kattatonia Wickentower

@ Mags and @Marigold, Thanks for your generous understanding of my imperfections - i do agree - it's better to imperfect than unfeeling. Still, I wish I were a bit stronger. @Dillon "who ya gonna call?"

Dr. Peter Venkman: I'm fuzzy on the whole good/bad thing. What do you mean "bad"? Dr. Egon Spengler: Try to imagine all life as you know it stopping instantaneously, and every molecule in your body exploding at the speed of light. Dr. Raymond Stantz: Total protonic reversal! Dr. Peter Venkman: Right, that's bad. Okay, alright, important safety tip, thanks Egon. I do think that having a spouse in RL and having a partner in SL is cheating. And I do think that cheating is a bad thing. But here's the thing, when I first came to SL, I was married in RL. The marriage was in deep trouble and I am now divorced. I found the relationships I formed in SL were much more intense and satisfying than my RL marriage, and while I didn't come to SL intending to cheat on my then husband, I found myself doing so. I never would have considered cheating in RL but somehow I fell down the slippery slope in SL. So I guess I was bad. Now I am divorced so that bad thing is gone. But my SL partner is married in RL. And so I guess I am still bad, and still tortured by it. But somehow I can't give up my partner. I'm not going to pretend that what I'm doing is OK, but I'm not ready to stop either. I am pretty honest about who I am but I don't think that means I should be excused for the bad things I do.

Cerise Sorbet wrote: Keli Kyrie wrote: It is too late for some I fear. Maybe this will be a good thing for our community? At least more questions are being answered seriously instead of with witty replies. But boy oh boy do I miss some of those witty replies. It could be good for the outside community. The answer and forum replies are supposed to be raw material to build the knowledge base, so maybe that will help more people enjoy SL. The name "community" for this web site is perverse, LL made it clear that they want no such thing here. Cerise, I'd just like to thank you again for posting how to put up that style sheet that makes the ranks invisible, unless you scroll over them. I find that I like it much better without the clutter or ranks in my face. Maybe you could post that again here? And Keli, don't worry about your friend, they'll either get over themselves and realize what a fool they've been or they weren't worth spending so much time with in the first place. I hope for your sake that your life is filled with so much positive stuff to do that you won't miss them so much.

Quinn Morani wrote: So my question here is, how has YOUR SL experience changed over time? And if, like me, your time in-world is limited, how do you balance having a broader social life and developing/nurturing individual friendships with the attention that you'd like to? I want it all! That's not asking for too much, is it? Of course it isn't Quinn, I want it all too. For me it's changed a lot and it still keeps changing. In my early hours in sl, I found NCI, Kuula. And the people I met there changed my life. They started teaching me how to play with prims. In fact I spend the next three months at NCI almost non stop. I learned so much there, and the people I met there became my first sl friends. One of them became my first sl romance. When that ended, I had to leave kuula for a while. Not permanently, I still go back to visit. I just don't live there anymore. So I moved to NCI Beach. I had been there to take classes quite a few times and I just changed my home spot to there. And there I met my partner. And my whole SL world changed again. Not long after I met him I moved in with him on his island, and spent my time with him alone. But he lives on the other side of the earth from me so our times together in SL are quite limited. So I found myself spending time alone in SL, and did solitary things. I shopped a lot, I built a little, took a class now and then. I'd still get together with a friend or two that I'd made from the early days but not very often. A lot of those early friendships were based on hanging out at the same place at the same time and I was out of the loop now. The next phase of my SL life commenced when I started posting in the old GD forum. There I found people like myself who wanted to reflect about what it all meant, living a second life. I started meeting some of the forum people in world and attending parties and concerts with them. It's funny how in the forums all we did was talk but in world we don't say very much, just go, go, go. I miss the talking. Now the old forum is gone and the new forum just isn't the same. Some people I really enjoyed reading are gone. Others post so seldom and I often miss their posts because there are so many little categories and I never know where to look for the conversation. That is what is missing I think. Throughout the old forums there was a continuing conversation. It bounced from thread to thread,often derailing the topic, but it was alive. The new forums are lifeless in comparison. So I've been searching elsewhere for my connections. I still have my partner, and our ongoing conversation hasn't paled. And I still have my oldest friends from Kuula, and my newer friends from the old forum. I just need to find the time and place to talk to them.

