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Drakonadrgora Darkfold

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  1. do people lie about their gender or age in sl. of course almost everyone does. do they keep lieing even when in a relationship that maybe is getting serious yes because they are afraid if they tell the truth the person will leave them and then tell others (doxing). is it immoral no, for no one has to live by the morals of another person here even if in a relationship of any kind. so does anyone have to tell the other person, no even if they intend to take it to rl. for maybe after the relationship has lasted long enough the other person wont care if they truly love the person they go to know online. miracles can happen. will it work out for everyone no, its like dating in the rl, not all work out or were meant to. but doesn't mean you cant enjoy it as long as it lasts. there are no real morals or ethics about what is done online, its only when it gets person to person in rl that any of those will come into play at that time. its also why some people end up leaving sl, or creating an alt that becomes their main, to get away from someone to continue the game because their old account was revealed by someone (doxed). take everything and everyone with a grain a salt and dont set or get or let your expectations get to high about them, no matter how much you might want too. that guy is girl playing a guy. that girl is a guy playing a girl. that herm is a guy playing a herm or a girl playing a herm. its what they wanted. its their kink or fetish to be something other than what they were born as. is it wrong no. do they have to reveal it no. is someone going to get hurt or upset probably. will they become jaded and no longer trust others, probably. is this bad, no its not. dont believe or trust anyone blindly ever, only fools do that. and only the fools get hurt, the wise dont. never completely believe or trust anyone on any online social media as being what they claim or show themselves as. if you ask and they refuse to give rl info or even if they do it doesn't mean its real rl info. in today's world is so easy to fake any of it, even video, even voice. even government issued id's. until you meet them face to face in rl in person nothing else matters. life is a game, love is a game, relationships are a game. there are winners and there are losers its how it works. traditional morals and ethics mean less in today's world because of the nature of online and virtual reality relationships. never put more into it then you are willing to lose or have to give up or get hurt about if it turns out not to be what you thought was true. dont expect others to live by your morals or ethics or ideals or concepts or truths or mental constructs about how life should work. most are not going too. get out of your own head thinking that any of your thoughts or views or opinions are more important than theirs. they are not. in the end dont ever just blindly fall in love with anyone here or anywhere on the internet ever, if you do and get hurt because it turns out to be a lie, you have only yourself to blame at that point.
  2. It is your right and choice to have these other wants and desires. a bdsm relationship is not always a 24/7 relationship unless that is what was wanted and agreed to. You do not have to be there for him every little moment he is online. He sounds like he is emotionally insecure or emotionally and mentally manipulative, in other words abusive. You are better off without him. Nor do you need his express permission for every little thing you want to do. You only need his permission when you were spending time with him and 'playing' with him. when not in a rp, you dont have to just stand around or stay around for him to cuddle or be his personal trophy doll to show off to anyone who might come by. Which is what it sounds like he was trying to groom you to be. which is a headgame a lot of fake dumbinant's in sl like to play. Seriously sounds like he was trying to emotionally mentally and physically isolate you from everyone else so you would become dependent upon him and only him for any attention. That is not a safe relationship in any way shape or form. I had an owner that tried to do that with me that I had to leave eventually because of that reason. Isolation is not a game or something to be played with lightly in any form.
  3. You did the right thing by leaving him, I know it feels bad at first. I have had to do it a few times myself while learning. That is the game the emotionally and mentally abusive will try and play to try and make you stay with them. Yes there is a difference between the two, I have been both in my time here in sl. They are not the same at all. The terms are not interchangeable. Not all submissive's are slaves. And not all slaves are submissive. No Master ever has the right to change the role of someone under them ever. It is not their right to decide if you are slave or submissive or pet. That is for you to decide only. You cannot believe what every tom dick and harry write on any website as the definitive truth as to what something is in regards to bdsm relationships. Many of these online bdms blogs are written by abusive delusional arrogant ignorant people who have no idea of what they speak of and rely on people being uneducated enough to believe them so they can take advantage of them.
  4. You might also want to take a look at the nanite systems and the eisa gynoids. they have a new sex system for their robots. its similar to pa but different in its own way as well. and it can interact with other users causing various effects if you dont mind being transformed into a robot of sorts.
