Prokofy Neva Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 I find that the worst people can be friends of your friends on Facebook.In SL, it doesn't always work that way.Is this about weak ties getting weaker on social media, and virtual world immersion being a better substrate for human relations? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cato Badger Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 @Prok: I disagree. (Yes, that's all. I just disagree with your proposition.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anny Broek Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 @Prokofy I would say: yes... I think friendships inworld are more intense than on social media like Facebook or Forums. Interaction between avatars inworld is often more like a RL interaction IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treasure Ballinger Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 Not sure. I don't do FB and other social media. I have a FB page because they forced me to get one, in order to belong to a couple of groups there. It's tied down as tight as I can tie it with zero friends. (YAY!) Friendships in virtual, to me feel closer and more intimate than real. It's easier to open up. That's probably not a good thing. For me it's like that though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mags Indigo Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 Prokofy Neva wrote: I find that the worst people can be friends of your friends on Facebook. In SL, it doesn't always work that way. Is this about weak ties getting weaker on social media, and virtual world immersion being a better substrate for human relations? The only people I'm friends with on FB are people I have an RL connection with (I don't have an account in my SL id there). I don't feel any pressure to make friends with 'friends of friends' so whether I like them or not tends not to matter. I don't use FB a lot to be honest - more of a way of keeping in contact with people I can't see that often so I log in once or twice a week at most. In SL I really only spend time with either new acquaintances - getting to know them - but mainly with old friends. I don't have too much time inworld these days so I try to make my time there count. I do think that you can build quite intense relationships with people that you spend a lot of time with inworld - I'm not sure that could be replicated in a 2d environment such as FB. But I do have a feeling the answer to this will be as varied as the number of people viewing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ceera Murakami Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 I really can't say one way or another about Facebook, since I avoid that data mining pit like the plague. But within SL, if a friend asks me to come meet another friend of theirs, and they make a positive first impression, I usually will offer friendship to that person, at least to get their calling card and to make a note in their profile that I know them because they are a friend of so-and-so, and when/how I met them. If my friend likes them, perhaps I may like them too, and I'll give them a chance. If they continue to interact with me in a positive manner, both when they are also with that first friend, and on their own, they remain on my Friends list. At that point they really are becoming my friend, and not just a 'friend-of-a-friend. If I rarely if ever interact with them after that first meeting, or if I simply don't get along with them, I un-friend them eventually. But I keep the calling card, so I know I met them before. If I un-friended them for a reason, like the other person always argued with me or did things I found revolting, then I might note that in their profile via the calling card, so if I encounter them later I can be reminded of that past history. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WeeWillian Wylie Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 I am friends with my friends..They are friends with their friends..Usually there is little or no cross over...don't know why but it just is so. I am acquainted with their friends though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solaria Goldshark Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 Prokofy Neva wrote: I find that the worst people can be friends of your friends on Facebook. In SL, it doesn't always work that way. Is this about weak ties getting weaker on social media, and virtual world immersion being a better substrate for human relations? I'm really hoping that you expand your thoughts a little more. It's like you have so much to say but held something back. All the makings of an interesting discussion if you'd just fill in the blanks a tad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Persephone Emerald Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 There are two reasons for me to be friended to people in SL or on FB, either I actually know & like them or they're part of a subcultural social network I'm involved with. Because of the latter reason, I tend to aquire some "friends" who I don't really know well. If I like how someone thinks and/or care about them, I'll want to read their FB posts & talk with them there or in SL. But I don't want a huge collection of "friends" either in SL or on FB. Too many is just annoying. I don't generally want to be friended to my friend's friends, since I feel I have enough of my own. My SL frienships tend to be just as deep as those I make elsewhere online or in RL. I'm fond of many people, but only a few friendships develop into deep & lasting ones. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nancy Hilltop Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Some of them are i'm working on more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rotpaulette Carter Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Face de bouc, is a tupperware pyramid:smileyhappy: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidnella Riler Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 I can barely cope having a list of friends, I always seem like a bad friend cause I do not have much time to be online, so the time online is not nearly enough to say Hi to every friend in a list and a chit chat, so I would definitely not friend, the friends of my friends haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anny Broek Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 SID Riler wrote: I can barely cope having a list of friends, I always seem like a bad friend cause I do not have much time to be online, so the time online is not nearly enough to say Hi to every friend in a list and a chit chat, so I would definitely not friend, the friends of my friends haha The same here, i only friend them if my friend is a close friend and i do meet their friends often enough to know them well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
valerie Inshan Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 rotpaulette Carter wrote: Face de bouc, is a tupperware pyramid:smileyhappy: Face de bouc !!! HAHAHA !!!! Génial, Rot ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cato Badger Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 I should think not! My friends have *terrible* taste! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rotpaulette Carter Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 valerie Inshan wrote: rotpaulette Carter wrote: Face de bouc, is a tupperware pyramid:smileyhappy: Face de bouc !!! HAHAHA !!!! Génial, Rot ! Genial ton smiley aussi, bisous Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clonefighter Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 Yeah Im friends with my friends' friends, it seems like everyone I've met so far on SL knows each other. Its good, like one big group of friends. Also I agree with you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christo Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 On facebook and SL, I am freinds with people I personally know. a huge freindslist of people I rarely chat with doesn't do much. I am always willing to meet new people and become freinds over time if we have things in common. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maitimo Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 The main difference is that on Facebook, everyone else can see who your friends are. On SL, no-one but you can see them. So there's far less drama about who's friended with whom and "i-won't-be-your-friend-because-you're-friends-with-HER!" Sometimes I think "Friends" was a really bad choice of word for lists like these, because they're often used for lots of other purposes too. The word itself generates drama. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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