Luna Bliss
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Well I'd have to study The Love Machine more to know what I think of it -- likely I'd like and agree with some aspects while questioning whether others are effective. One thing I do know is that corporations typically treat their employees like slaves and try to milk everything they can from them in the name of profit. So far, what I've read about The Love Machine is that they're trying to give some of the power back to the employees, and so in that regard it's a good thing! Some people can't fathom not working without a boss beating them down from the top. I have to admit, when I was first hired on by a company creating projects for (usually) outside corporations within 2nd life it was very strange to me -- they didn't require that I work certain hours, but instead I was just to come in and work however many hours I wanted each week. It freaked me out, really. My first thought was that they might think I didn't 'do enough' and so they'd think I didn't put in enough hours. I imagine some might feel the opposite and do as little as possible and just rake in the cash. But...by structuring their company in this way what it really did was bring in those who were really inspired....who who did the 'work' because they loved it and not because they only cared about earning money. Enough money was paid so an employee could survive okay, and the rest was up to them. * I believe there are some studies showing that when employees are happy they work harder and actually increase profits for the company. I take your point that it could be true if it really worked then more companies would be doing it, but it's more likely we've gotten so accustomed to structuring the workplace in these abusive ways that we don't know how to change this. -
I like this too: Step 3: Let employees rate you anonymously. Few CEOs have the guts to find out what their employees really think of them. But for a company to succeed, its employees must trust and believe in the direction of the company's leadership. "Normaly a board evaluates a CEO, but if you have enough guts, give the CEO a year, then give a survey." he says. The question he asked his employees was a simple none, with only a Yes or No checkbox: Would you rather get a new CEO or keep the same one? "I'll never forget that one," he says.
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Hmmm...I like this part of The Love Machine: Step 2: Let employees decide who gets bonuses. One year, Rosedale decided to change up how bonuses work. He gave each employee $1,000, and told them to give it to who they thought deserved it. They could give half to their boss, half to their friend—it didn't matter. The only stipulation was that the employee could keep none of it for him or herself. "Two things happen," Rosedale says. " First, a number of people who do heroic work in the trenches, they show up in the top 10—which is empowering. Second and most importantly, think about the culture impact. Management is absolved of performance review and can actually focus on leadership."
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@Nalates Urriahgave me a useful tip. I turn on area search, add a part of the "flower's" name, and walk around. I usually find what I'm looking for fairly quickly, then zoom in, and buy it. But Bagnu...then I couldn't come and whine in the pet peeve thread!!!!!!
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Yes, creating anything you have to fail over and over...it's not easy. And kill your darlings along the way.
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There is also a saying that says if one keeps doing what one always did, one will keep getting what one one always got. Indeed..........SAFE
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Damn straight..We have to have survival on speed dial, like it's second nature or something.. Like the saying goes, Those who fail to remember history are doomed to repeat it. You still got your gun?
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Pet Peeve: I am shopping at this sim and I can't find these purple flowers for sale anywhere!
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I don't think this is exclusive to SL. We all remember people we were fond of from long ago, and like to see them mentioned. It's unfortunate you didn't meet the person being spoken about, but there's no need to trash others who like to fondly remember those they liked in the past.
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She was unusually nice to me. I remember her well. She very much embodied that saying "as the years go by you'll forget what people said...but you'll always remember how they made you feel"
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Yes, that...more tailored compliments not taken to be 'lust' so easily. Where I'm at, too, matters. I'm remembering compliments about my looks at parties now that didn't phase me, whereas the same compliment as I'm sitting on a beach meditating or out shopping would come across far differently.
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Men and women are really not very different at their core. But I guess you don't understand that since you think we are I think men and women, on average, are very different at their core, in both 1st and 2nd life. Men are more aggressive on average. Note I am saying "on average" and this does not apply to every man and woman (believe me, i have known some aggressive women). But this "on average" difference is why we see in the statistics that more men murder their women partners at a rate of 10 to 1. This means that for every man murdered by a spouse there are 10 women murdered by their spouse. And there are no safe houses/shelters for men as they are not needed -- only women need this to protect themselves and their children from aggressive spouses. This aggressiveness plays out in 2nd life where men are more aggressive on average, and think they must be in control (thinking of a recent example where this guy thought he would take over my Heart Menders group one week).