  5. Its not normal by any means and no they do not need to know all your avatars at all. You do not have to tell anyone all the avatars you have or what they are or why you have them ever. If they refuse to change any of the rules, and it makes you feel uncomfortable, You do have the right to tell them and if they still refuse you have the right to leave them and not feel bad for doing so. They were not the right one for you. They did not respect your desires or needs or limits. It is not the right of any Master to ever ignore your limits or desires ever. They are not in total control over everything all the time. You do have rights and powers as a sub or even slave that they cannot ever take from you. As a sub you still have the responsibility to protect yourself from Masta's aka fake Masters which is what it sounds like you have. Your relationship is currently non-existant if that is how he is acting. Any relationship should be a two way street, where each side communicates and makes changes as needed. It is never just a one way street. Those kinds of relationships are just emotional and mental abuse relationships. NO Master is ever in complete total control over you and the rules like they may want to claim or think or say. Sounds like you found a narcissist and not a true bdsm Master. My advice leave him, runaway on your collar, and forget him and move on. There are better Masters than him out there. You dont need the drama or frustration or aggravation you will get by staying with him.
  6. I know the story, I was there when it happened, the repositories do not tell it all. I know the reasons why OC went the direction it did and why the fire flower group was forced to be created after Virtual Disgrace and its developers were kicked out of the original OC group by the TRUE OC developers. So you cannot just believe what you read on the websites, the author of the .at website does not tell the truth about everything that happened or why on her gethub repository. She tries to make it seem as if she is the victim which is not true by any means. Fire Flower and the peanut collars are NOT the original OC collars by any means. OC was never meant to be a closed source project ever. It was always meant to be an open source full permission scripts. Hence the Open in Open Collar. Fire Flower and the peanut collars use a closed source no mod project which is not what OC was ever meant to be. So no you cant claim to know it by reading what was said on the repository.. You didnt research it as much as you claim if you think the .at Fire Flower group and the peanut collars are the original developers they are not. So no Fire Flower is not the long standing development of the OC collar system at all. The OC group and developers are the original developers of the collar system. They didnt do a regression at all. The returned to what the OC collar brand was meant to be and went in the direction they felt it should have been taken. VD aka virtual disgrace aka peanut collars is the branch that went in a different direction from the original design of what the collars were meant to be like. She tried turning the OC group and collars into a purely for profit system, using no mod scripts in her 'premium' collars and objects. when that was never the goal or direction that OC was ever meant to go in. She tried to privatize the OC group where only she could make changes to the collar or scripts so everyone had to buy her version at what ever price she set for the items. OC was always meant to be a free system of scripts that anyone could use and modify to their own liking and create their own collars for free if wanted. and not have to pay for the scripts to do so. You cant do that with peanut collars.
  7. you can still get and use the lumiya client if you want to for android phones. It is still safe to use it, just hasnt been updated in two years. I used it on my phone and my tablet when not at home or near a pc where I can use a pc client instead. you need to download aptoide first and install it. https://en.aptoide.com/download then search for lumiya and install it, you can then unistall aptoide.
  8. You can still get and use the lumiya viewer for android even though it was removed from google play store. you just need to search for and download and install aptoide on you android phone first, then open that app and search for lumiya and install it, you can then remove aptoide from your phone. the only problem is it has not been updated in over two years so will not support many features of more modern viewers like bento or bom and it is missing many modern rlv commands and features. but it does allow for you to see your avatar and others and move around and chat and even has a vr supported feature to it. lumiya aptoide
  9. not entirely true. .cc is the orginial and .at is a closed source version. they are not the original. fireflower and the peanut collars are the derivative and not the original oc developers. the original oc developers took back the group to make it open source again and not a closed source for profit version which is what the fire flower group did. all fire flower collars have no mod scripts in them, where as the oc collars are full permission on the scripts. so no. .at aka fire flower are not the long running or original developers by any means. they are an offshoot with their own version of collars using private scripts. please dont confuse other players which is the original and which is not. peanut collars are not Open Collars they are a privately run version of the collar and should not even be associated with OC by anyone ever.
