Naminestolenheart Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 I'm a returning player to sl and alot of the places I used to go to are gone and I can't really find a good place where I can meet new ppl. alot places I go to are either really quiet or the people their really don't want to talk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Senobia Xenga Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Nope - the majority doesn't want to talk....if you're outside their clique. Even the hosts/DJs in clubs are often too wrapped up in their social circle to even greet new arrivals any more. Sad, really. And if you IM someone first to say hello or introduce yourself, if you get a response - big if - it's usually one word and goes no further. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naminestolenheart Posted May 1, 2012 Author Share Posted May 1, 2012 sad but true V.v I lost contact with most of old friends, and usually the clubs i go to are so silent you can here crickets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Otoole Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 try Gothika later tonight. like 10pm or so if they have an avent. Try club Ambrosia. Usually 24*7 there. Club Industry is always good. You have to find something you like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lukeh Ghost Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 Same boat with me lol =P I normally look at random groups of things I like and spark up conversations there but they just never really go furthur. I don't get clubs because I'm normal the avatar who whenever makes a comment to join it's not responded or acknowledged. Do as I do, create something of interest that people like and make friends with your customers <_< it's sad but it's how I survive the dreadest lonliness that Second Life some how brings! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squashy Beeswing Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I'm going to agree and say that on the few occasions i've attended a club, no-one EVER IMs me and the local chat is dead in the water, too. Idk why this is 'cos i've made friends everywhere else i go, often when just out shopping or exploring. If i do happen to be at a club and i'm not with anyone, i always end up just taking snapshots of my avie. Sigh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naminestolenheart Posted May 2, 2012 Author Share Posted May 2, 2012 I k now right! I went to about 7 clubs and nobody IMed me. I tried everything I could think of , I'm starting to think it's because I'm ugly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Syo Emerald Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 If everyone in a club just waits for the others to IM them or to start a conversation......then I won't wonder about everyone being silent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freya Mokusei Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 Syo Emerald wrote: If everyone in a club just waits for the others to IM them or to start a conversation......then I won't wonder about everyone being silent. Mostly this. I find it important to take into consideration that a lot of SL users are introverts, simply because those are the types most likely to flourish despite the barriers of SL. A little hi, a wave, a nod of recognition, or a friendly IM saying "I love what you've done with your <Clothing Item>!" will get you engaging with people faster than anything. Alternatively, find a place with a theme (musical genres, film types, something to have 'in common' with others) and have an opinion! Put effort in and you'll get effort out, because the reality is that 99.9% of people are ALSO looking for you to start a conversation with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naminestolenheart Posted May 3, 2012 Author Share Posted May 3, 2012 True but some people don't want to be IMed or bothered with, they usually ignore my IMs or they say that there too busy to talk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuciaRiley Posted May 3, 2012 Share Posted May 3, 2012 Senobia Xenga wrote: Nope - the majority doesn't want to talk....if you're outside their clique. Even the hosts/DJs in clubs are often too wrapped up in their social circle to even greet new arrivals any more. Sad, really. And if you IM someone first to say hello or introduce yourself, if you get a response - big if - it's usually one word and goes no further. This is the clique called SL. It's sad because this is true as a new resident to SL completely. I am starting to hate clubs because everyone ignores you even if you IM them first, or try and talk to them in local. IF you get a response it is a one worded reply for the most part, I noticed too. LOL The cliques are why I am not making real new friends on SL, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naminestolenheart Posted May 3, 2012 Author Share Posted May 3, 2012 I'm new as well, my old account got hacked since I took a break from sl. I lost most of my old friends because I haven't signed over a year and a half. I do admit It's really hard to make friends on here. It's very clicky especially, if your not a least a month old. because most jobs and certain groups require to be at least a month old before apply for one. Lot of things on here that I like, require me to be a month old even though, I have an alternate account. If you still want a friend you can message me and we can hangout . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Verwood Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 It would be ideal for people to change in SL but unfortunately it is just like RL, and RL high school at that in some places on the grid. Just like most have already stated there are cliques and it doesn't make out for a friendly invite to start up chat with anyone. Naminestolenheart, maybe try and think of things that might interest you, search for them and TP there and see what happens. In the past, I've found that by just TPing to places other then clubs, etc, people are mostly alone which makes it a little easier for starting conversations. Also classes within sl, maybe there are classes of things that you might have interest in and you can chat with others that can end up in friendships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Pedalo Posted June 3, 2012 Share Posted June 3, 2012 I too am techncally new to SL, Although I started about 2 years ago and quit for this reason. I often find myself overwhelmed with ALL the places there are to go. So I fel lost and alone. Now still I find myself feeling like th OP. This game is HUGE and spread out. Useing the destination tab send me to places with very little acyivity even though it showed haveing 25 people in there. I think interaction with the local wild life at a club is just like a real club. If you don't have the satus your ignored. What I have found myself doing latly to combat this is just talking in genral chat. Once I start getting in there and talking people start talking back.. simple "hey how is everyone doing tonight" get a few responses...then a few compliment to the dj and host...start dancing and haveing fun listening to the music..before you kno ims are flying around. Unfortunately I'm not here to get a girl. I'm here for fun,music and exploreing. So if your want to engage in friendship you've gotta come outta your she'll and blow up the gen chat... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yakubulove117 Posted December 30, 2012 Share Posted December 30, 2012 hello how are u doing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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