Kelli May

nicholas38FL wrote: I'm new to mesh, and trying to figure out what is the best combination out there for a fair skin, fairly curvy/heavy/mature female form. I've seen a get in world that look very good, but I'm not sure what is being used? I have the Matreya mesh (i think it's Lara), but when I increase shape size it doesn't necessarily look that natural. I want the thicker legs, belly, thighs, etc. Thanks much for any ideas! Worth demoing the Belleza 'Freya' for those attributes. For that matter, try all the demos you can, and play with relevant sliders.

Bobbie Faulds wrote: For what it's worth, I haven't looked at the skins on the new default avis LL has designed so I don't know if they have underwear baked on them, but the shapes/hair/clothes really aren't bad and they do have a decent starter AO. At my shop, I do have both the free Bright AO and the free Orcula AOs out. Both are pretty good for a starter AO. From what I remember, the new av skins don't have the dreaded baked on underwear. They even have nipples, but no detail between the legs.

amamakah wrote: I finally found the forums hoping for help in naviagting this complicated place. It is kind of disconcerting to find this thread where I seem to be a immediately disliked person because I am new and a bit clueless. This place is difficult. I am not finding decent looking clothing or body in the beginners zone. Dealing with boxes is kind of crazy making. Etc, etc. Am I judged for my ignorance? Seems so. Idk if this is a fun place to be at all. Major Noob number 165,794 I took the point of the thread to be "what things tell us someone is new" not "what things make us hate new residents". So, no, you're not automatically disliked because you are new. Thet might be people out there who do that, but there are haters everywhere. Are you being judged? More than likely. It's a human thing. People judge, classify, assess and discriminate (in all shades of the term from positive to negative) all the time. We use actions, words and appearence to determine what people are, how they'll act and react. With that post, you were judging whether the people here are being unpleasant to you or not.

Are they demos or purchased hair? It's very common for demos to have a stripe in an odd colour or with a logo texture to discourage people from using them instead of buying the actual hair. If not a demo, it could just be a slow-loading texture.

My guess, based on what you've given, is slow texture download. That'd explain the grey objects, blurred textures, and distorted objects (especially if they are sculpts, which load their shape parameters as a texture). I've had this problem to a lesser extent, and recently it seems worse. Having a fast, wired connection helps, but it's no guarantee. I can stream 1080 video flawlessly 99% of the time, but SL texture dowload is still relatively slow and unreliable. The problem might not be at your end. If you're connecting by WiFi, switch to a wired connection. If your connection *is* the weak link, reduce the load on it as much as possible. Don't stream/download anything on other apps, and try switching off sound & media streaming in SL. Reducing your draw distance to under 100m could help somewhat - the fewer textures to download, the faster it should happen. A lower particle setting probably wouldn't hurt, either. If you wear a complex HUD, particularly those for some mesh bodies, removing it can improve texture swapping/loading problems. Some of them have multiple large textures which cause problems. You don't specify your texture cache size, but I've read recommendations to set it as large as possible. I don't know what the current thinking is on how much is enough, but I'm sure someone will show up with an opinion. In the end I'm making a lot of guesses based on limited information, but it's all worth trying.

Just the last two people who posted this exact same story.

There's a SLURL to the store in the Mesh Body Addicts review you presumably read, or you could have searched "Maitreya" in-world.

Some positives and negatives on this. For social anxiety, SL is a good layer of insulation from the worries. If it triggers an anxiety attack, the people around can't perceive most of the symptoms. If I start to blush or stammer, I can still be the wittiest person in the room (or try) through a keyboard. If I need to leave, a quick AFK or BRB is perfectly acceptable to most people. If the symptoms are less visible, they are less threatening. Less threatening means less to worry about. Less to worry about, fewer attacks. Fewer attacks, more confidence. The vicious circle becomes a virtuous one, and the confidence can be something that carries through to RL. For me, the kinds of things griefers do aren't the kind of things that trigger anxiety. Even if they are, I can eject, block, AR, TP away or just exit, depending on the situation. The investment in doing something in SL is much less, too. I've not travelled to another city (something I'd have to do for some kinds of socialising), or got specially dressed up (other than my avatar) or paid out a lot of money. If an anxiety attack spoils it... meh. I can make a cuppa, take five and try again. On the downside, this can encourage avoidant strategies in RL. You have to realise that the same things that work in SL just aren't available in RL. Sounds obvious, but it's very easy to get used to running from tough situations. The aim is to use the relative safety to get used to those situations, not to get used to fleeing them. The other problem is having SL become a replacement for a social life. More avoidance, only this time avoiding RL in favour of the easier SL. With that can come the risk of addiction and greater isolation from RL. In the end SL is designed as entertainment, not therapy. I'm sure it helps some people. It's probably helped me more than it's harmed me. I can't believe it's the "best therapy" but it has its therapeutic value.

If you want to know if your 'acer' will run SL, try it. The viewer is free to download, and accounts are free to create. There's nothing to fear. Nothing bad will happen if it runs badly (at worst, the viewer will crash). If it runs so poorly that you can't enjoy it, you can either upgrade your PC or stop playing.

Looking at the images, that's system hair.

Thank you for providing some evidence for your claims. I'll take a look when I get the chance.

It would be interesting and significant that you've had good results with AMD if it was anything more than an unsupported claim, but at the end of the day "it works for me" is no less a personal opinion than "it doesn't work for me". The evidence as it stands? You're as much an armchair expert as anyone else posting here (myself included)

Sun Position in the World Menu, and CTRL-SHIFT-Y as a shortcut to Midday. There are also loads of different versions of midday and other sun positions in the Environment Settings.