  10. I would like to add a little extra to the original post. This is in dealing with another myth about rlv. The myth that rlv can be made permanent or inescapable. This is a complete lie and false statement. You cannot make rlv permanent, nothing in sl is permanent. Not rlv, not vore, not eoa, not snuff, not transformations or mutilations. rlv cannot be made inescapable, anyone that tries to claim they can is lieing to you and trying to deceive you and brainwash you into believe an untruth. you can always escape from rlv and doing so is not cheating by any means. only the egotistical and abusive and untrustworthy will try and claim it is. you do not ever have to stay restrained or locked or restricted to any device in any cage, by any item any longer than you decide or want. it is your choice how long it lasts, not someone else ever. it only lasts as long as you feel comfortable, not some timer on some object. and no its not cheating to safeword off an item or out of a cage or anything like that. that is just a lie created by the emotionally and mentally and psychologically abusive predators of sl aka fake doms remember its your sl, not theirs, your choice not theirs, your decision not theirs, your power not theirs. you decide what is enough for you not them. even if you are a sub, even if you are a pet, even if you are a slave, even if you are furniture, its your choice in the end how long it lasts not theirs. if they dont like it, tough, it doesn't matter. if they are unwilling to talk and negotiate or change what is done, they dont deserve your trust or loyalty or faithfulness or respect or submission.
  11. Dont be in a rush to find an owner, you may regret it later for just jumping in without doing any research. There are a lot of fake Dom's here in sl. More fakes then real ones, more out to just use and abuse and deceive and prey upon your desire to fulfill there own dark perversions without any true care about what you want or need as a sub. It can take trying out several of them to ever find the right one for you. Dont just accept what ever comes your way and stick with it just because you think you have to, no matter how bad it gets. You have the right to leave them and move on and find someone else and not feel bad about it. Remember its a two way street, they will want certain things and you are allowed to want and need certain things too within the relationship. Its not just about them, you are not inferior to them, they are not superior to you. Its not just their way or the highway. A real Dom worth the time and effort wont ever treat you like that. They will respect your limits, and be open to communicate with when ever having any issues with anything they do or want done. It may take dozens of trials before finding the right one, it may take weeks or months or years finding one that truly feels right to you. dont just accept the collar of someone just because they call themselves Dom without first knowing a little about them and what they expect and if it matches what you expect. ..dont rush ..do a trial period of a week or more ..get to know them and what they want or expect and what rules they may have ..dont just accept their collar just to be owned right away. ..do learn what your needs and limits are and inform them of them. ..be willing to go through dozens of fakes over months of time to find the right one if needed. ..do talk to them about any problems you might be having, be honest with yourself and with them. ..if you use rlv learn about it and what it really can and cant do, dont be fooled by the fake dom's that like to lie and deceive and prey upon the uneducated. ..dont feel bad about leaving a Dom if they are not the right one for you. you dont have to stay with them just because they say so. ..dont believe its cheating to log out of rlv like fake doms will try and tell you. its your choice if you use it not, not theirs. ..you have just as many rights as they do about having your needs and desires filled. you have just as much power as they do. its not all about them. ..its a two way street based upon trust and consent and communication and respect. submission is a gift, not right of theirs to claim
  12. All you can really do is report their behavior to the sim owner and see if they will do anything. More than likely they will not. Bento or not your ears were non-human and some places like to be pure human only places. Anything non-human is not allowed. And the person may have been a stickler for the rules. There are lots of those types of people here in sl. The best bit of advice is never go back, find some place else. There are hundreds/thousands of other places to choose from that are less drama filled. Unfortunately the way sl works, is that sim owners and anyone on the sim staff list are basically gods, they can do what ever they want including telling you how to behave and how to look if you want to be there or they can eject you if they so wish or ban you. linden labs wont do anything about them doing it either. The common idea is they rented the sim, so they get to set the rules of what is allowed or not regardless of how childish or drama filled or stupid those rules may be to others. Some of them keep players there to enforce those rules to pander to their ego about how powerful and dominant they are over everyone that comes there. You break a rule, even if no one else but them is around to see it they will whine about it and make threats and demands. Option 1, conform to their rules. Option 2, dont and ignore them and risk being ejected and banned. Option 3, never go back again after learning of their stupid and childish rules. So now you and you bf have to decide what to do about that place. either not wear the ears or not go back.