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The part where it comes across as "hypervigilance". Not a healthy state. I did not say I was hypervigilant though.....I said I was alert/aware...this is what I said I was in public: "I always pay attention in public, keep aware if anything doesn't feel quite right. I'm not paranoid, I feel fine, I feel happy -- I'm just more aware or alert in certain places. If a situation feels "off', if people are not acting in a typical manner, this should be paid attention to for safety's sake". Of course there's no need to maintain such awareness in SL as there aren't men who weight 60 pounds more with upper body strength that can do damage, nor are there guns that can harm us. I do stay aware, in SL, of signs that indicate someone has inappropriate boundaries though -- they will be more likely to push in on mine then and cause havoc at a group or disturb my peaceful meditation on the beach.
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Sure focus on the moment but that doesn't have to mean one needs to judge everyone around them. "Oh, there is a low life, creep, loser, misogynist" even before you really know what makes them tick. What part of "stay alert" don't you understand?
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And the best and safest way to handle such a situation is to smile, make a light hearted joke and mention your So is waiting for you. It takes the potential tension out of the situation while at the same time letting them know someone else is close by. It works in both RL and SL. Freaking out only causes aggravation and potentially escalates the situation. A strange man who looks high in a public place, poking me in the arm and ordering me to go with him, possibly with a gun (who knows) will frighten me, always. It's bizarre that you would expect otherwise.
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just have to requote u for emphasis.
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It's great you could have the experience of being a woman in SL, and that you're so willing to change your ways upon finding certain things frequently bother some women...not all men would be willing to do that! 5 gold stars!
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Smile, thank them and move on. Actually, a version of this did happen to me. Only the guy poked me in the arm and said "you, me, let's go!!!!". It freaked me out...I didn't know if he had a gun, was mentally ill, or on drugs, and so could possibly be dangerous and might try to drag me out of the line. His eyes were a little glassy so I'm thinking it was drugs. People do not walk up to an individual person, a complete stranger standing in a long line and tell them they're pretty or poke them and give instructions to follow them. This is odd behavior, even for my podunk city-town. it's wayyy over-friendly. Anyway, aside from that, if people act in ways that ignore the typical boundaries one would expect (this could vary according to country and the location within a country), then it demonstrates they're not so aware of boundaries. Now the person might just be socially inept, but it could also be that since they don't understand appropriate boundaries between self and others, or boundaries specific to their location, that they would not understand that they pushed in on yours. That means danger -- they will take what is not theirs because in their eyes there is no 'you' . I always pay attention in public, keep aware if anything doesn't feel quite right. I'm not paranoid, I feel fine, I feel happy -- I'm just more aware or alert in certain places. If a situation feels "off', if people are not acting in a typical manner, this should be paid attention to for safety's sake. It could be, Arielle, that only a woman would understand this.
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What if you were, say, standing in a customer service line....many people waiting to get their issue solved...and a man you didn't know walked up to you in the line and said "you look so pretty" ? Clearly, we have to include context for this issue -- it can't be absolutely wrong or right in all cases.
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A man playing a woman is sometimes creepy, sometimes not. No black & white to this -- we'd have to consider context.
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They may not be thinking they are seeking it but they are not there by mistake. They just need to be shown that it is the spiritual solution they seek, not the quickie they think they need. Well I'm going to continue on helping others learn how to sing mantras or meditate, and right-click eject -- someone else can save them. LOL Arielle, are you having fun yet?
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We can rely on past experience but at the same time start learning to respond to the situation, not react to the emotion that might have been triggered. Two different things. Arielle, past experience enables us to see repeating signs that something is likely to occur when we see said signs in action. This does not necessarily mean anyone was triggered -- rather it's a sign they have a brain. And even if they were 'triggered' it doesn't mean they should not pay attention to reality unfolding as they saw it unfold in the past.
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