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Can't be me, I love a good drama! I just dislike being attacked by disagreeable people all the time.

One issue I've read about which seems related, is that some see relationships as not only "transactional", but as a "zero sum game" where there's always a "winner" and "loser". Along with this comes the idea that "if you're not with me, you're against me". From this, I see a lot of "disagreeable" interactions and the apparent need to note your disagreement so people KNOW you disagree, and that you've possibly been wronged, harmed, etc.

Thanks for the feedback. I could try replying every 5 minutes instead of every 1 minute!

They are not likely to remove threads. Sorry, I did not see you mention that earlier.

no sir, you play it dirty now, but good to know. The thread will loose quite some pages after enabling another ignore button. I was merely giving an example of how a disagreeable person may be perceived.

Surprise!

Ok, if the original question is "why" is there a lot of disagreeable people, I thought of some other responses. Disagreeable people often post: - To "bully" people. - To "silence" people. - To get other people to "stop giving their opinion". - To try and make people feel small, or "stupid".

I feel traumatized, due to some childhood incident, and am in desperate need of a therapist! Oh, you weren't asking me. Sowwy! * Disclaimer: The above statement (first sentence only) was not serious.

So you purposely post a topic to incite drama and then have the GALL to threaten to report it for closure? Are you feeling lonely today? I suggested closing it. That's normal once a thread has "run its course" (gone into drama, come back out, had Moles check in, resulted in revelations, etc.). Nothing to point fingers about. Happens all the time!

And yet, HERE YOU ARE, openly encouraging "Abusive behaviour" on the Forum. There is absolutely no reasons for you to say I am "encouraging abusive behavior". You're putting words in my mouth, or purposely misconstruing what I wrote, or just reading some meaning into that is not there. I am merely discussing what I and others (apparently) assumed the original post was about. Perhaps you THINK (or would like to think) that that somehow Gopi was being abusive by discussing individuals? And that somehow I am being abusive by encouraging the discussion, even if not about individuals? Honestly, I just don't follow your logic. Let me know how to think, so that I may "slavishly agree". 🙂

I'm about talked out, unless I think of more "types" of disagreements and "reasons" why people may be a certain way.

Sure. Others can be abusive but I try to sticks to facts and rationale about the topic, not allow myself to get into an emotional response, which never turns out well. Most of the drama imo, is emotionally driven. On the original topic, if a "disagreeable person" is also "abusive", that is "beyond the pale". Responding to abuse, encourages them and invites more abuse. On the original topic, we don't really need to know who / why / what types of people may be "abusive" or their reasons. Abuse is a "no go".

Yes:

If you feel the thread has "run its course", you can report the thread and request that the thread be closed for that reason. It often works. Otherwise, we can try to get back to your original topic (before you revealed it may have been about certain individuals).

Thanks, @Dyna Mole. So back to the OP's topic: discussing the concept of "disagreeable people" in Second Life / Forums, without making it "personal". I think. Yay!

There's a saying I like, "Your opinion of me is none of my business."

I can see that. Happens to me, every day.

I implied you and Zalificent were the people I always disagreed with. Bold move! Go ahead, do so. I'll counter your points you make about me. The plot thickens!

You didn't ask me, but: Disagreeing with some people, even when offering your opinion and framing it such, can be taken as a "grave offense" and invite derision. That's just how it works sometimes. It doesn't matter what you say or how you reply, if you don't "slavishly agree" (to borrow a phrase), you'll just invite some people to be more and more disagreeable. Of course, all of the above is just my opinion.

Your bravery, in an online Forum, is to be commended! We need more brave Forumites! Then we could have more worthwhile disagreements, not all this namby-pamby pablum!

I have to wonder, how many "disagreements" are actually "resolved" by taking them to DM's? Famously, someone sent me "What the he11 is wrong with you?!" in a DM. I will never hear from that person in DM's again because they were abusive.

I love it when a forum pairing is solidified. Everyone needs an Arch, and/or a Foil!

You said recently in some other post "can't we agree to disagree?". For the record, I'm HAPPY to agree to publicly disagree with most of your posts.. Then, our online relationship is perfect! I am happy to oblige you. No changes are required - we can both just complain as much as we like. Yay!!

Well he all but admitted he did so not sure how you can make that statement. Because, those responding to the OP in the thread went into a broad discussion about different types of "disagreeable people" and what their motivations may be, etc. You know, a real discussion (as I saw it). 🙂

That's because you don't pay attention. I try. Wish I was good enough for everyone! Guess I don't post enough. I can always post more!