  13. Actually PA does have several plugins that let you get aroused by what words people say, if someone else is naked near you, if someone else has the PA system and they themselves are aroused. It is a very versatile system if you have all the plugins for it. It can even simulate going into heat where your arousal rises on its own throughout a set number of days. And if you have the PS- project sex system and use it for your sexual activities it effects the PA system. and there is the PC- project cuddles system and the project clothes system. If you have all of them you really can do a lot of interesting things. There are lots of PA toys that can interact with the PA system to get you aroused as well.
  14. why pay, when you can get it for free.. especially from my Master or someone else.
  15. I have one word for this entire thread.. LOL.. ok.. make it three.. anyone taking any of this serious is either really stupid or just plain dumber than a box of rocks..
  16. You cant change the uuid of your avatar yourself. Only LL can change the uuid of any item directly. So no you cant change your uuid to get off of someones block/mute list or off of some group/sims ban list. And unfortunately it also means if someone uses one of those login notifiers to track you, you cant stop that either.
  17. I believe real restraint has some rope harness's that work similar to open collar. not sure about the communities to look for though.
  18. I would have to disagree that it would be ok to do. Just because you enter a group or sim does not mean you are giving consent to anyone in that group of sim just by being there. If anything that club needs to provide an opt-out option where anyone that doesnt want to be monitored can be asked not to be. In fact you can contact the sim owner and tell them you dont give consent and that you revoke any implied or assumed consent that they have tried to take from you. The worst case is they will kick you or ban you from coming back to the sim. If they dont and they continue to try and monitor you, You can report them for breach of ToS at that point. No individual outside of LL has the right to arbitrarily modify anyones right to consent for any reason, be it in a group or sim. You cannot force consent to be given or imply consent is given or assume consent is given just because you entered an area or group ever, that is not how consent works and never was. Sign or not post or not local message or not consent doesnt legally work that way. You always have the right to revoke consent to monitoring, at most all they can do is tell you to leave and not come back. At which point you tell all your friends and anyone else about the group/club/sim and what they do so less people go there. Once it gets around word of mouth that people are being monitored against their consent less people will go there over time and the place will die out.
  19. Its quite simple how I manage mine. If you have not made any efforts to talk to me in more than a month you get deleted. If I am the one that always has to initiate the conversation every time you will get deleted in a few months. If I keep trying and you dont respond back ever, you get deleted sooner. Its called a friends list for a reason, its for friends to keep in contact with each other. if either side of that equation is not holding up to their end of the deal then there is no friendship and they no-longer deserve to be on the list anymore.
  20. No its not really possible to fake being offline, for anyone sharing any groups you are in can always see if you are online or not even if you set yourself as offline to everyone else.
  21. If you get annoyed by necro posts, you seriously need to get over yourself and learn to just deal with it, these forums are not here just for your enjoyment and do not have to function how you want to keep you happy. if you dont like it then dont read the forums anymore, stop thinking your views or desires about how the forum should work is any more important than anyone else, they are not and never was or will be. tough luck, grow up stop acting like an entitlement minded little child upset that something is not going your way.
  22. Nope you cant block reactions. Its not possible on these forums. All you can do is turn of notifications which mean you wont know if anyone reacts to your posts at all. You cannot censor another persons reactions to your post, so you just have to deal with it.
  23. I agree, there is no implied or auto consent just because a collar is worn or rlv is on, this is a misconstrued myth that has been long perpetrated here in sl. Collar+RLV+sub_role=/=auto or implied or blanket consent by any means to everyone. Even if stated in the profile it doesnt mean it. If it was not asked for, consent was not given. It cannot be taken by anyone automatically no matter the sim or group ever. Anyone with any real experience in bdsm and not just a fan of the '50 shades of abuse' movies and books knows this.