All you can do is walk away. Any attempt to engage with a crazy person is bound to fail. Logic will not work. There may not be a logical explanation for her behavior. I'm sorry you had to experience this.

Storm Clarence wrote: @Perrie Which brings us to another dynamic that comes into play in any relationship: can we trust someone we do not like, but respect? I can mix these three words and still ask the same question. Can we like someone we do no trust or respect? Speaking for myself, I can say sort of say yes with qualifications. I definitely like some that I do not trust. That is part of the appeal of the rogue. And I might grudgingly respect someone that I do not particularly like or trust..

I think there is a difference between trust and expectations. I do not need to place my trust in what I read in the forums. I have reasonable expectations that I generally see fulfilled regularly. For example I expect that a post seeking technical help will be responded to with the best information our users have to offer. In the same vein, I expect that a playful post will get a playful response. I also expect that the enmity between certain users will always color their interchanges. Since, for many, SL is an entertainment venue, I don't expect people to be serious all the time here. It's a pretend world, and there are lots of different ways to pretend. I expect that sometimes there will be miscommunication between the players, since they come from so many varied backgrounds.

I was just thinking about how things have changed. I used to use my dashboard page as my home page, because it was a way of keeping in touch with what my friends were talking about. Whenever I sat at the computer, the first thing I wanted to look at was what were the latest threads in the forum? I rarely look at my dashboard anymore since we've changed over to the new forum format. And when I do look at it I am disappointed. I know how much money I have and I know what groups I belong to. I have a pretty good idea of when my friends are online and there's nothing much the dashboard has to tell me anymore. So now the first place I go when I sit at my computer is Twitter. How do you stay in touch?

Welcome to SL Chloe Ann/ I've passed you a notecard in world with some good info culled from a thread in the old forums.

When I was a teenager, I swore like a teenager. When I grew up I learned how to speak politely. When I became a mother I taught my daughter these simple rules. 1) Adults shouldn't swear in front of kids. 2) Kids shouldn't swear in front of children who are younger than them or adults. 3) When you're with your peers you can speak as you wish. 4) When you are not sure who is listening, speak as if there are young children present. In SL, I am never sure who is listening.

I have one presently in the Japanese ghetto. It would be terrible to have neighbors so closely packed together if everyone was home at the same time, but that rarely happens, so privacy is not an issue. I don't know why, either there are a lot of vacancies or else the people who live near me just don't sign on much, or they hang out somewhere other than home..... For a 512 spot it's nice to have the extra prims that the prefab house provides. I've tried owning a 512 bit of land and you really can't build much with so few prims. And if you get bored you can always move to a different style. I've also had a home in the enchanted ghetto and it was deserted most of the time as well. So if all you want is a place for changing clothes, sorting inventory and teh sechs, then a Linden home may be just what you are looking for. I was much happier when we had an island though, we could play around with the land and building things and live in the sky and such, and your linden home won't allow any of that. But that'll cost you some tier.

Keli Kyrie wrote: Now that the forum has been broken up into all these sub-forums I find the best way to get around is by the use of tabs. Do you use tabs? If so how many? I don't start a tab for each topic. I use one tab to go though all the topics looking for threads with some signs of life, if I find any I will open each one I find in a new tab. Sadly I don't find many. There's not much to talk about 'round here. It's a pity.

Well said.

