blissfulbreeze

Thank you for the heads up, Arielle!

What time SL time is the Welcome Hub the busiest? I tend to be a night owl and keep missing the crowd.

I think we need to do a SL survey in world. Women and men go to different sims and try to strike up a convo, see if the convo is steered towards an insulting or sexual nature. Mark it down. Compare results. One of the big issues though is a lot of men come to SL for sex, or voice sex or a sl/rl blended relationship that includes sex. There are exceptions but I can pretty much bet that the majority of males are here for sex. Those males then pressure women about it, and if they happen to come upon a female that engages in a conversation with them, some males will think, oooh hook, line and sinker. However, the female is just being nice and likes conversation. A lot of men have told me that they think if a woman pays attention to them, then she is interested in them. What about women that just want to have a friendly conversation? The male will get mad if he puts in energy and time into a conversation and then the women rejects his advances. THIS is a huge problem in SL. Men think that they can seduce a woman if he spends enough time on her. Yes, there are some women in SL who use men, are horrible rude and insulting, and think they are above people. THIS is a huge problem as well. Also, some women will think that if a man has a long convo with her, that he is interested in her, in a romantic way. Both sides are putting expectations and pressure on the other. The rest of us, the nice ones, the ones who come to SL for social reasons, for events, and such.. we suffer the most. We are the minority. However, we can't change SL.. it has been this way for years. So, what do we do? I think we may have to cut down our time on SL and find other ways to be social because this problem has gone on forever and no solution to it.

Most have an image in our mind of who we want in SL, our checklist. We say that looks really won't matter but then when we meet an avatar face to face, we find them unattractive and pretty much write them off. The thing is to give it some time... but most won't. We make picket signs and say give me a decent man/woman that is not vain/materialistic/a liar etc then we meet them and we find them boring. The exciting ones are the bad boys/girls. Human nature likes risks and excitement. I've been with bad boys and yes it was exciting. I've also had great conversations with the simple men who were intellectual. I gave it time and we were like two peas in a pod. After awhile, you get bored and sick of the bad boys/girls, there is not much substance. It all depends on which phase we are in, are we looking for excitement or depth? So, it can be variable. This week's bad girl who wants a bad guy, may want a good guy next year and vice versa for men. When I am roaming around looking for good conversation, I run into drooling men who IM the women the same things, hoping one would respond .The timing sucks. Timing and phases. We need hangouts for those who want depth, yet people don't seem to go when they do exist because that night they want excitement.

I've met some absolutely awesome people in SL. I have had so much fun, laughed so much that I cried, I love the creativity of it, the freedom of being anything that you want (within TOS of course), so many things to do and see, it's amazing.

How did you solve it? Animations/posing cause?

Gahhhh, I missed all the excitement! I've been away from SL and logged into the forums to see this thread. I realize NUX avs are not officially released. I did browse through some of the recent pages. I agree with Patch on this is a focus for new people, not us oldbies. We can't look at it from a 100% oldbie perspective. We have to look at it as brand spanking new thing that one joined called Second Life. Sl is hard enough to learn as it is, let the newbies have easy things! Just like in other business marketing, they lure you in with freebies and such. Then once you become familiar with the product/company, then you start upgrading/investing. An upgrade from the awful default hands and feet are a gem of their own! Think positive! *ducks from the tomatoes being thrown*

There are many dance troupes/groups that may have a curtsy animation. Here is the site to get a hold of some. https://sldancequeens.blogspot.com/

Thanks guys! I'm going to explore lots.

So, the SL market is getting more and more geared towards those under 35, even under 30. For the ones who do not wish to wear barely there clothes, go to "pick up" clubs, etc.. I'd like to see some recommendations of clothing stores, clubs, communities and such for those who wish to look like a mature adult and act like one. Of course that is subjective lol.. but you know what I am talking about. I'd like to recommend the Destination Guide, yes, most of us already know about it, but we forget about it! So, just bringing it to the forefront of our minds. Lately, I have been exploring sims from there and love it. You can see the rating right at your fingertips and a snapshot of a sim, with some details. https://secondlife.com/destinations For clothing, I do feel that Coco has some mature women clothing. I know there are more but my brain is foggy at the moment. Help! Clubs and sims for mature adults, (without sexual themes)...Fogbound Blues.. tell me more, please! Communities: Help!

I can't keep track of all these Acronyms! 😮

That we are a lost cause, and they will put us out of our misery LOL

Peanut gallery asks what VVO is..please

Peeving about my stupid "first world problems", then I sit back and feel like garbage. Have to get my reference point at a healthier place.

Open up your World map, type in the sim name, click Find, it will show you the place..if there is a sim next to it, double click that area.. then you can open up your Nearby tab and see the list of people in that sim... most are probably bots