  24. Are you new to the RLV experience? Has someone told you stuff that just didn't seem right? Knowing what RLV is and what it does is the key to keep you from being taken advantage of. Yes there is users of RLV that look for the RLV ignorant and play games that can cause stress and drama for you as sad as it is. RLV stands for Restricted Love Viewer it is a feature in your viewer that gives others, object and furniture control over your avatar. Most use this as BDSM based play or just plain kinky sex. RLV can be fun if you like the loss of control, it can be light or extreme, whatever level you are comfortable. I wont go into the details of exactly how it works, my knowledge is basic but I can help you sort out the truths with the untruths. Lets start off with some myths and go right to busting them: 1. You are in control of RLV, your viewer and what happens while you are under anyones control. You can turn off RLV by: Firestorm: Go to your tabs and click AVATAR>PREFERENCES>FIRESTORM, then the Tab of Extras, the first check box is " Allow Remote Scripted Viewer " uncheck it to turn off, you can even do this before you even log in, when your viewer comes up on your PC screen, up in the left corner is two tabs, one of them will have preferences, look for the same tabs and you can turn off RLV. relog and fix yourself, turn back on RLV, Tp to a diff sim and relog. 2.The biggest myth of all time is " If you turn off RLV for any reason it's cheating!" I have to laugh at this, it's only cheating if you are under someones control that mean something to you, like a Dom/Domm Spouse/partner ETC. and you turn off RLV to " Cheat" them out of the control you gave them. It is ok to turn off RLV if you get stuck on furniture, object or some asshat put you there but forgot to release you or just put you there to be a dick.It's not cheating to help yourself out of a situation. 3. Ok some person at some sim gifted you a collar or gave you one and locked it on you and now poofed or says he owns you.. blah blah blah, unless you like that, you can turn off RLV, relog, take off the collar, toss it in the trash, turn back on RLV and relog home. 4. You put someone as a owner with out realizing they had total power over you in the collar. You can runaway, if you cant touch the collar to get into the menu just use /prefixrunaway the jerk will be notified but I can promise you, they wont really care, they did it to a million RLV users already. What the prefix is is your name initials, either the first and sec letters or the older ones was your first initial and your last name initial, if you don't have one just use your first two letters. so it would look like this /gerunaway on newer collars or /gorunaway if on older versions Never put someone you don't know very well as collar owner, best to add them to trusted, that way you still have executive power is things don't work out but they still can control you. If they get mad about you not putting them as a owner, that should be a reg flag to you, don't do it just to make them happy, remember YOU are in control. 5. As far as Linden Labs is concerned RLV is consensual and if someone insists on griefing/harassing you using RLV, turn it off, it's ok, nobody is going to belittle you for doing it, we have all been in situations just like that at some point of time. Most RLV collars have a way to blacklist someone off it, or you can turn it to only a group or private setting. Leaving your collar open to the public does not have to be intimidating, it can be fun, just knowing how to handle situations makes it less dramatic and getting out of stuff a snap. 6. There is so many ways someone could abuse the RLV system and put you to a serious disadvantage, you can ask for help. Join RLV support groups, creators groups, someone will help you fix your collar, get you off something you're stuck on. 7. Make back ups of your collars, put in a separate folder. Make sure they are set the way you want or you will be messing with the settings all over again. A lot of older sl account doms here will purposely find and toss on a collar on someone who is new to RLV/SL in general, why is this common, because these guys prefer ignorance over experience, they can tell you something and you a slave/sub will believe them because you did not know any better and that is how RLV myths are formed. Ask them if they ever managed a real submissive, mostly likely they will say" Yes" how do you know that, honestly the number game is very much against what they tell you. In the end more than likely once they collar you, they slowly will get tired of you and either log in less and less or just claim they are busy. All SL doms do and will ditch their slaves/subs because neither of you established basic common likes and dislikes past BDSM.If the only thing holding you two is your leash, a collar and sucking ***** in a cage, you're pretty much setting yourself up to be hurt. It is ok to play a submissive and not want a owner, it is ok to like the capture game, move from one dom to another for sex, we all have our comfort zones, nothing wrong with what you like. Being safe and feeling ok with things is never wrong.
  25. You can only set yourself as offline to your friends. Any group you are in will still show if your online. So no there is no complete method to hide your online status. Which I do think should be possible. I think you should be shown as offline even from the server or groups to prevent anyone from using a script to track if your are online if you choose to show as offline. The only way to hide it is to hide your groups so only those in your groups can see if your online or not. But any online notifier system will still let them know when you are online because the server will still show you as online.
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