Petrilia Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 So I decided to give Second Life a try. I figured that visiting a few of the clubs listed as Active and Newcomer Friendly on the search feature would be a good way to get to meet a few people. So I fired up the search and went to visit the first BDSM Club that the result shot back to me, only to be inexplicably banned from the building. And when I asked the person about why I was told that it was because I made my account less than 15 days ago and I was insulted for not knowing what certain game abbreviations mean... I figured that if ~this~ was the community's idea of 'Newcomer Friendly' I should just forget about it before I even start. After thinking about it a bit more I decided that it isn't really fair to judge everone off of a single first impression. So taking that lesson learned as how ~not~ to get started, I thought that I would give the forums a shot? Where can I go as a woman interested in Submission and Domination to meet other people looking to relax and unwind a couple of hours a few times a week? Preferably something a bit less intimidating than an entire room packed full of people at once. If anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them! Thank you in advance! -Petrilia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randall Ahren Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Where were you banned from? A good place to start is House of V. Click here for the slurl that will teleport you there using your viewer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bethany Bowenford Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Do a search dor Romance. Love and Discipline - not a bad place to start. There's a small 'chat' area there (by the beach) that doesn't get packed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Jetaime Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Welcome to SL Petrilia. I'm not excusing what happened to you but just fyi, griefers often create an avatar to do their dirty work then dump them so they don't get in trouble and have their real avatar banned. A griefer, in case you don't know is someone out to disrupt a venue, disturb the people there and maybe even crash the sim. To prevent this, some venue owners take the easy way out and just eject and ban anyone new that happens to stumble into their place as a result. But not all do. Don't get discouraged. If you spend some time in SL you are going to have some wonderful experiences and meet some great people. Just keep in mind that in any large group of people there always are a few rotten ones that spoil it for others. The best thing to do is just laugh it off and go else where. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petrilia Posted March 28, 2012 Author Share Posted March 28, 2012 Thank you all for the quick and encouraging replies! I met someone in-game who has been a tremendious help in getting my profile set up and everything. It has really made everything a much better experience! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thinkerer Melville Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Here is an article about some of the things we do in SL What do we do in Second Life? 2012 http://virtualoutworlding.blogspot.com/2012/01/kif-what-do-we-do-in-second-life-2012.html TKR Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippie Bowman Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Petrilia wrote: So I decided to give Second Life a try. I figured that visiting a few of the clubs listed as Active and Newcomer Friendly on the search feature would be a good way to get to meet a few people. So I fired up the search and went to visit the first BDSM Club that the result shot back to me, only to be inexplicably banned from the building. And when I asked the person about why I was told that it was because I made my account less than 15 days ago and I was insulted for not knowing what certain game abbreviations mean... I figured that if ~this~ was the community's idea of 'Newcomer Friendly' I should just forget about it before I even start. After thinking about it a bit more I decided that it isn't really fair to judge everone off of a single first impression. So taking that lesson learned as how ~not~ to get started, I thought that I would give the forums a shot? Where can I go as a woman interested in Submission and Domination to meet other people looking to relax and unwind a couple of hours a few times a week? Preferably something a bit less intimidating than an entire room packed full of people at once. If anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them! Thank you in advance! -Petrilia Hi Petrilia! Welcome to SL and to the SL Forums! We can be less intimidating indeed! Have fun in SL and here in the Forums! Peace! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmettcullen93 Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 welcome to sl if you need any inworld help helping haven is a great place to start and there are plenty of freebie shops out there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Syo Emerald Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Wow the first time I hear about someone getting banned just because of their avatar age. Thats really crazy :matte-motes-agape: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Innula Zenovka Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Hi, Petrilia.. welcome to SL and the forums. May I suggest you visit the Adult Hub BDSM,? It certainly is "Newcomer Friendly," and is a good place both to hang out and meet people and also to find out more about SL in general and SL BDSM in particular. It's a privately-run initiative aimed at new people who want to find out more about BDSM in SL, and anyone there wearing a staff tag will be glad to answer questions about this or anything else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippie Bowman Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Look me up and friend me if you wish Petrilia! I could show you the ropes of SL. I also teach a building class on Saturdays! Far out! Peace! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZaZa Jinn Posted March 29, 2012 Share Posted March 29, 2012 Hi Petrilia, Welcome Try "The Gateway" to see if that appeals to you. I will send you an LM when I get in world. Sorry your first experience was negative but good you didn't let that deter you. Enjoy and be well Zaza Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeny Howlett Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 Hi Pertilia. Welcome to SL. You could try NCI, the Shelter,White tiger mentor island. Althought these places are friendly and being monitored by land officers occasionally you would still meet someone rude. But don't let that scare you off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippie Bowman Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 Also try Helping Haven! Here is a link to the map for helping haven. http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Isle%20of%20Creation/7/249/22/?title=Helping+Haven&img=http%3A%2F%2Fcommon-flash-secondlife-com.s3.amazonaws.com%2F%2Fnew%2Fdestinations%2Fen%2F_img%2Fmidsize%2F6846.jpg&msg=New+Second+Life+Residents+can+find+a+helpful+hand+at+Helping+Haven%2C+a+spot+filled+with+experts+who+can+share+tips+and+tricks+to+getting+started+in+SL.+Visit+this+newcomer-friendly+community+for+freebies%2C+landmarks+and+other+useful+items. Great people there! Peace! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madelaine McMasters Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 ZaZa Jinn wrote: Hi Petrilia, Welcome Try "The Gateway" to see if that appeals to you. I will send you an LM when I get in world. Sorry your first experience was negative but good you didn't let that deter you. Enjoy and be well Zaza I'll second "The Gateway" as a warm and inviting place to start your explorations, Petrilla. http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Gateway/194/57/26 Welcome aboard! Maddy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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