I have been involved in SL Gor for a very long time, and IMO the role you wish to play is one of the hardest roles to play and find good RP.
1 Its a common misconception that goreans are homophobic in the books, the truth is goreans were true to their sexuality whatever that may be. Too many people infuse "earth" thinking into their characters and this often bleeds into OOC drama.
2 People who have certain beliefs and are unable to express them in their real lives often come to SL gor to give expression to these hidden beliefs.
3 The role you wish to play is extremely limited in scope, likely scenarios and story arcs without a lot of co-operation from other RPers. This perhaps leaves some RPers feeling threatened OOC by a male silky slave dominating the narrative, thus building resentment to what may be perceived as one person seeking to dominate their story and time, leaving them feeling like the RPer playing the male silkie is excessively imposing the niche character's needs onto their own leisure time.
I have seen vanishingly few male silk slaves successfully integrate into a sim for any noteworthy time period, mostly they leave after a day or two having not received "instant gratification"
Most male slaves in the books wanted one thing ... Freedom.
I will repeat it ... Gorean RPersin SL BTB RP should act gorean, not earth