Dillon Levenque

I had a thread with a different direction on this same theme in the previous Forum. I'd thought an uninvited guest was being ill-mannered and asked about it. Along with a lot of hilarious stories from people dealing with the same issue I got the idea that I'd been a bit snotty myself, so since then I've tried to be less possesive about my house (although I do have an orb that covers my bed and a place to change clothes). Even on my best day I don't think I'd be as patient as you, Willow. I've only rezzed to find people in my bed once, in the first house I built. By the time I finished rezzing one had left but a woman was climbing out the window (literally--I hadn't bothered with glass yet) and running away. I could see she was headed toward my sexy Italian neighbor's house so I followed along. When I got to the property line he was standing there next to her and introduced her quite politely as his new sweety. I can only assume that he just tp'd out as soon as I started to rez but she, probably a relative noob, stayed to put her clothes on. It was very funny.

Deltango Vale wrote: Second Life, Disney and Facebook are three incompatible products serving three different markets I'm quoting just this line, because I think the argument that led to this statement was spot on. There is no reason whatever why a single person can't be part of all three markets: I certainly participate in the first two with pleasure. I'm not on the Book but that's a personal choice, not a condemnation. But I don't want them merged in any way. They are different, they have different purposes. And as you said: they really are incompatible.

Mags, you were iontach. It was a truly great party and I'm so glad I was there.

Lillie, you may be the only person there last night who didn't wake up with a headache this morning:smileywink: It was truly a great time, as was the fantastic forum hangout party. Thanks for letting me stumble around the stage.

I did that rather a lot when I was new; I just sort of figured that was the norm. I no longer do so. As you've seen, some people care not a fig, some have modifiable limits, some have extreme views. I personally hate banlines and would never use them but I did finally get an orb after being walked in on a couple of times. It has a very limited range centered on my upstairs bedroom. I've had chats with strangers on the deck outside with no problems. To me that works pretty well. Enjoy your walk. It's in a grand tradition.

Griffin Ceawlin wrote: The Jewish population produced similar koshered cured beef product made from the brisket which the Irish immigrants purchased as corned beef from Jewish butchers.Learn something new every day. Aye. And pastrami is corned beef smoked. Something I keep planning is a real pastrami feed but somehow the idea of getting up at three in the morning so that the pastrami can be fully smoked by lunchtime always puts me off. I see you're starting early with the Gaeilge, Mags. I'm saving mine for this evening, since I only have the one phrase. Sadly it isn't the one I've always wanted--'Get me a keg of beer!'--but it's all I have :smileyhappy:

Venus Petrov wrote: 16. Interaction with Staff and Patrons a. Harassment, disrespect or heckling of the staff, DJs and guests in open chat or IM is strictly forbidden To say nothing of being incredibly rude.

Suspiria, someone actually invited me to that show and I didn't go because I had to go RL early that night, so I purely hate that you posted that video just to rub it in.:smileysad: On the plus side I thought I saw on another thread today that Lillie's doing a St. Patty's day gig that starts late enough to do the Hangout party too. Could be wrong but I'll check. @Storm: There are already several posts from guys in this thread; they might object to being moved to Sladies Who Lunch :smileywink:

Thanks for posting that, Quinn. I hope more of those notices get posted here, although SL RFL has their own person who handles all the blog and forum stuff (I've learned) so I would think there will be more threads from them as time goes on. Just an update on my particular effort. So far it has been pretty much zero. I did talk to a committee member and learned that starting a group now would be difficult to say the least. I hoped to get on a team but so far I haven't even gotten that ironed out. I couldn't be inworld on Saturday while the team kickoff was going on and did not want to IM either of the team captains because I figured they'd be busy. I do think there's time (the main event isn't until July). Even with my limited inworld time I'm hoping I can contribute as a volunteer but if I can't do that I can and will contribute as a donor. As long as I'm stuck in RL I may as well make use of reason I'm stuck here ($). I don't know who to ask for permission to do it, but I think it would be nice if the Hangout had a donation box for RFL. If anyone else feels the same way let me know--might be something that could be added. I present the suggestion as just that--a suggestion.

