13 year old daughter gettting sex emails. Delete account NOW.

[DeathLilli]

My 13 year old is being flooded with emails about sex from second life. I have changed all notification settings and deleted the account and tried to find where I can remove the email. Please remove this account from the database as soon as possible.

DeathLilli is the accountname.

[Innula Zenovka]

Hi, DeathLilli's mother.

This is a resident to resident assistance forum.   Everyone here is an ordinary SL resident, and LL employees rarely look in here.

What I'd suggest is that you go to https://secondlife.com/my/index.php?lang=en-US  , log in as your daughter, and then click on the Account button (extreme left-hand column of the page), select Delete Account (at the bottom of the list) and follow the instructions.

This can take a few days to activate, so you might also want to go to the Contact Information page (some entries above the Delete Account button) and uncheck "I would like to recieve offline IMs via Email".

[Marigold Devin]

Its good to see a parent taking responsibility for their child.

I was wondering why your daughter was getting adult-rated emails, then I saw the group she's joined to inworld.

Advice how to stop these messages has been given already in this thread, so I don't need to repeat it.

[Lindal Kidd]

I will add some advice for you and your daughter, in addition to the excellent advice already given here.

Second Life, like many places on the internet, is intended for adults.  SL is a bit of a gray area, because parts of it are open to young people between 16-17, and children as young as 13 can even use certain designated regions, if the region is sponsored and monitored by a recognized youth organization such as a school, church, Girl Scout troop, etc.  But MOST of Second Life is designed by, and for, people who are 18 or older. 

Nott all of SL is awash in porn.  But, if you go looking for it, it's very very easy to find.

If your daughter created her account under the supervision of her school or another organization that is registered to run a youth region, she should not have been able to visit adult areas or join adult groups.  If she signed up for an account on her own, she would not have been allowed to even enter Second Life unless she lied about her age.

Or, to be blunt about it, it's her own fault.  You might consider suspending her computer privileges until her account gets deleted by the system (could be several days) and review your parental monitoring controls on your home computer(s). (But kudos to you, mom, for catching on and for your concern!)

I know you want fast action on this.  Maybe I can help a bit...I shall submit an Abuse Report against this account for underage use of SL.  That often gets an account suspended more quickly than the account holder requesting its deletion.

[Syo Emerald]

Talk to your daugther about the internet. Explain to her the good sides and the bad sides and why you as a parent are worried about her. Make clear, that you don't want to ruin her fun, but that she has to accept that there are boundaries for her, if she wants to be on the internet without you siting next to her all the time.

What she is getting on her email-account are probably groupmessages or privatemessages, written to her when she's offline. As a long-time user on Second Life, I can tell you that it is not the norm to recieve sexual content by acciedent, even in SL, which is mostly used by adults. I would suggest to have an open talk to her to find out where these messages are coming from.

Your daugther probably joined adult groups or visited places not suited for her age.

[CeleniBragg]

A 13 on this website ? Jesus, Parent of this account , please now make sure to check all of her moves online !, She seems freaky , and this website is 17+ , she's still a child . Obviously .

[Innula Zenovka]

Actually, as someone with an RL professional interest in minors and the internet, if I had teenage children I would be quite relieved if SL and this website were the worst thing they encountered. In fact, I'd be far more scared about what might be happening to them on social networking sites and who they might meet there.