feeble. ...Dres Hehe, not the whole argument. Just the part about wanting their money. My point is SL is for fun. I've hosted and DJ'd with club authority a lot and had huge and/or silly avatars come in. It's so not worth the drama to make a big deal about it and much much better (and funner for everyone) if you just go with the flow and groove on whatever it is they are trying to show off. and really. the 5th different dance chim you have out is more likely the culprit on lag issues than anything someone's avatar is wearing. After all, everything that is scripted is querrying everyone that is there.
  10. Personally I think you were absolutely right and have not a single thing to appologize for, nor did you to begin with. Most of the sims I have been on, the sim owner is way more guilty of causing lag than anything the guests are doing. And yes, I know what the tos stance is in sim ownership and all but I am of the opinion that is entirely bogus also and needs to be changed where owners open up the sim and are asking people to come spend their time and money there. I think there is a responsibility that should go along with that to be reasonable to people and have rules reasonable to the sim rating and theme.
  11. PudgyPaddy wrote: I think they love teasing me. Yup It's the old quarter every day or a dollar once choice. Keep taking the quarters. Enjoy the show!
  12. I need to look for that Rando, it sounds so cool Early this morning I went out for a ride along the linden roads near my home on mainland and I saw that there are some reall nice things. Not sure how new they are but it was just neat to see and I hope it's some inclination of more things to come. The Highlight was finding a zoo! What a fantastic piece of work with animated animals and sea life. The whole thing was just brilliant. I TP'd a couple friends and we spent a good 2 hours there just checking everything out and having a great time. (The penguins need a bit less thorazine is my only criticism. Hopefully animations for them are on someone's to do list) but all in all some really great stuff everywhere I went. It's so nice to be able to ride along and have several options of things to check out that are not obstructed by ban lines. Actually travelling around by car or horseback (I use my horse since the sim crossings still need some serious fixing) really adds to the flavor of the SL world for me. Honestly If I could travel by conventional means to anywhere in SL, I would do that 99% of the time, only accepting a TP if I really had to be there 'right now'. Shame this post is stuck down here in this forum that few people bother to look at Edit: logged in and am now at East River mentioned in Rando's post above. This is fab! Great little town. Just really nice. I'm curious. what does it mean by 'free town'? Surely that doesn't mean any newcomers can have a free house or apartment with rez permissions, does it? Is it simply a way of saying 'feel free to hang out'?
  13. kristin34 wrote: Well I don't think people are crazy if they chose to do that. It's their choice but u must be careful if the two are on two different planes of how they want the relationship. I met someone who was very nice and married in sl. I was more into the role play but my prtner wanted to take it to rl. I didn't and broke it off because the person was a bit obsessed. I'm still dealing with this same person. I had to change my house because he would not leave, when I blocked him he would stay right outside the house. He would IM me constantly till I muted him. He made other avi's just to contact me . This is still going on, and I totally regret being involved with him. I was ony thinking of sl and keeping things seperate, he wasn't. I also realised that some people in sl are looking for a way to get a better life. A way to get out of their country where economic situations are not good. I sensed this is what my partner wanted and i didn't want to be used as an escape route. Spot on IMO the part I emboldened in the quote. The 2 people must understand what each expects for it to work well. BTW what you described is stalking. I can understand you may still care for that person on some level but I'd consider a call to a RL authority if they keep it up. AR in SL wouldn't be amiss also. As an aside, more to the original poster I guess or people that responded after, I really dislike that relationships that are SL only or internet only get lumped under the banner of 'RP'. Also that some think they are meaningless, though I understand that can be because of their own experience with people. To me, an RP relationship would be like if I got involved with say ...a pirate sim of some sort and played the role of a wench and was held captive then rescued by some dashing fellow brandishing a rapier while his footwork rivaled the coreography in a broadway pruduction. Oh happy sunsets! But an actual relationship within SL to me contains all the elements a RL one does, including feelings, so I don't consider that RP.