Storm Clarence wrote: As a side note, someone posted 'different' gaming angles to set in the viewer - over the left shoulder, etc. I wish I could find that post again. I liked the settings - when I changed viewers I lost them. I had that post bookmarked but the bookmark just takes me to the archive title page now. Sorry Storm. ETA - found it: http://community.secondlife.com/t5/General-Discussions/Improving-Your-SL-Experience-With-Better-Camera-Placement/m-p/503974/highlight/true#M246588

/me pats Keli gently on the shoulder. It's going to be all right dear. Don't worry about who is in charge right now, the important thing to remember is that you are not.

Rhonda Huntress wrote: Some acronyms have become words. Snafu, for example. And then there are companies that go by their initials. BBC, AT&T, and many more. Are those acronyms? Is saying Charlie Foxtrot alright or should I spell it out? Only you can decide if you suffer from acronymia or not, Charlie Foxtrot may or may not know the answer.

Perrie Juran wrote: what the duck self censored post I'm sorry Perrie, I don't understand your question. But I applaud the lack of acronyms.:smileywink:

Well done Valerie. Now remember, we all must take baby steps at first. Keep on posting. :smileywink:

Koko Carlucci wrote: OMG! ITLTP!!!! Thanks Koko, try again. :smileywink:

It's occurred to me that there has been an outbreak of Acronymia recently here in the forums and it's been spreading unchecked. Every other post seems to introduce new and unnecessary acronyms to our world. If this keeps up I doubt that anyone will understand what we are talking about anymore. So I think it is time for an intervention. For reasons that I am quite sure will not surprise you, I cannot force anyone to stop using acronyms. It must be a voluntary admission on your part that you have a problem, otherwise your recovery chances are not so good. Now, if you suspect that you might have contracted this terrible disease, there is a fairly simple test. Try to post without using or referring to any acronyms. If you can make 3 posts without using any acronyms, then you could possibly be a social user of acronyms. Congratulations dear poster, and keep on posting please, we need more like you. If on the other hand you fail my simple test, then do not despair. There is still hope for you. In fact, I believe a complete recovery can be made. Once one admits they have a problem, they are actually on the way to recovery. Remember, together we can accomplish many things which alone might baffle us.:smileyhappy:

Helloo and welcome. I passed you a note card in world with the collected wisdom from a forum thread about helping newcomers from a couple of months ago. Enjoy!

I remember it very well. I googled SL a bunch before I joined. I found lot of advice for fixing up your av. Some of it was way out of date but I didn't realize it. So I set about changing my appearance right away and was doing just fine until I tried to make a bracelet to hold a walk animation. I didn't know about huds or AOs, the article I read spoke only about making a different walk. So I was trying to fit this simple gold bracelet to my wrist and because I had no experience manipulating prims I was having a terrible time getting it to fit. So I followed the advice of something else I had read and tp'd to NCI to get some help with it. Well the helpers at nci were quite tickled with this day old newbie who had all the technical questions about making an AO bracelet. I'll never forget Quite Oh, who helped me immensely. First she took me shopping for a free ao Then she gave me my first lessons in how to work with prims. NCI became my home for the first three months and I learned so much from the people there. I fell totally in love with SL and have been addicted ever since.

Keli Kyrie wrote: kattatonia Wickentower wrote: Well, I am very new at this photoshopping but I saved the image and brought it in to PS. Now I think I just need to use the little lasso tool to cut away the white part, right? But how do I make a transparent layer? Make sure that what you are looking at is transparent like you want it. Then save it as a PNG and that should work. well it's been fun practicing, but I decided to go with another one of your creations instead, the no rank rank

Well, I am very new at this photoshopping but I saved the image and brought it in to PS. Now I think I just need to use the little lassoo tool to cut away the white part, right? But how do I make a transparent layer?

Venus Petrov wrote: @Katt: No worries, the badge idea is just fun, voluntary and stuff. You are still a PIC! I take it all back, if the badges are going to be that adorable, then I want one too. @Keli, can I have a copy too please? eta added an extra o to to to make it too