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  1. Theresa Tennyson
    Interesting article about "nice guys" - and if you're wondering, it's written by a man... https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/nice-guy-syndrome/1447325
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    Of course they do.
  3. Theresa Tennyson
    True - but how do you integrate that with the "warrior" mythos that's so popular with people like a certain uber-manly senator from Missouri?
  4. Theresa Tennyson
    Yeah, we need Men's Studies classes like, "Don't hurt the warriors' feewings..."
  5. Theresa Tennyson
    When did she do that? Just saying that it's possible for someone to be considered creepy doesn't mean that the speaker considers them to be creepy. "Creepyness" is a subjective criteria. When I was in grad school there was a student who was so "normal" and adept at telling people what they wanted to hear that I couldn't rule out his being a robot. Personally, I found him "creepier" then a Radio Shack full of goth teenagers.
  6. Theresa Tennyson
    People with constant parroted agendas are annoying, aren't they?
  7. Theresa Tennyson
    Did you read the part where they make it clear that "it's believed" refers to the opinion of untrained observers? In fact, 59.4 percent thought that creepy people don’t know they are creepy, and most thought that creepy people cannot change their creepiness.
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    People who are males in RL.
  9. Theresa Tennyson
    Of course...
  10. Theresa Tennyson
    People's success and failure are generally a combination of two sets of factors - some of them are related to their personal strengths and weakness, and others are related to factors outside of their control. I'd imagine the average person tends to think their successes are because of their personal factors, and their failures are because of outside factors. That's the most comfortable way of seeing things. But if you want to be honest with yourself you should also take a look at the other side of the equation. As far as being surgeons, no - everybody can't successfully perform surgery right now. It would be possible for most people to be able to if they got the necessary training though. Yes, getting the training will be easier for some people than others, and some of the reasons for that are outside of their control. But back to the current topic, somehow I suspect that not being a douchebag may generally be more accessible than becoming a surgeon. (And I haven't even said anything about how I think some of the people who are saying that modern dating is so unfaaaayyyrrrrreeee would react if someone else complained about another topic in the same way.) (Oops, I just did. My bad...)
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    Theresa Tennyson scratches her head. Yes, that's basically the definition of "possible." It's also possible that some people's problems are caused by things that they're doing wrong and they might be correctable if they reflect on them and work on those things rather than blaming other people.
  12. Theresa Tennyson
    I understand that, but I'd be more inclined to believe that it's more a case of people not realizing that it's something they need to be taught and their not being taught properly. It's a problem if when people think, "What's wrong with you?," but it's also a problem to assume, "Well, you can't get any better because of this label you've been given."
  13. Theresa Tennyson
    There's a difference between finding it difficult to understand emotions and behaving as if they're not important. Some things are harder to learn for some people than others. But that doesn't mean they can't learn something about them.
  14. Theresa Tennyson
    Here's the thing... None of us are born with certain skills that we really need to function in modern society. We're expected to learn how to read, do simple mathematics, use toilets, etc. Being able to operate in society without constantly causing offense should be considered one of those skills. I'm not saying that people need to act aggressively fake and "pleasant" or pretend to enjoy things they would rather not do, but people should at least be taught the level of skills necessary to not actively bother people. I was watching some TV piece about "gifted" people and they were interviewing one young lady who apparently had spectacular levels of book knowledge. Unfortunately, it was also clear that she was completely incapable of having a conversation without making herself look like an insufferable jerk. Time spent learning that skill may have been more useful than, say, differential equations at her age. And part of that is the responsibility of those responsible for her education growing up.
  15. Theresa Tennyson
    Or you could just calmly take apart their posts and have them look like a fool without their realizing it even happened.
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    The Linden Lab viewer gives an accurate number for the height of the avatar bounding box, which stops around the middle of your head. That is what the server thinks your "height" is. Firestorm then adds a few centimeters to give you an approximate measure to the top of your head. Neither display a perfectly accurate distance to the top of your head, which is what humans think their height is. And, with the current state of how Second Life works, they never, never, never, never will. And that, ultimately, is that.
  18. Theresa Tennyson
    4:3 isn't "widescreen", it's the old "academy" proportion used for old TV's and movies like The Arrival of a Train at La Ciotat Station (1895)
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    Look at your example. That isn't even close to being 4:3. It would be around 5.7:3. If "most people" made profile pictures the way you say they'd look squashed even using 4:3 because 4:3 was the monitor standard back in 2003 when Viewer 1 was developed but it hasn't been for literally over a decade. The monitor I'm currently looking at is at least 13 years old and wasn't that high end when I bought it, but it's still a widescreen monitor.
  20. Theresa Tennyson
    No, no, no, no, no! You don't understand how important it is to have a profile picture that matches the screen shape of a monitor that's old enough to be in high school! After all, when you print out things, you have a choice between showing them in "landscape" orientation or in "portrait" orientation which is.... Wait a minute...
  21. Theresa Tennyson
    So you can look at it and go, "420!" and laugh like Beavis and/or Butthead.
  22. Theresa Tennyson
    They'll do this, basically:
  23. Theresa Tennyson
    I'm very aware of differences - in fact, that is a big reason I took exception to the article you quoted. Once you start saying, "This is how wo/men act," even if you acknowledge that there are differences within those sets there's a danger of implying those who don't behave according to the description are "doing it wrong." Would lists like and concepts like those, properly used, help Ingmar understand why Ermagard might be behaving in a way that seems odd to him? Very possible. The problem is when you start saying, "This is how Ermagard acts, and it's because she's a woman" - especially if you don't know Ermagard that well.
  24. Theresa Tennyson
    It's a scientific fact - well, considering statistics to be science. But what does it have to do with how fast any individual acquires language? (And BTW, I called you a "fruit fly" because that's the common name of Drosophilia Melanogaster, the species the scientific paper you linked to was referring to.) I have always had problems with categories. Back when Blockbuster Video was a thing I often needed to check multiple categories before I finally found which category the movie I was looking for "belonged to." (Billy Wilder's movies "The Apartment" and "The Fortune Cookie" are usually referred to as "comedies" but they have very dark moments.) Now, ironically enough, a large part of my job involves putting things into categories because I'm responsible for a warehouse full of theatre costumes. When I'm putting things away, though, I always check our database, because many things can be put into any one of several different categories. And there are things that I find myself saying, "Well, it's not really that, but it goes in that box because that's the closest one we have." So I really, really don't like referring to things, and especially people, by category unnecessarily. A lot of people think "male" and "female" categories are "necessary," but that just doesn't line up with what I've seen. Part of it is the way English works - other European languages are even more extreme. I actually prefer Japanese in this way because it's genderless unless you make a point of specifying someone's gender. There are manga I read where I have no idea if they're written by a male or a female, and it doesn't reallly matter to me.
  25. Theresa Tennyson
    Experience can be very useful, of course. However, that doesn't change the fact that other people are independent entities that may or may not behave in the way one's experience would suggest that they will. That would suggest that basing an assumption about someone's behavior on one's experience and acting on it without getting information specific to the other person is a bad idea. (Note: I am in no way suggesting that Persephone does this. But there are people in this world who do.)
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