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You can guarantee someone's roleplayed that though..

Did we pass?

Yep, Chrissie had spent a lot of time absorbing British ska culture by the time she wrote the song.

Wait, you don't use your sidestep?? What about your skank? And is it reet?

I blame the Romans. I kinda overcooked too x

My online relationships (not just SL) have been very real and important to me for a few years now, due to a 'rl' relationship in which I was isolated from friends, family and former colleagues, with a partner who was emotionally unavailable while I was going through difficult times that neither of us had anticipated. I'm now out of that relationship, thankfully, and more able to appreciate the other big reason online connections have been so important to me: Being trans, the disconnect between who I am and how people percieve me face-to-face has made it almost impossible to express myself socially with the kind of freedom that I might enjoy if I'd been born cisgender. Online, I've been able to form lasting friendships with people over a period of time without having to worry about my appearance or presentation being oppressive or limiting, or warping the way people read me: some of these friends have since merged with my 'rl' circles but, because they've been able to get to know me as person without that visual disconnect beforehand, their acceptance of who I am has remained unflinchingly constant while people who have only ever known me in meatspace (I hate that term: anyone know a better one, that doesn't imply that physical space is 'more real'?) often struggle to reconcile my personality with who they want me to be. These days, I'm 'out of the closet' with carefully selected people in physical space (ok, that's a better term already!), including a very supportive and accepting local lgbt+ community, and presenting more and more as my true self in my daily and work lives, but it's still a constant uphill struggle navigating other peoples' preference for me to be someone they can get their head around (especially people who've never had to question or challenge their own identities because they fit so naturally into societal norms), the narrow and misleading representations of trans people they've received from external media (we're all unique individuals, so unless you get to know us at an individual level then no, you don't get to know who we are), and the exhausting process of having to 'come out'* and re-explain myself over and over again at the same time as keeping up with my own fluidity and personal evolution. So, in many ways, my online relationships can be more real than some physical space ones, and I'm most often drawn to online friends who reflect that realness whether it's for similar reasons or just who they are. *anyone with a non-visible identity such as gender variance, sexuality, neurodivergence, mental health marginalisation, invisible illnesses, and so on, may be familar with the experience that 'coming out' is never a one-off event, but something you go through over and over again to satisfy the judgement of people who never have to do it even once.

You are right, of course. This thread is about how people feel, and has become a source of mutual support in many cases. When emotions have been running high for some of us, it's inevitable that we will react to our feelings and concerns being dismissed so casually. However, I agree that we should end any quarreling and that anyone inclined to continue should take it elsewhere.

This assumes a position of privilege, which seems to tally with your comments about 'sore losers' and being entertained by politics that you can't bring yourself to care about (correct me if I am wrong). It's not that it's bad advice, but it's only applicable to those who enjoy enough comfort and security to be in a position to help the less fortunate. In reality, those who care about the plight of others tend to be those already experiencing hardship themselves and can empathise with genuine concern for their welfare. They also, more often than not, already do what they can to support others despite limited resources.

Yesterday's uk election result was pretty devastating, but I'd rather not say more about that just now. I have my kids with me for the weekend, and feel blessed by their warmth, wit and our own sense of family and excitement as we plan our xmas celebrations together ❤️

I'm so sorry. Maybe they'll play Muddy Waters, Buddy Guy and Robben Ford next time..

Alaskametro on the MP - they do free 'testers' samples of their makeup ranges that include Omega appliers for mesh heads and system layers for classic avatars and BoM mesh. As well as the many specific samples there's a 'mega pack' of system/BoM layers.

Is there away of taking 'debates' to a group PM like naughty schoolkids fighting in the park at lunchtime and then slinking back into the forum pretending to be best pals?? Or maybe an inworld foodfight instead..

Thanks, do that. Because it's all just too confusing for us poor transes who haven't been over these issues day in day out for years and definitely aren't constantly exhausted from repeatedly having to explain ourselves and justify our existence again and again to appease the minor discomforts of those who can't bring themselves to acknowledge our humanity.

Communication is a wonderful thing.

Ahh, the one joke that's been circulating among teenage boys since pre-2010..

You're making it very clear that your comments around peoples' existence are in bad faith.

The simple courtesy of addressing people according to their identity so as to be inclusive and help build community is a pragmatic approach.

Yes we do. " In 1660, George Fox, the founder of Quakerism, wrote a whole book labeling anyone who used singular you an idiot or a fool. And eighteenth-century grammarians like Robert Lowth and Lindley Murray regularly tested students on thou as singular, you as plural, despite the fact that students used singular you when their teachers weren’t looking, and teachers used singular you when their students weren’t looking. Anyone who said thou and thee was seen as a fool and an idiot, or a Quaker, or at least hopelessly out of date. "

because it still has consequences for the absent person. People have lost jobs, families, safety and lives because others didn't think it mattered how they spoke about them in their absence.

UK election results so far are looking devastating for marginalised people over the next five years. We already know what we can survive, and we'll keep going, as fierce as ever.

i don't have preferred pronouns, I have my actual pronouns: they/them/she/her (i'm greedy).

it's been a day, so.. Sometimes I like to think I can mess w the heads of the people who try to mess with my head & sometimes I just wish I owned a plush shiny foxtail buttplug, a disco rink, & 3 types of social discourse xx

Thank you x

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs, if they are welcome. I'm missing my brother, who I lost to suicide a little over a year ago. He's been in my mind every hour of every day sindce that phone call, and then there are days like today, where the grief just crushes me out of the blue. This coming sunday would have been his birthday, and a whole bunch of musicians from our hometown, that I used to play in bands with, are putting on an event in his memory and raising money for a mental health charity. Last night his best friend messaged to check in on me, to see if I could make it and take part, but I'm stuck where I am.