brittanybelike Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 How hard is it?Are some comfortable with meeting in real life?Ive considered maybe using second life as a dating app like i use pleny of fish and okcupidI see so many people every day who have met through second life and who have married in the reals...25 female here single from the usawhats up lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ariel Vuissent Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 SL isn't a dating service. I wouldn't advise using it as one. It can and does happen, of course, that people meet and begin a relationship and move it to RL and are very happy together; but it's not terribly common. SL isn't set up for that. It's better, imo, to go in expecting and trying to make friends, and see if a relationship evolves naturally. For a RL relationship, stick to RL dating services like those you're already on. The closest thing I can think of in SL is AVMatch. If you really want a relationship, try that, perhaps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ticee Nansen Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 I largely agree with the lady above, most people I know go on SL to get a break from RL. I'd also just point out that the majority of people I have met in SL (and it's not that I'm particularly kinky) who were interested in RL relations, were primarily looking for RL sex. So just be aware you'll most likely encounter that too if you start looking for RL stuff.. but I guess that can be part of dating too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barracuda Gage Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 im flabbergasted by yalls responses to this lady.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhonda Huntress Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Barracuda Gage wrote: im flabbergasted by yalls responses to this lady.... Care to expand on that for us? All I have is my own perception and while I do know a few who have met in SL and have successfully taken it to RL, those couples are the exceptions, not the rule. Ariel and Ticee seem to have similar experiences as I. While it is possible, it is rare and we don't want to give Brittany unreal expectations in finding a RL relationship in a virtual world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluemoonn00 Posted October 1, 2015 Share Posted October 1, 2015 I agree with most people that SL isn't a dating service for RL relationships. You can however encounter love in this world, which closely resembles love in the real world, especially when you use voice and exchange pics. And in rare cases it does lead to RL relationships, which in turn fail in 90% of the cases according to statistics. But you should be careful if you choose to go this route. Some people Roleplay their avi/characters like a novel writer. Which can lead to a painful situation where one person is deeply in love with a fictional personage. And even when the love is real, do not expect an exclusive relationship. In the real world 50% of couples cheat on their partners. My rough estimate is that its 90-95% in SL. Which makes it a general rule, if everyone does it, its no longer cheating but do keep that in mind to prevent getting hurt. Bottom line: Yes you will probably be able to find love that stays within SL. Based on real emotions and real voice, but relayed via avatars. Also keep in mind that this young handsome guy with sixpack could be a bald old fat guy in reality. Personally I wouldn't care because ones mind is what's important for me. But if you are looking for a RL love, then it does become an issue. Choose wisely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freya Mokusei Posted October 1, 2015 Share Posted October 1, 2015 Bluemoonn00 wrote: And in rare cases it does lead to RL relationships, which in turn fail in 90% of the cases according to statistics. Which statistics? And on what metric do they 'fail'? 100% of RL relationships fail over a long enough period ('everyone dies!) - the percentage is meaningless without qualifiers. Bluemoonn00 wrote: In the real world 50% of couples cheat on their partners. My rough estimate is that its 90-95% in SL. Which makes it a general rule, if everyone does it, its no longer cheating but do keep that in mind to prevent getting hurt. 50% doesn't seem like a real count (how would it even be obtained?), if it exists in the real world it was probably a limited study in a relatively puritanical and highly legislative western country (such as the US) where hypergamy is frequently rewarded. I've never seen any study that approaches this number. 90-95% in SL may seem totally logical to you, to the point where evidence isn't even necessary. That sounds sad for your limited experience but doesn't really mean anything to those outside of it. Diversity is everywhere in Second Life, there is no such thing as a singular or unified reaction to infidelity or even to approaching relationships at fundamental levels. By the way, 'cheating' as a concept is definitely still cheating even if 100% of people do it. Moral concepts aren't derived from their success in the wild. What is more interesting than decrying the perception of high rates of cheating, is the possibility of reacting productively to negative experiences. Getting past superficiality is one thing, getting past expectations of posession, ever-lasting love and removal of the freedom to explore and change is quite another. Old, comfortable dynamics weren't designed for love across wires. This technological reality doesn't make love bad, doesn't prevent people from finding deeply important romantic and non-romantic connections. Is just different. Different is good, even if not everyone gets it right away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
philomathia Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 I've been on plenty of fish and I think sometimes the majority of the guys I've met on here are more emotionally involved than those on plenty of fish. There are a lot of sexual pervs on POF. At least here, I think there is a greater chance of getting to know someone than POF if they are being themselves and not playing a role. Whether it is sl or POF, there is always a chance you are falling for a fantasy rather than a reality with anything online. Always be cautious and have realistic expectations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adorarose Trueheart Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 You don't have to seek but you can put yourself out their yes many have found love but its when they expected it. Connection has to be truly built. I am single in both if it happens it happens it truly takes someone special to wake it up. Second life is build with romance with out passion their is nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selene Gregoire Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 On 9/18/2015 at 2:27 PM, brittanybelike said: How hard is it? Are some comfortable with meeting in real life? Ive considered maybe using second life as a dating app like i use pleny of fish and okcupid I see so many people every day who have met through second life and who have married in the reals ... 25 female here single from the usa whats up lol 1) If you look for it, you won't find it. Let it come to you. 2) Some are, some aren't. Some of us got lucky and met a good person, some ended up dead. Never meet up alone. Always have a friend or family member close by. 3) Don't. It isn't a dating site. Think of it as more of a community where you have a chance, however small, of finding like minded people. 4) We didn't meet in SL, we met in Active Worlds, 20 years ago. Nineteen years later we are still living together, not married. ... Still a kid. The opposite of down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selene Gregoire Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 15 hours ago, TeraChrista said: You don't have to seek but you can put yourself out their yes many have found love but its when they expected it. Connection has to be truly built. I am single in both if it happens it happens it truly takes someone special to wake it up. Second life is build with romance with out passion their is nothing. You necroed a 4 year old thread and I posted in it! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
captainofmysoul Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 Hi. Im Camellia (captainofmysoul). Im 57, divorced, from Argentina, SLT +4. I´d like to meet a male companion to share all SL has to offer on a daily basis. If you are my age or older and would like to IM me plz feel free to do so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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