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  1. Rya Nitely

    Forum becoming more negative?

    And my comment about the public supporting our struggling farmers was not off topic. As I explained. It was very much triggered by this thread.
  2. Rya Nitely

    Forum becoming more negative?

    But I did respond to your other post. I gave it a like. It was close to my bed time and I didn't have time to say any more than give a like. And I meant my post to you to be light hearted humour and not an attack or revenge, but if you saw it that way then I'm sorry. Gosh, I'm saying that a lot in a thread where most people don't feel the need for soft blankets. It just shows how we need to be very careful with what we say, and I need to be even more careful than I think I am, even with those who say soft blankets aren't necessary. And yes, it does show how tone can be misread, so for those who have been saying it, there's an example. Ethan, I wish I knew what to say. I know you are suffering, as many of us are and I do genuinely feel empathy for you. I only do warm blankets, so I want to wrap you in a warm hug and I do believe it works. I don't think anyone is damaged by a warm hug.
  3. Rya Nitely

    Forum becoming more negative?

    hey Ethan, how does this relate to the topic? I'm reading it all directions and can't see it 😕
  4. Rya Nitely

    Forum becoming more negative?

    I'm sorry Ethan, if it annoyed you 😞 but I thought the relevance was 'public awareness' leading to kindness.
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    Yes, that's why I didn't mention age, and I don't know how old people are here so I take it back Callum, I just love what's happening with the strawberry situation on television. I don't even like strawberries but I want to buy them. This shows how the public can be educated, to do something generous and altruistic. Oops I forgot to mention for those who don't know. Someone put needles in our strawberries, out of spite, and these farmers are losing money. We've been asked to help them by buying strawberries and just cut them up before you eat it.
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    I was trying hard to avoid mentioning age, but I think most of us are the older generation. And so this is a tough crowd to talk to about change. apologies ahead of time for anyone offended by my bringing age into it, see my later post where I take it back 😊
  7. Rya Nitely

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Does that always apply though? That reality doesn't need to change through education awareness? It's never necessary? A gay teenager struggling for acceptance, a child facing gender identity issues, etc. - educating society isn't necessary, because reality is what it is?
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    All my life I've stood against the group and next to a victim, and the group would turn against me too. When I was at school I was usually the first to make friends with the new person, even though I had plenty of friends. I always move towards the weaker, less powerful person. when I was 6 I was asked to choose a puppy out of a litter, and I was warned that the one over there is sick. I said ' I'll have the sick one'. Because I felt sorry for it. Of course I didn't get the sick puppy. One of my siblings got to choose, because I was 'stupid' 😔
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    It's altruism - its a characteristic that some have, and I believe most don't. When I started talking about kindness, people immediately thought I was meaning towards me, and they gave me advice about blocking people etc.. I was only ever using myself as an example. When I see new people having a hard time, my instinct is to protect them, like Luna and Phil and some others do as well.
  10. Rya Nitely

    Forum becoming more negative?

    Luna. You are saying everything I've been thinking and feeling for so long.
  11. Rya Nitely

    Forum becoming more negative?

    I acknowledged that I misunderstood your post. People in the forums are very much the same as anywhere else though. I agree with you there - it is a pretty regular mix of humanity. And although you didn't say it, I wanted to add it - this mix of humanity is everywhere. And people with social anxiety isolate themselves because they can't cope. People with social anxiety do have to help themselves, but there are so many people who suffer from it that society needs to be aware of it, because that helps. That's all 🙂
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    Education and awareness - it has been proven that it works.
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    Phil, I accept that I misunderstood you, but please allow me to say this without offending you again. “pretty regular mix of humanity” and “As a community, we are what we are. If a community of people is unappealing, then the best thing to do is opt out of it” A ‘pretty regular mix of humanity’ would be found everywhere, creating ‘Little Fires Everywhere’ (a good book that has a very good example of bullying, and how one little girl tries to defend the victim, when nobody else does, and she gets blamed - typical). Anyone who opts out of a forum of a pretty regular mix of humanity, because they can’t take the heat, would most likely be opting out of other social groups and communities. I isolated myself to the point where I couldn't go to work. There are many people who do, because these fires are everywhere. These loners will often be sitting in front of their computers, and they will look for company there...and get burnt. People who just don't see and understand it, it's simply because you don't experience it yourself. And that is why mental health awareness is so important. People can change, we've seen it happen in our society over and over again - through education and awareness. It has happened at my work. The bullies don't get support anymore, and so they stop. Stop supporting bullies, call them out on it, don't ignore it, don't defend it - make the world a better place.
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    ^ this and the most disappointing part of it, is that the power comes from having like minded people backing you up, and that's when you get a gang up.
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    Forum becoming more negative?

    I'm sorry I was unkind. If you felt it that way then I didn't respond in an appropriate way, and therefore I failed at what I was trying to accomplish. I acknowledge it, accept and will learn from it. I also apologize to Solar Legions too ( although he probably doesn't feel he needs it, I give it anyway). Advice given kindly and firmly, such as was described earlier is often helpful,. Cruel to be kind in the right measure, as long as this is the intention. Thank you Luna, I love you 😍
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