Your answer makes me nervous because of that "unpleasant answer" thing. What if I work up the courage to IM these people again, pour my heart out to them and then find out they want nothing to do with me. Then it will hurt a little more. But that's the choice we all have to make: try, or let it go and move on. Given the fact there's at least a plausible reason-- your unexplained absence--I would be inclined to try were I in your position. Don't know if I'd pour my heart out; I'd probably just explain that I'd been on hold and unable to reply to IM's for two months and would like to be friends again.

Keli Kyrie wrote: According to Torley we don't call it a ban we call it a hold. I guess when LL uses the word ban it means forever. I also noticed you are not on my friends list?!? (That is because you were on Keli I's list and not mine) I will fix this tonight if you like. Ban? Where did I say ban?:smileywink: And Keli Kyrie is on my friend's list, so chalk it up to the vagaries of SL. I've had issues sometimes with V2 friending, since I use Phoenix.

A: I agree with Sylvia; if you want to stay friends IM them. They very likely assumed you were gone because of unanswered IM's to you. B: I IM'd Rondo last night because I was guessing you'd been given a month extra inworld hold and it had been about a month since you were allowed back to the Forum. I logged out like TEN MINUTES before you got inworld! I'd actually planned to get back on but I got totally RL'd and never even got back to my computer. Welcome back :smileyvery-happy:

Last night a DJ friend's set was all about love. Every song had the word 'love' in the title--there are approximately two zillion qualifiers, by the way. Toward the end she played one I've liked forever; it's one of my all time favorite songs and probably the oldest one in that imaginary list. Afterwards I googled it a little. It was co-written by Carole King, and it was the first--the first--single by an all girl group to go to #1 on the Billboard Hot 100. So I thought you ladies might enjoy it :smileyhappy:

I am not brave enough to get really weird very often but I got a Dia del Muerto costume once for a contest and it was well received enough that I've worn it a couple times since. I substituted a layer from a chiffon dress I've had since like week four for the skirt and I didn't like the bridal hair/crown that came with it all that much so I used a 'Party Girl' hairdo that I can't imagine buying but is in my inventory. Funny thing is the av's a skeleton and even so it's 'built' better than I am :-)

That's really only happened to me once; I normally don't really look at an avatar's appearance with a critical eye, I guess. But once upon a time I met someone who was really new but still somehow just so much fun she was fun to be around and she had made friends all over. She was working as a dancer and to be honest her whole look was really lame. I was there yakking with her and a girl came in who was just totally gorgeous. At some point in the chat I guess she figured my friend was my friend and IM'd me "You need to help her!". I was actually a little flattered since it at least meant I wasn't a total loss. I couldn't really come right out and say anything so I spent some time finding good places having sales, freebies, etc, and then kept sending her links. Skins, hair, clothes, everything. Just being friendly, you know? And in fact since she was spending about 8-10 hours a day in SL (as opposed to my 1-3) within a few days she looked entirely delectable.

Bans are entirely at the whim of the management. Don't know whether yours was well handled or not. But I must say I cannot think of even one tiny reason (other than friend-to-friend teasing) for heckling a DJ. Or a musician. Or public speaker or anything else. Heckling as a form of communication escapes me.

Thanks, Genn. Much appreciated. And I loved Quinn's 'diversity' pin collection (Keli must be pushing the 100 pic limit already). /waves to D1 and D2 (numbers assigned alphabetically).

Ian Undercroft wrote: Hi Dillon Had to check my inventory for my eye details: Sensitive Eyes - No. 8 - by Nany Merlin Purchased at Soul Skin Grazie! Glad I kept checking back. Noted and noted.

Quinn, I got your message regarding this, so you already know my opinion but for my other friends here (current and future) I completely understand and support the decision. And in fact it is probably for the best. The one in the archives is there. The new one may or may not have gone on, but you're right: it was meant to be a shared hearth, not a shared battleground. I am quite glad this thread got started regardless of how it affected 'Strengthening'. As has been pointed out, the negativity that brought everything out in the open had the effect of making more friendships. You can't argue with that. And I also think it helped to make certain actions and attitudes on the part of certain people perfectly clear.

