Luna Bliss

You must really hate me, Persephone..... 😂

Home made! Most people buy their rat poison in stores. There are sooo many "different" people in SL who just need to relax and eat some pie. /me eats salad as we speak (for real) and pines for pie..

What might you like on your sandwich, Paul. I have special home made ingredients I utilize for special friends.

OMG human avatar discrimination! I'm contacting the authorities!

Yeah, I suppose it can be enlightening. Yes...very freeing to experience that you don't have to exist in the way you were conditioned by society/parents. Very liberating not be stuck in a box and to be able to choose your life instead of react to the past. It's the same for women who learn they can be more assertive and/or in control.

It's quite a shock to move from the position that most men experience in the world -- one of 'I have to be strong and in control' or 'I have to be the assertive one' to the position that women more often assume. I remember us talking about this @Gopi Passiflora some months ago when you first noticed this difference.

You don't think he should hang out in those places where he will feel more emotional to get a better sense of what a woman feels rather then thinks? I'm not making a distinction between groups that would facilitate thinking over feeling. I'm suggesting it might be beneficial if he moved on from that 4chan group, Board whatever it's called. So basically groups that would emphasize the sensitivity and empathy over the vulnerability inherent (for women) in a 4-chan group.

Agree. I totally don't think it's good to accept abuse

Women, on average, are more vulnerable out in the world, in any world. They are also more sensitive and have more empathy on average. It makes sense that if you're trying to understand a woman's perspective you'd visit the places where you're more likely experience what this feels like to greater degree. Hence your choices so far. I think it would be beneficial to complete your desire for this understanding via going to more positive places now and participating as a woman. Some of the therapy groups in SL, for example. Or various other types of groups that primarily consist of women.

I think it's admirable that you want to accept people more who are different from yourself. Sometimes though, people we most have trouble accepting are those who remind us of something we don't like in ourselves. So awareness is key -- thinking about why we're not accepting another. Once we know if the nonacceptance is there because we're similar, and that it's something we need to understand within ourselves, the acceptance flows from that.

I have a Masters degree in YouTube!

Robber what did you DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;0

1. I agree that getting extremely upset because someone is not "just like me" doesn't exhibit a sound ethical stance. 2. However we all have our ethics, even if not consciously known (a determination of what is right or wrong). I do try to distinguish between the two when I find myself feeling nonacceptance of another so that I don't react from the number 1 stance.

I pray frequently.

Irony, well met! Besides, I understand it perfectly. I do it too, but way more obviously. If you understand Gopi's behavior then why would you accuse him of just trying to rile things up? He's exploring, wanting a discussion.

Further evidence that threads like these are made just to rile the forums up, like I was saying. I suspect you don't have the type of personality that explores other mindsets easily. But that's no excuse to accuse someone of egregious actions (those being...simply wanting to rile the forums up without any sort of sincerity). Really, Paul, it's not a good thing to trash people you simply don't understand.

From Gopi's thoughts over many threads, I think he actually embodies more of a female mindset (whatever that might mean to him) and so feels/reacts differently from that persona. This is actually one of the realities (and fun aspects) of playing differing roles here -- the opportunity to explore different mindsets.

Look, can we get back on topic? The topic being a discussion on whether we think there's a good option for decent help inworld for the OP, taking into account what types of modalities would be most helpful to him and whether they're even available in a virtual world. It's been an interesting discussion until "let's get Luna" came into play. I did neglect to mention that there are a couple of good online sources for help where you can meet with therapists via Zoom and the like. They're accredited, often cheaper AND sometimes insurance even pays for them. Betterhelp.com comes to mind. https://www.betterhelp.com/ Since they are more embedded online it could be some of the therapists there understand virtual relationships better than a total 'brick and mortar' therapist would. You can actually request a therapist that does understand and focus on your particular issue @ Better Help and at another accredited online place whose name escapes me atm. Found the other one: https://www.talkspace.com/online-therapy/ I'm sure there's more, and many therapists will meet online via Zoom or their app -- this is an amazing development because now we can choose from all over the world (especially handy for me living in this podunk place with less choice).

No, I did not. Again, you are making things up (actually putting words in my mouth this time). This is pretty awful Forum behavior, I wish you could find it in yourself to stop. I said, directly quoting myself here: The problem here, Love, is your assuming that a psychoanalyst is not also trained in psychotherapy.

Persephone, give me a break. The OP is wants to know if there's a good therapist available inworld. How can he ascertain this without understanding what a good therapist actually is via their methods and attitudes? Hence our detailed discussion with input from many perspectives attempting to describe what that looks like, pros and cons. I think you're upset because you assumed I was baiting Love and so you posted your fun baiting pic, and didn't realize I was actually trying to further the discussion so the OP could make the best choice.

No, it's not. People describing what they like/dislike about various forms of therapy can be valuable input for the OP as he decides what kind of therapy would be best for hm.

I see this as the best option. I've seen very good advice given in some of these support groups in SL. Of course like with any advice given by anyone (be it therapist, friend, or in a group) one should examine it, test it, and make sure it works for them...not accept the advice blindly.

Let me go into this a little deeper, citing my RL experience, and how a therapists actual beliefs and bias can affect a client negatively. When I began my first relationship with a woman I went to this certified (and respected in the community) Psychologist with many years experience in an attempt to address some of the issues. I discovered she was a severe homophobe and believed gay people were ill, and that categorizing them as ill should never have been removed from the DSMV (the manual used by therapists for diagnosis) as it had been in more recent years. Do you think she would have helped me develop a healthy attitude toward gayness and my relationship even though she "took my feelings seriously by virtue of it affecting me"? No, her thrust would be too get me out of a place where she thought I was exhibiting pathology (illness) via being in that relationship. She'd consider it her duty as a therapist who tries to heal. Likewise, with those who believe virtual relationships are not real they would believe one should not be in such a relationship and would not try to enable their client to exist in a healthy virtual relationship. How could they when they don't believe a virtual relationship is healthy?

The stalker wins when we don't take the victims claims seriously and even blame them for the abuse.