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    And on the other end of the spectrum we have the bad boys and the problems that can be had from them: https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a32314885/dating-bad-boys/
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    You can create additional folders to help with organizing outfits with Cool and Black Dragon viewers. The SL and FS viewers no longer have that ability.
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    For me the great things about SL and LL is that they opensourced the viewer resulting in better third party viewers which I much prefer over the official one and another reason being that the opensourcing allowed for the opensimulator server code development, resulting in me being able to have my own self hosted grid at home. That was important for me back in 2009 as I was in a rural area with internet speeds barely better then dial up. As SL itself seemed pretty chaotic and overwhelming back then, I stayed mostly in the more laid back Opensim grids for a few years but after 2015 started to make more trips to the SL big city to augment some of the activities that aren't so prevalent in Opensim.
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    Do the women then discuss their own responsibility in not in raising their sons in an appropriate way? I think in many cases woman see men who are too emotional as being creepy so though they might like to see other men as having those qualities, they aren't willing to bring up their own children in that way.
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    Gopi's OP: sometimes I complain about receiving a lot of IMs from strangers when I'm playing as a woman avatar. I've called the men who IMed me "creeps" even for something as basic as a "hi" and "hru". What is the point of this post? I dunno. I just wanted to reflect on my "hypocrisy" of calling people (men) "creeps" i guess. The topic is about Gopi's hypocrisy in calling men "creeps" when he is going about as a female avatar. Men's issues of being called so is exactly what the thread is about.
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    No because that would be outside of the context of this SL thread. Just pointing out the logical conclusion of the stats show that it is where the greatest propensity for issues lies according to the stats Luna is referring to. I'll leave it to you to determine how that plays out with partner selection inworld.
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    Not blaming women but narrowing the stats down to where the greatest potential for problems lies.
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    Considering the stats, it would appear women are prone to a selection error as regards their male partner. One thing I should point out too that as per the stats, many women are killed by their ex-partner more so than their current partner. So it is not dating situations or walking alone that is the problem but meeting up with an ex.
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    You are the first ever to describe me as creepy. Thank you!. Let me know when you deal with your trust issues and meanwhile I will try to be as sensitive as the example you set.
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    Ok but did you read towards the bottom where the ability to differentiate between trustworthy and untrustworthy people was worse then if they had just flipped a coin? In this experiment, participants did slightly worse than if they’d flipped a coin. Considering that on average we are more blind to ourselves then others. it would not be a stretch to consider we do worse on ourselves then the 59.4%
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    Did you read this part? On top of these factors, it’s believed that creepy people don’t have insight into their own creepiness. Any case, good find. Well worth reading the whole article. for yourself.
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    And I disagree with the : The least creepy profession? Meteorologist. Aside from the fact that they are so often wrong, there are those who have an agenda to turn any forecasted weather event into a sign of the global warming apocalypse!
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    I'll point it out the next time you do. I'm sure it won't be long.
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    In a virtual world with many non conforming genders, define RL males.
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    I've seen it implied, even by you on multiple occasions and perhaps the reason you are defending it so much?
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    Yes I've been seeing the same that way in others, both male and female, asking if it was ok to come closer. It is not something I'd have a problem with normally though have run into the situation where I was being IM'ed by different people and the one I was interested in cooled off when another IM'er stood beside me. Since then I've been a little more careful about standing too close to others if I wasn't going any further with them.
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    Well I don't approach women other then to compliment them but on the very rare occasions I felt somewhat creeped by a male, I simply stopped conversing with them and poofed elsewhere. Fright was not the reason for it it but that they took a roleplay into an area where I have a boundary. I didn't as a result blame all men for being creeps, just that one and acknowledged that my style of dress and look may have led that man to think he could go there with me.
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    Seems to me a lot of it within the context of a virtual world comes down to individual interpretation of the word Creepy. I happened to look it up on Wikipedia for example and realized there is no one defining element that constitutes creepiness for all people. Certain body types for example have been found to trigger the accusation of creepiness: Behaviours such as: "being unusually quiet and staring (34%), following or lurking (15%), behaving abnormally (21%), or in a socially awkward, "sketchy" or suspicious way (20%)" are all contributing to a feeling of creepiness, as described by Watt et al.'s study. Other defining characteristics are unpredictable behaviours like the contingent that regularly jumps into a thread and runs it off topic. They can be seen as being creepy too by definition whereas others may just see that as awkward or even funny.
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    So true! I was just reading a couple studies on how much so and I thought that in some ways this thread is such a contradiction with what the lab is trying to turn this forum into. It really is a wonder they let this negativity thread keep going and even protect it from overstepping the line if they really want the forum to be all rainbows and pink unicorns.
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    How you respond to people on your sims was really just a small part of what we were discussing and was more an attempt to lighten the mood. It is different from how I do things but then I am not a business tycoon in SL whose reputation is at stake nor hold activities for others that you host there. If I was in your shoes, I might actually respond in a similar way but it would be because there was good reasons for it, not because I felt a little queasy about it personally.
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    Very true and for a good amount of parents, they lacked it themselves and though they might have the intellectual knowledge of what constitutes functional social behaviour, the emotional part is not in line with it, leading to the child getting mixed messages. That doesn't even address the messages we are fed through television and movies nowadays which is far from typifying good social skills.
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    And I'm loving you listing good and bad openers and see that as someone socializing by sharing wisdom of good and bad conversation starters vs those anti-socialists who just block, ban, derender or just shout "Creep" in the forums in such a way to make all men feel less than adequate. Thank you.
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    The skills are honed later on once one has the foundations in place, learned early on by the example of their primary caregivers. Lacking that early childhood foundation, they will be at a loss until they have gone back to learn that. It is like trying to teach someone algebra when one has not learned basic math skills first.
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    Not nearly as rare as you like to make out. There are quite a few dating coaches out there who teach men how to do serial pickups minus the killing at the end. If one has not been shown or taught boundaries growing up, they will have no clue what they are for themselves or others later in life. But the boundaries label should not be applied to any and all interactions that might make one feel uncomfortable. Quite often it is simply a type of situation that one is sensitive to from family of origin issues, where as a child one was taken advantage of as a result of being helpless. As an adult we are not helpless anymore and hopefully have the skillset to prevent it going further without having to resort to anti social behaviours in protecting ourselves.
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    But there are those forums where the mods have seemed to put certain posters on ignore and allowed them to break forum etiquette until all hell breaks loose as a result and yet others are slapped on the wrist after the first post. It makes it hard to know where the line is when moderation is somewhat inconsistent. Not here of course fortunately! Pet peeve at other forums.
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