Suspiria Finucane wrote: Do you make friends on the forums or do you only make friends in-world? That's really interesting, given my life of late. I was in SL for quite a long time before ever spending much time reading or responding to the forums. I remember a post in which someone commented on all the friends he (or she, can't remember who it was) had made on the forums and I thought "Really?". It just seemed odd to me. I had made friends with people I'd spent time with and shared interests with. In person. Naturally once I spent more time in the forums I realized that same thing happens here. And lately I've made several friends that I met on the forums. Including one who I've yet to actually meet inworld, even! There are more people that I've 'met' on the forums that are not in my friends list yet, but I bet will be sometime.

Ian Undercroft wrote: I've always tended to think blue/green works best in SL. Wow. Your eyes are very close to the color of my real eyes, which I normally call dishwater (or swampwater, if I'm trying to impress) blue. Mine are a little bluer (I just looked--with a mirror, talk about vanity) but I'd really like to know where you got those eyes.

Locke Nider wrote: Has this scenario happened to anyone else here? It has not happened to me, but it has happened to people I know. And it was tough. One person's partner of a year or more had RL issues and was forced to leave SL forever. Closed emails, everything. One day here, next day 'Sorry, I must go'. The partner left behind had a very difficult time. I know of another instance which was also terribly tough but at the same time kind of uplifting, to me anyway. A partner of someone I know fell quickly and seriously, terminally, ill in RL; was hospitalized and did not have any way to get inworld even to say goodbye. The hospitalized partner contacted a (previously estranged) family member and gave that person the whole story. Asked the family member to please start an SL account and contact the SL partner. That happened. The two of them stayed in touch until the end, thanks to the good-heartedness of the living relative. And for those who don't think SL relationships are real--think again.

The one thing I do hope everyone who reads this takes away is the idea of visiting a Relay event. I have to be honest; I did not go the first few years. I really thought it was 'whistling in the dark' or false optimism like the local news anchor shouting that the local team will win the big game. I didn't ever say that, of course. I encouraged. Survivors do not need negativity. But I didn't go. So much for my big heart. I finally realized it was a big deal to my survivor and went. I could not possibly have been more wrong about things. There's nothing even remotely artificial about a Relay For Life. It's as real as anything you'll ever experience. There are people there because they're survivors. There are people there because someone they loved did not survive. At our event there's a team--a team! made up of the extended family of the wife/mother/grandmother/sister/aunt who did not survive. Just there in her memory, helping others. There are people there who probably won't be there next year, and know it. And there are people there by the hundreds who just want to help. One warning: it'll getcha. I go with my survivor and I know what to expect and it still gets me every time. And if you stay until dark and they turn down the track lights and light the luminaries....you'll be glad it's dark. It will move you. You don't need a big heart. The Relay will cause your heart to expand.

Quinn Morani wrote: You have a big heart, Dillon. We should consider creating a Forum RFL team. That was a sweet thing to say, Quinn, but really I don't. This is just something close to me and I was moved. So. Now that I've actually had a chance to read things I have a better idea of what's going on. I was just kind of pumped to find the link to the Zheng Cao interview and then when I searched and saw that March 12th date for inworld I got carried away. I'd been thinking of mentioning RFL on the Forum ever since I heard that story. I was so gung ho I missed some important details. It does not appear that it's actually too late to start a team but I do think it would be a mistake this year. Obviously all the teams and people already signed up probably started thinking about this at the end of last year's Relay (that's how it works in RL; don't see any reason why it would be different here). So even if we did start a team I think we'd be so noobish that we'd be taking time away from people whose time could be better used in organizing the event. I'm going to see what I can do about getting in a 'team volunteer pool' or something like that. I couldn't find anything on the blog or the website about that so I'll try an IM or notecard. Probably won't learn much until next week since this weekend is a big event. I will, if this sticks around, keep it up to date. And if it does not survive, maybe someone in the SL RFL org can be persuaded to start a thread here; doesn't seem likely that they don't have a Forumite on staff but maybe they don't. I'll be sure to mention it. I'm going to make one more post about the RL Relay, this one is too long already.

Keli Kyrie wrote: Dillon Levenque wrote: See, this is why those people were waving the signs and chanting. It is so cool to have you back :smileyvery-happy: Chanting? There was chanting too? All I got to see was the still images (which were awesome btw). In honor of your waving and chanting I now give you the rank of Hippie! Well I couldn't even be there that day but I did write the chant and I know Jaen was doing it :smileyvery-happy: And Hippie Bowman definitely should get one of these.