Cate Foulsbane

When I was much younger, I found parties terrifying. So, I'd drink, get a buzz on before going to one. Sometimes enough of a "buzz" that I could barely remember the party when it was over. When I stopped drinking and determined that I would live my life in a different way, no matter how scary, I tried something new. I went to a party where I knew a few people but not most of the people. I started going up to people and talking to them. I worked my way around the entire party. A few folks were not very friendly, not very receptive. But most turned out to be pretty damned friendly. I was amazed at myself, so pleased, and so happy that I'd had such a good time and had MADE that good time happen. After that, me going to parties meant me engaging with as many people as I could. I do the same now in SL clubs. If those folks at a club aren't receptive or friendly, I find another club. I am determined to have a good time, to have pleasurable interactions with others.

I am whatever comes out of my mouth at any given moment, or my fingers on the keyboard to be exact. Sometimes I log on and then am in SL. Sometimes I can't get into SL, I get off SL. Sometimes I am online and other times I am offline. And right now I wish George Carlin could just say this stuff for me. And do the whole Stuff routine, too. But I digress. I don't watch from above like a goddess or demon, but sometimes I wish I could. Closest I can come is when I use the World Map and see all the little green dots. I wish I could get closer but that would be perving. I mean really perving, right?

Not sure this is ok, but it's what I am listening to lately. Craig Johnson's Walt Longmire series. My partner is reading the print versions and I am listening to the Audible versions. Love these stories. Not the same as the TV version, as you might expect. https://www.audible.com/webplayer?asin=B002V1LT0G&contentDeliveryType=MultiPartBook&ref_=a_minerva_cloudplayer_B002V1LT0G&fetchNewPlayQueue=true&overrideLph=false&initialCPLaunch=true

You know, I thought you were having a negative or cynical reaction to experiences in a particular club. Now I think you mean you see SL as a game, literally... a video game of sorts. Never having been a "gamer", I can't relate to this. I might play a game in SL, like Greedy or (as I did tonight with a bunch of crazed tinies) Bingo. But I don't feel or experience my time in SL as a game. I don't see other people, whether appearing as humans or cats or mice or monsters, as players..I experience them as people living their lives in one way or another. Hard to explain how I feel in SL..but even harder to understand how you feel. Perhaps if you went to a club and saw it as a party and treated the people there the same as you would treat them at a RL party, your experience in SL would be better? Just a maybe to consider.

Were you in the house or outside? I don't think the interior of your home even if it's on Moderate land should be affected. But you can click on the button that makes it impossible for others to see what you are doing if they are OFF your property. Or maybe you have clicked on something that makes certain things disappear? Check the Options and see what you have turned on or off. Scripted "baskets" might be affected...tool chests..jewelry boxes...?

I'm about up to HERE with the dancing trees spams! I've tried everything and nothing stops it. Best I can do is never ever spend a dime in that place. Grrrrr. And, no, I don't belong to the group and never did. I probably wandered onto their sim once or twice..ack!

I've tried reading as much as possible but it's overwhelming. Bottom line for me, how does this affect the average shopper, the average NON-business person?

Yay! Thank you!!!

Looking at a list of forum subjects, I see..to the left..a black Dot or maybe a black Star. And on many I see nothing. Maybe the answer is in front of my face, but I just can't find an explanation. What do these things mean? Why do some subjects have no dots or stars?

I so wish we could do that! Not spending a Linden dime there makes me feel better, but it's not enough. What can we do?! Yes yes yes!

Some of my earliest club experiences were fairly unpleasant. I'd hear about a popular place, I'd go check it out, find it very crowded and local chat VERY quiet. If I bothered to stick around long enough, I might see some local chat by a small group. Because they knew each other and had common experiences, their chat was essentially private. If I had no clue what they were discussing, I'd stay quiet and soon leave. When I did find a club where new arrivals were greeted by hosts and others, I'd stick around longer and would often end up joining in on a discussion when I had something to add. Making friends came later as I would get to know the regular chatters. Two things I learned and felt from the beginning...it feels bad to be ignored and it feels good to be included. To this day, because of those early feelings, I am almost compulsive about greeting new arrivals in clubs and sometimes other places. I make an effort to update that person if they arrived in the middle of a discussion (or round of silliness) and, if all works well, the newbie picks up the thread rather quickly. The thing is, a lot of clubs are more about keeping the place crowded with people who tip...numbers matter...than they do with making customers feel comfy. I like music, i like dancing, I like local chat. I don't go to clubs to talk to one person in IM . I go out into the world (clubs, etc.) to be sociable. If somebody wants to hear the music but NOT interact with others, they can often find the stream the dj is using and listen from home or while building or sailing or whatever.

See what you did, wise guy? 😡

Are you going to explain HIRAGANA to me? Or are you going to force me to Google which, lately, might as well be dial-up Internet.

Hmm...I can't remember if that's happened to me while dancing with somebody on a couples pose. Often one or the other of us is too high off the floor or feet down IN the floor, but that can be fixed sorta kinda by doing the hover adjustment.

What do you mean about the slider set at 100 for animations and group poses to work? What kind of animations and poses...for photos? One more thing I never heard before in SL. Forever noobie...

If the dark-haired guy in forefront is you, well done! Maybe not perfect, but well done..and not all all the deformed look I sometimes see.

My eyes do best with Comic Sans MS Bold...but I can try something else. This is Times New Roman bold..how is it for you? And this is default bold. Oh! This works for me! I can just do bold..yay!

Somehow I missed this whole thing...and I HATE missing your builds! Grrrrr!

Some of us are old have poor eyesight. Just trying to make things easier for myself when I am typing. But, still, it's possible that I, too, have a pin-head. Oh dear oh dear!!!

Hahaa Not THAT bad, but close!

I see this regularly and wonder why. Maybe it's just the way I see things, maybe the proportions are normal. Then again, maybe the proportions are way off. But every time I see this look, I remember Beetlejuice and the big man with the pin-head in the..was it a waiting room?

What? You're married or something? BTW, do these pants make my butt look big?

I thought the OP wanted BOYS to comment on Women's avies. I would rather see the comments of men, but what do I know.

You are so cute when you are being serious! "-) I probably dropped four of them on the floor for 30 seconds. For me, a week isn't long enough.

Ah, that helps! And now I think I understand 3rd party. I almost never use the Lel hd items, except for lashes. I use other makeup components so I guess that means 3rd party. Who is 2nd party, btw. So, maybe I can actually figure out more things. I am not a lost cause just yet. Yay me!