  14. I just want to add that some things are built with sculpies. The actual prim is much larger than the sculpt so if you didn't activate the menu and sit on a ball but rather just clicked the bed, then yes, you would probably be floating in the air above it, because the actual prim that you don't see is a round globe much larger than the bed. But as has been pointed out, there are beds where you can click-lay and may or may not have additional menus. A friend of mine made one and had it on MP for a while very cheap but I've not seen her in some time and forget the name of it
  15. A week is a bit quick I think, lol. Several months (depends what you mean by 'several',several to some is 3 or 4, to me more like 7 or 8-sh or more) may be longer than a just here relationship will even last. Time burns faster here in SL. I personally believe that it's because we are forced to communicate and be interactive more. In RL you can just be chilling together and a smile is sometimes all the affirmation you need from your partner that the connection is still alive and kicking. Through this increased communication, we get to know each other better. Myself, I have had partners here that I felt a stronger bond with than some real life ones, without ever meeting the real life physical indiviual. This makes me remember a guy I met my 1st week. He was getting married and invited me to his wedding. As it happened, I couldn't go but sent a gift. After this, the guy got married to a different girl once a month almost like clockwork. I had a big stack of invitations in my inventory. I think the girls were his alts lol and it was a scam for money, lmao
  16. Hi Dillon. Great to see you dear! yea, it would just be so nice for it to be a non issue wherever you go in SL. Which brings it back to why have more comfortable areas for people. IMO, you can't have too many and having plenty in each maturity level is even better
  17. lol, there is a major difference between one person's 'pet' problem and a whole lot of people having the same problem
  18. Lucretia Brandenburg wrote: I think it depends on where you go, I've met straight male avatars who refuse to hang out with female avatars unless they're voice verified. There are groups that voice verify gender (as if someone can't get a friend to talk on mic for him or her) and a good many people are all but obsessed about RL gender, you have only to look at some of these threads about playing the opposite sex, or wanting a gen-u-wine female or male. There are people who never make mention of their RL genders, they aren't liars, they just never say one way or another, and when friends find out OMG OMG LIAR LIAR and it's a lot of drama. Though I do believe for just hanging out and casual acquantance what gender someone is in RL doesn't really matter. I know a lot of guys with female alts, everyone knows who they are, and treat them sort of like dress up dolls to have fun with. I've known Lesbians with male alts who don't tell their girlfriends they're women in RL, and guys who have been appalled to find out that their SL wives are men in RL. Others don't care and mix it up all the time. One guy I met refused to come over to my place unless I voiced with him, which I thought was kind of vain, since I wasn't inviting him over for sex, I'd decorated my place with his wares and wanted to show him. Well said! I'd just like to add that the T in LGBT is for transgender These are people actually changing or who do not inhabit the same gender body IRL, so stuff like voice verification and web cam, skype, pics, phone calls..really anything along those lines is totally out the window. It means absolutely zero other than for people fishing for RL dates of certain criteria. If it gives them cooties, they crawled out of their own ear and climbed into their... To OP, I know a very nice existing place. We may have actually spoken, lol. Sometimes the amount of activity can be sporadic but the way I see that is it's people that are comfortable enough with themselves not to be focused on the 'how do I come to grips with this' part of it all the time and do other things.
  19. vickiadams wrote: They should define "private parts" Wouldn't the term "private parts" be sufficient. Is there any ambiguity there? I know you werent asking me, but in my experience, yes there is, though it's pretty clear to nearly everyone and most of the people that would challenge it would be doing so just for the sake of splitting hairs. That, unfortunately happens a lot more often than people would imagine. The big deal with this one is nipples. Are those private parts? Anyone with an ounce of sense knows, women need to have them covered in such a place. Guys could go shirtless in an informal setting/event. Still, people will pick it apart and argue. Some might even try to say silly stuff like they thought 'private' was talking about the items in their purse or their holstered weapon. Yes, lol. People do try to pull crap like that.
  20. Yes Marybeth, lol. There's a big difference between someone changing and someone hanging out or going about their business in inappropriate attire for the sim. I worked in a place with such rules for a while>generally the procedure was to give them a couple minutes to correct the situation after a discrete IM. If there was a problem and it was going to take longer, we'd ask them to leave and come back fixed. If they were obviously stalling and playing at some sort of game, they would get ejected or banned. It really was more juvenile BS than dealing with actual juveniles most of the time. That's why I commented that is such a colossal waste of time expecting anyone to police that kind of thing. My experience is that in places without such restrictions, you usually don't see anywhere near the amount of people trying to parade around like that. The rules and restrictions are effectively like putting up a big target and sending out invitations for people to come and take shots at it. I have come to believe that some places on these types of sims have such rules for exacly that reason. It draws people the same way a train wreck does. But yea, for the guidelines. Spell it out clearly. "No sexual activity or items used for such to be displayed, sold. promoted or used in these areas. No exposed genitalia. Please be sure to read and understand any additional rules posted on the sim or given by the sim owners." Incredibly simple.Well, at least until you get the naked one day old man boggling at everything in portuguese
  21. My 4th grandchild is due any day in real life I am part of 'all' and 'everybody' By that wording, number 3 leaves it wide freakin' open, lol. Yes, dear, that is very, very, VERY vague. Its actually nonsense language that belongs nowhere in any type of guide for anything. It assumes behavior and beliefs based solely on an age range that is not even close to being specified.
  22. AnnAdams wrote: In a G rated area is there anything that automatically detects if you are nude - specifically if your "private parts" are uncovered? I don't run around exposing my self, but I was wondering about such things as changing or trying clothes in a place label G but where you are in a private place such as a changing room or a room occupied only by myself. If enforcement of G is by complaint, there should be no problem because no one else would see you. However, if there was some kind of automatic device it could detect your lack of coverage without knowing that you were really in a private area. OMG I sure hope not. It's bad enough some think there should be people engaged in the colosal waste of time it is for someone to police what a person's cartoon charcter is or isnt wearing. But if you're going to be nude, just go somewhere else. Why help people manufacture a squabble that doesnt need to exist? Let them stay there until they are tired of Mickey Mouse mentality and dcide to come join the rest of the human race.
  23. Well, not discounting Griffin's quip, which is quite true (Hi Sexy! ), I do tend to agree for the most part that it is very difficult to go from something you considered a meaningful monogomous relationship to just casual fun stuff. I have tried. I have even succeded to a certain extent with one person for a while. After a fashion, I realized that wasn't what I wanted. It is very hard though when you really do feel strongly for someone and want to be with them to just have them for a short while and then have to deal with maybe seeing them out with someone else and things like that. I think it really depends on the person and what they really want. I am much more okay with a friends + benifits arrangement if it starts out that way and stays that way. Not so much when it starts as exclusive and then they want to change. That's like a demotion and I usually wind up quite upset,.
  24. I have been there. I have been the one here, in SL, that they spent their time with. I insist my relationships stay in SL only, and I told them I never wanted to hear any suggestions of us going RL and hurting their partner. I knew I was the one that was going to be hurt. When the day came, I looked at them and said 'We won. We won the game. We beat SL.'
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