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  1. On a side not, I find it hilarious that I was bleeped, so let me see if it will put through the following "I got my biometric assessment done today. As part of that, my finger got pricked. I really hate the finger **bleep** test" Next time I'll just say schlong.
  2. That's a lot easier than my way - I use multiple computers in homes and hotels all over the country. Plus my phone. Anyone thinking they have "my IP address" will be sorely disappointed. *hugs for Maddie*
  3. It sounds to me like you've made up your mind and you're not really asking a question, you're just asking to have your viewpoint affirmed. If you think it's a ToS violation, then AR them. End of story. At the end of the day what we say is immaterial and won't get you off this evil ban list thing.
  4. In my opinion, no, this is not a ToS violation. If I have a group of friends and business associates, and I say, "Hey, this guy is a **bleep**" that is my opinion. Am I not entitled to my opinion? Am I not entitled to share my opinion with people I decide to associate with? I think I am. I don't see anything in ToS that restricts me from sharing my opinion. And if I carry this forward to "and I think you should ban him", why is that a ToS violation? It's still my opinion. I'm still entitled to it. If you think it's a violation of ToS, then I have news for you - it happens at clubs all over ToS every day. One club visiter will tell another "oh wah wah Susie was mean to me, you should ban them!" It's called drama. Welcome to SL. Now, your problem appears to be that this security system allows me (assuming I am a "field officer" or whatever) to ban people at someone else's sim. So? Any land owner can give rights to anyone they choose to add people to the ban list for their land. This is no different. If I give Bob rights to ban you at my club, guess what? Bob can ban you on his own discretion, and that's not a ToS violation. If he meets you at another club, decides he doesn't like you for some reason, and then bans you at my club, well, guess what, that's between he and I. This system you describe sounds like it merely automate the process. Ain't tech grand? Now, I'll use your own words to demonstrate why this is not a ToS violation. "It is absolutely the land owners prerogative to ban someone, justly or not." If I and 50 other land owners all decide to share each other's ban lists and all agree that everyone banned on one sim will be banned on all sims, then, as you say, that is our prerogative. This system you describe means I and the other 50 land owners have all put together some automated means to do something we are entirely entitled to do - give 50 other people of our choosing the ability to add someone to the ban list on lands we own. That's not a ToS violation. It's a benefit of owning our own land. You forget something - it is not a violation for a land owner to impede or interfere with your normal use or enjoyment of THEIR land. It is THEIR land. They paid for it, and they pay for it every month. If they choose to be jagoffs and randomly ban people they've never met, that's up to them. You are not being "harassed" "defamed" or "libeled". Your privacy is not being invaded. You have not been threatened or harassed. You've been banned "justly or not" by someone who has been authorized to ban you. This part of the ToS is about stopping people from doing things like adding "Colby Firehawk rapes kitten in RL, here's his RL email address" to their profiles, and similar things. THAT would be a ToS violation. This system doesn't sound like it is. Asinine, counterproductive, and indicative of stupidy, sure, but not a violation of ToS.
  5. You have three options: 1: Dump the friend, mute them, keep them out of your life, thereby eliminating the drama. This would make you a lousy friend. 2: Just learn to deal with the drama and suffer through until your owner or the friend solve the problem for you. This would make you an indecisive martyr, or merely someone very weak willed 3: Dump the owner, mute them, and move on. This would be the brave and smart route. You already knew these were your options. Random, anonymous strangers cannot make the decision for you. If you simply cannot pick one on your own, take a dice, roll it, divide by 2, and round up if it's not a whole number, and that's the option you pick.
  6. First, I would be very careful before assuming you know for sure that someone has an alt. For the most part, unless they come clean or someone has some giant chat log they sent you (and you're positive it hasn't been edited) then there is no way to really be sure. Next, talk to the friend about it, and specifically, why did they hide it from you? Then, you have to make a decision. Is there any reason this alt's life is incompatible with your friendship? As an example, to me, having a "romantic" relationship with someone on SL is incompatible with them being married in RL. I'm not judging anyone, it's just not something I will engage in. Nor would I find someone having a romantic relationship on an alt compatible with having such a relatioship with me. Or, is there anything about the alt's life that you cannot handle? For example, do they RP nazi concentration camp as an SS officer while you're the grandparent of a Holocaust survivor in RL? Are they a rabid atheist on one avatar and deeply religious with the other? If there is nothing incompatible about the other "life" and your friendship, then you're being hurt that they kept it from you is understandable, but not necessarily a reason to end your friendship. On the other hand, if there is something about the alt that you cannot tolerate or if the situation is a grave betrayal of your trust, then, perhaps, it's time to end the friendship. That would suck, but sometimes, SL sucks. Best of luck and I hope you make the best decision for yourself.
  7. You have three options: Dump the friend, mute them, keep them out of your life, thereby eliminating the drama. This would make you a lousy friend. Just learn to deal with the drama and suffer through until your owner or the friend solve the problem for you. This would make you an indecisive martyr, or merely someone very weak willed. Dump the owner, mute them, and move on. This would be the brave and smart route. You already knew these were your options. Random, anonymous strangers cannot make the decision for you. If you simply cannot pick one on your own, take a dice, roll it, divide by 2, and round up if it's not a whole number, and that's the option you pick.
  8. My opinion is that your definition of "community" is as broad as calling all of humanity a "community". It's semantically reasonable, but unrealistic. In terms of the people of SL as a whole, it's the same as it ever was, although the immature, juvenile nitwits who use it as a playground to grief others are less common. Mainly, I assume, because SL is no longer new, exciting, hip, or, frankly, interesting to that type of person. Which, I suppose, is a good thing.
  9. Perrin: The bottom line, Perrin, is a sim owner can pretty much do what they want in terms of access to their sim, so you're out of luck there. However, jagoffs that go into IM and start harassing people on sexual orientation OOC are clearly violating the Community Standards and should be AR'd, which it sounds like you have done. In the long run, you'll find life in SL (and RL in general) is a lot simpler and more pleasant if you mute asshats and hang out in places that appreciate you. Sounds like there have been several suggestions in this thread. Oh, new gallery called Creative Men opened in Xaara the other day, mostly gay-themed erotic (much could pass for Gorean themed) SL photgraphy. Not bad - might want to check it out. Don't see much of that around SL. Hang some in the local paga tavern and tell the cretins who bother you it's scenes right from some random book. Most of the real jerks on Gor sims haven't read the books beyond masturbating to the rape scenes, so maybe they'll believe it.
  10. Sooooo getting it to hug between the breasts is best visual you could come up with? Wow.
  11. Well, some people change partners more frequently than they change their underwear, so it's not REALLY a tease
  12. Yes, I will help you: Learn something about BDSM and D/s first. There are several places in SL that have classes and discussion groups (D/s Academy, Journey to Domination & Submission, plenty of others) as well as places where you can just hang out at talk with people to learn more (BDSM Forum, Gateway, Alanis). Also, there are some decent libraries where you can learn more by reading articles and essays, and get "play" ideas. Shameless plug - I have a really good library (see my inworld profile or go to the sim "Xaara", I'm in the Southeast corner) Get to know potential Masters well, don't just rely on fishing in an anonymous forum. Good way to do this is hang out in socially active BDSM places (Alanis, Pleasure Bound, others) as opposed to free sex or RP places, attend events, and, you know, get to know people. Sorry, the only people who will respond to a post such as yours with "sure, I'll be your Master" are predators looking for easy pixel porking. So, yeah, this approach you used is a bad idea. Good luck
  13. If your morality can handle being "the other woman" have at it. Only you can answer your question, and your answer only applied to you.
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