Note that you can mix and match AO animations - an animation overrider is just a scripted box that holds and runs a set of animations. Blank AOs (ie no animations included) are often available for free. Editing them can be a bit tricky for a newcomer, but it's something worth learning. Usual warnings apply: copy everything before you start poking around with it.

LaskyaClaren wrote: I think you and I probably fit within pretty much exactly the same age/cultural box, Kelli, so I recognize in myself some of what you are saying. I do, as you say, dress smarter in SL because I can, and I'm certainly not going to pretend that I've gone to great lengths to age my avatar, who now probably looks at least a decade younger than me. Your point about youth and the SL default somewhat mirrors something I said in a blog post a while ago . . . that what we would by RL standards call "sexy" is actually the norm here, with the result that being perceived as sexy in SL requires something like hypersexualization. And that being "ugly" or "old" here requires a significant effort, and is therefore a reflection of conscious choice rather than, you know . . . gravity. ;-) On the point of sexualisation: a dress I was wearing recently was seen as fairly demure, yet it was sleeveless, mid-thigh and the bottom four inches of hem were crochet... more holes than fabric!). In RL it'd be something you'd need a fashion model body to carry off (and yay,in SL, most of us do) and would still be considered extremely revealing. In SL, it was everyday, and if anything, unusual because it wasn't that extreme.

I've spent my mid-30s through to mid-40s in SL and my RL clothing choices haven't changed a lot. A bit of weight gain has meant the skinny T-shirts have been repurposed as dusters, but basically I range from casual to dressy as the occasion demands. Among my friends I've always been the one most likely to go the extra mile for a special occasion, and I've never had the spare cash (nor inclination) to slavishly follow fashion. In SL I can wear what I like, when I like. If that means I fancy going shopping in a rubber catsuit, then off I go. I can go dancing in a tux, a ball-gown or a burlesque corset and barely an eyelid batted. Sometimes it's more about costumes than clothes, and there I have a free rein too. I tend to dress smarter in SL simply because I can. As for the other signs of aging... many people tell you that they'll grow old gracefully. They sneer at the rich and famous for their plastic surgery, hair transplants and personal trainers. They'd *never* go that far to look good. But if it was as easy as it is in SL, they probably would. I would. The reason we don't is often because we can't. Most of it is expensive, time-consuming and horribly unreliable. In SL, though, the equivalent is cheap, quick and flawlessly effective. And most importantly, if you don't like the result, instantly reversible. Finding an older, wrinkled skin is more difficult than a smooth, youthful one. Wearing an older shape can (doesn't have to, but can) make fitting standard mesh sizes more difficult. Youth has become the default.

Find one that's close and fiddle with it until it looks right?

CheriColette wrote: YES, thats good solution :matte-motes-delicious: My preferred solution involves anthocyanins, tannins and around 12% ethanol.

The next thing left to do is to wait. The merchant might just be away for a few weeks, so give them a chance. Some are here day-to-day, others rarely show up, and a few have left SL entirely. If a notecard and IM don't raise a reply in a few weeks, you might never get a replacement or refund. Note that receiving the wrong skin tone could be a genuine mistake that they're happy to fix once they get back. If not, and it turns out to be deliberate miss-selling or an absentee merchant, there's really not much you can do beyond leaving a harsh review.

It should be fairly easily scriptable using RLV. Whether you'd find it easy depends on your level of experience with LSL and RLV. The basics would be: 1) set up an RLV folder for each form. Include everything that form needs: AO, skin, shape, clothes... basically the entire avatar. 2) use a scripted object to switch between the folders. There are timer and random number functions in LSL, and options in RLV to add to or replace with the contents of a folder. If you don't want to write your own, there are definitely RLV wardrobe controllers available. I've no idea if they have random functions built in, but I'd be surprised if someone hasn't done it yet. LSL wiki RLV API

ChinRey wrote: irihapeti wrote: 3) a free Sansar bear Or even better: free Sansar beer! Mostly froth?

The obvious one is wearing any of the default starter avatars. There are those who are new, and those who just never progress their appearence. As an example, there's an av close to where I am now. He (so often it's a guy) appears to have no AO. One of his shoes (from the old Average Male avatar, complete with invisiprims) doesn't line up with his foot. He wears system clothing (not from a default av, but very basic stuff) with an old-school prim belt. Skin and eyes are basic, but it does look like he's added a tattoo layer beard and cornrows. A lot of this screams 'newbie' to me, but the account is four and a half years old. You probably wouldn't see an actual newbie wearing much of this avatar because they'd not have access to it (or think to access the Library items). He's just not moved on from the style he started with. There are things that make me think "look like a newbie": lack of an AO used to be the big one, but the recent couple of av sets have AOs. A certain male skin with the circle beard, and any other common freebie skins. System clothing, although this can just be someone deliberately avoiding mesh. In the end, it's behaviour and expertise that really mark someone out for me. If I spot an av running everywhere, bumping into other residents and bouncing off walls? That trips my newbie alarm harder than anything.

This is not the best forum to ask for advice about accounts. You do not say what you native language is, but maybe you'll find someone who can help you on one of the International Forums.

I understand that one of the reasons is to prevent a method of griefing whereby someone changes a group name from something acceptable to something you wouldn't want to see in your group list.

I'm always game.