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Sonja Smedley
Posts: 915
Registered: ‎11-14-2010

Where are all the lonely people?

Hi there!

Well, I´m searching for friends, cause again I choose a very wrong one and got hurted!

But I stand up again and I´m ready for a new beginning.

Where are all the lonely people in SL...come and let´s be friends.

I´m lonely too and I love to meet new ones.

Everyone is welcome to contact me inworld.

I speak English and German!:-)))

Looking forward to see you.......waves to you.....

https://marketplace.secondlife.com/de-DE/stores/70253



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Kezia Ansar
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There are quite a few people in the forums that seem to be looking for a new friend, have a quick search and you'll be socializing it up in no time :smileyhappy:

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Thinkerer Melville
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Here are some ways you can use Second Life to meet people who probably share some of your interestsL

How do I meet people ? Summary

http://virtualoutworlding.blogspot.com/2011/05/kit-how-do-i-meet-people-summary.html

TKR

 

 

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Simondavis
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Wait wait, you chose the wrong ones again? Sigh when will people learn granted there are people behind the avis but sheesh really you think the fat lonely broken down derilects of people that actually play this game are friends? Grranted there are a few exceptions to the rules and yes i know iknow im being mean for stateing my opinon here but that is my right to do so. I see blogs and question about oh how do people not leave sl and rl apart , well i tell you this the moment you voice with them,share any sort of personal info with the opposite then you have blurred that line of SL and RL beyond the point of repair. It is impossible to not invest rl emotions into this hellish realm that we venture into everyday.  Jelousy and hate are a give in and will always happen .. Emotions are intensified here.. like when we find a mate cheating you are limited to the constraints of verbal or typed words and some get frustrated that the fact they can be so easily muted. now before you get all mmmhmmm like.. yes i am also guilty of this... so I do not shake my finger at you without also shaking it at myself as well...So when you ask the Question where are all the lonely people lol i say the game is full of only lonely people. yes there are the sainted few that have no issues in rl at all but i challenge you to contact me and prove it... every one that plays this game is looking for some thing that is missing in their RL.. be it companionship,"love" do even get me started on the use of the word love here in this game lol, or  they are a 500lb human and lives vicariously through sl..what ever your pleasure is what this game is for but we all are guilty of investing way to much time and emotionaly stability in this game. Sorry if i have offended anyone with my rants... but like i say it is my right to express them here... and like it or not i know a few of you see my points as valid.....thanks for reading

 

UncommonTruth
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Registered: ‎09-19-2011

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You're right that everyone is entitiled to their own opinions...I'm just at as loss as to how yours has anything to do with this thread. The game is full of lonely people, that and boredom are why most of us find online games to pass some time. But it bothers me more than a little that you keep mentioning broken down fat people as the bulk of the players here. I have friends in rl of all shapes and sizes, I dont see how that has anything at all to do with emotional stability. Ok, and now that I have that out of my system lol, it sounds like you've been through some drama yourself. I hope you can work through it without becoming (even more) jaded.

 

@the Op- I'm not on constantly or anything, but you're welcome to IM me anytime I am. :matte-motes-smile:

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Simondavis
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Lol im not jaded ive actually been here in SL for going on 5 years now actually im just sure of most of my observations to my Sl if your is different then good for you and i mean that. Yes i have have my share of drama here in sl and i do not deny that in the least. But again i say in my opinion this is just what i think thanks for responding and please feel free to im me at anytime...i love to have good discussions .....Freedom of speech the best thing we can have besides the right to spell stuff wrong as well lololol

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Bandito Razor
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Freedom of speech is a lot like having the Freedom to Swing my arms about... it ends at the point where your arm his my damn nose. Freedom of speech is NOT the same as "Freedom to say any ignorant thing that is generally offensive just because I have a chip on my shoulder."

@OP: Sadly, in life (notice I didn't say SL/RL. They are both part of LIFE) we all make friends who end up doing something stupid/bad/ect. You are at least shoving past the fear of it happening again, and you are putting yourself out there. Better then some who would have put their head in a hole and just hidden.

Feel free to contact me on SL or on FB (http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002505390862) if you want to talk.
(Warning: I admit I am opinionated but I try to be so in a funny way :smileytongue:)

Linda Brynner
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Registered: ‎02-25-2009

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Hi,

What i would do is be a bit selective really. Just go to places and give friendship time. The grant of entrustment is a path in all our lives. Even more in sl i would say since it is the internet.

I can't agree actually that friendship in SL isn't possible. I have met the most wonderful people with whom i kept contact rl because they live close to me. Their rl was very ok, but nothing in life is perfect. Everyone has issues here and there, and more and less.

I do agree that there are many in SL out of misery in rl. I am sorry to hear that, but that is the exact reason why i do strongly would advice you to be very selective and like rl, do build entrustment rather than just jumping in.

It is not interesting to have a 50+ friendslist just for the numbers lol. It is about the quality.

Ach für mich ist die Deutsche Sprache einer mitt historie. Super, perfekt kann ich es nicht mehr, aber ich mag die Sprache sehr gerne :smileyhappy:

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Willow Danube
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Registered: ‎06-13-2010

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I honestly do not see anything wrong on people who are obviously lonely and looking for a little glimpse of fulfillment. Perhaps the reason why someone is lonely in RL is because they did not have a choice like what she/he would get in SL. What I don't get is people who claimed that they are happily fullfilled in RL and yet the things that they did in SL were clearly the opposite. 

At least the OP is being honest about it. Many of us are in denial. Many of us had become numb, weary and a little bit bitter...

 

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Bandito Razor
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God knows it is easy to get bitter due to Life, both your real life and second life (Which blend).

 

I tell everyone, and I truly mean it, that so long as you give 100% and you can go to sleep that night knowing you did not hide, that you did not let fear control you, that you did not run from risks... then you can at least sleep knowing you are trying to live your life as much as possible.