Amina Sopwith

Moles have ruined everything.

I didn't know how well known it is outside the UK, or what sort of reception it would have. Some British sitcoms translate and some don't. Keeping Up Appearances is a classic but doesn't seem to cross cultures very easily. How about Only Fools and Horses?

The reactions on here would suggest so! I'm a bit surprised too.

I would only wear the costume as well if I were trying to seduce a Gorean.

One of my most successful flirting experiences involved recounting the "wibble" scene from Blackadder. I know what boys like.

Zut alors!

Rare steak.

I'll do that naked.

Salmon fillet.

Aside comment.

Only joking.

Anything goes? I'm naked!

Season ticket.

There goes my ulcer.

Who rides there? Lindal?

The fish rides bicycles.

Footwear sale.

The head suddenly exploded.

See my water butt.

Riding bareback.

Actor credit.

My face is plastic.

But that rule doesn't exist as Nobhead writes it. There's a lot of emphasis on how slaves are not legally people, and various examples of women proclaiming their "personhood" before becoming slaves one way or another and, therefore, having such personhood revoked. As a fantasy concept, or a label that two consenting adults want to stick on their relationship, I don't have an objection to this. (I don't want to traumatise anyone with TMI, but please, please believe me that I absolutely understand submission and yielding your will and begging to please the person who can draw out this side of you. I really do.) But when the books are filled with endless babble paragraphs about how slaves are basically not people, and also how all women should be slaves and will never be fulfilled otherwise - yes, it's literally about denying humanity to women, including the ones who aren't in Gor. Add to this some liberal use of phrases like "female animal" and I swear to God I can't understand how anyone doesn't see it. I really don't get how anyone could read the Gor books I read and miss it. It's like being pistol whipped for 12 hours and not noticing. I like sparkly belly dance costumes as much as the next sub girl, but sheesh, they're clothes, not lobotomies. At least, I thought they were. Which goes back to my earlier point: that even if there's a Gor sim somewhere that truly does not take itself seriously, and plays it entirely for lulz, and honestly doesn't take it a millimetre beyond consensual roleplay (and I never found such a place, personally)... they're still perpetuating and legitimising this. They're the reason those godawful pile of arse books are still in f***ing print, and available, and legitimised, and sanctified in a freaking subculture of their own in which, I can assure you, plenty of people are not lovable buffoons playing with a jolly twinkle and a tongue in their cheek. It is true that a lot of them are just thick and obviously don't know better, but it's still a sinister state of affairs. As Pussycat said earlier, if the words "woman" or "girl" were changed throughout to "black person" or "Jew", they'd be slung off the grid and the publisher's list in ten seconds flat, as well they absolutely should be. I have noticed that every SL BDSM player likes to think that they are an expert in the field. (And it does seem to be an SL thing; I never heard anyone in the RL places I've been to complain that anything wasn't "real BDSM" or proclaim themselves the authority on it. They were just massively big on consent, and as long as everyone involved was happy, they really didn't care how far you did or didn't take it.) It is therefore frankly astonishing to me that Gor gets as much of a free pass as it does. So yes, let us not go to Gor. It is a silly place.

Because when you do it in Gor, a place where it's more or less a requirement to attempt to be By The Book and Truly Gorean, a place with a quasi-religious subtext, you're perpetuating these books and the "philosophy" they're expounding, which is hateful and stupid in the extreme. Plus you're making John Nobhead happy and, in his mind at least, proving him right. For that alone, anyone deserves a slap with a wet fish. In a nutshell, as Scylla has said: BDSM is not gendered, but Gor is. It is literally about the inferiority of all women, which by logical extension must include the ones not playing there, and their need for horrible abuse. Do it in an Arabian Nights sim. Do it in a superheroines in peril sim. Do it in Dark Den or whatever it's called. Do it in a generalised kidnap/forced sex place. Do it in any one of the other zillion male-dominant sims. Just please, please, please don't do it there.

It's also got tangibly less gravity than Earth and yet produces much stronger men (and only the men). Nobhead teaches philosophy, doesn't he? I'm not saying all philosophy is made-up, self serving bollocks with absolutely no evidence. I'm just saying that it's definitely the right discipline for you if that's all you've got.