Scylla Rhiadra

Ah. Ok, I'm beginning to see where you are going with this -- a bit, anyway. I think a valid argument can be made that a system native to the platform that worked like this would be a boon, especially were it to be applied to avatar customization generally, AND especially for new residents. But I'd still want enough flexibility in it to ensure that I was able to check out new items thoroughly. I'm not going to buy a fatpack unless I can be certain the item works in all the ways I want or need it to work.

Coincidentally, you'd be the first person I'd exile there! If only as a punishment for mucking up my windowsill.

IF such a system allowed me to play with mix-and-matching outfits and body parts, AND enabled me to test it out with animations, I'd probably be ok with it. Honestly, I don't find the current system very onerous though. To me, this seems a bit like a solution in search of a problem.

/me sings loudly and only a little out of tune . . . "I'm so tired of playing Playing with this bow and arrow Gonna give my heart away Leave it to the other girls to play For I've been a temptress too long Just... Give me a reason to love you Give me a reason to be a woman I just wanna be a woman . . ." Sorry, did you say something?

WHAT A BRILLIANT IDEA!! I think we need to campaign for this. Only . . . it should be reserved for cool, fun people who are getting wrist-slapped.

Great song by a cool band. And I utterly fail to see it's relevance, but who cares!?!?

Sometimes, even having longer arms doesn't help . . .

Wait, they do? I can't even tell you how long it's been since I saw a Linden or a Mole in-world.

Which can get pricey with the cost of uploading pics. One of the advantages of the Wardrobe thingy is that you can add photos to it without uploading them in-world. On the other hand, one of the disadvantages of it is that it's based off-platform, and generally I don't like or trust that kind of thing. Also, setting it up is a MAJOR pain.

I'm unclear why this is superior to simply taking home a demo? Simple example: when I try on a new dress -- which is frequently with clubbing in mind -- I like to run the demo through a few dances to see if or how it "breaks" when subjected to dance moves. There are things I haven't bought simply because they looked good while standing still, but fell apart while dancing.

. . . and voila! You're half naked in the middle of a store. Yeah, I've tried those. I don't like 'em much. I want something I can take home and experiment with.

It is lovely! I've met with friends there and, on occasion taken pics there too!

Pathetic. Just . . . pathetic. I'd run my slow little scooter into the sea in 5 minutes. Stop thinking small!

Isn't that essentially how estates work, in practice? Some of us love the mainland. Keep your hands off my continents!

I don't do voice, so I don't know if it qualifies as a "hot spot" for it, but I do know that people do sometimes use voice at Burrow Coffee & Whisky. (I know this because I've been excluded from the convo on a few occasions there.) https://secondlife.com/destination/burrow-coffee

Yeah. You try to sound scary, Maddy, but I've seen your props: pup tents, pillows, and cosy blankets. Oh, and your "front end loader" is a plushy. But nice try.

Oh, I am absolutely sure. And I get it (well, sort of . . .): it's part of the whole appeal. I think, with the vital caveat that I speak as a non-kinkster, that my own approach as Domme would be that my sub should have to acknowledge their responsibility too. As much fun as it is to pretend / RP complete and abject subservience, the sub is the ultimate origin of power in the relationship (as I know you know), and that vital fact needs to be recognized and built into the scene, even if it is never deployed, and is conveniently and consciously "forgotten" during actual play.

Were I a Domme, I would actually not permit a sub to waive all restrictions. That is literally undercutting the central premise of BDSM and D/s, which is about power exchange, consent, and, yes, care. Most of the Dom/mes I know or have known in SL are pretty brutal in their characterization of "the scene" in SL, precisely because there are so many here who have no idea of how it is supposed to actually work.

Yes, WITH CONSENT. But consent isn't something that you just give once: to be true consent it has to be ongoing and engaged. In BDSM and D/s, that is most usually achieved by establishing boundaries ahead of time, but also through having failsafe mechanisms such as safe words that enable the sub to withdraw consent at any time, no matter what. RLV has mechanisms that allow you to opt out for exactly the same reasons. https://www.them.us/story/kink-101-bdsm-and-consent

Not a bad explanation, except it leaves out the part where the person selling the NFT tries to torch the actual Mona Lisa because that will increase the market "value" of the NFT.

This makes sense. Another attraction of HUDs is that they integrate a text explanation with an image much better. (It might be a different matter if you could embed an actual image, rather than a link to it, in a notecard). Alright! I'll give this some thought. (And start looking for HUD-driving scripts . . .)

Agreed. Someone -- I've forgotten who and where now -- had the excellent idea of including a standard HUD in the next round of new avatars, with the express purpose of teaching them how to use one. I think that's a brilliant idea. Were I to do this as a HUD, it would be along those kinds of lines.

It doesn't. Blocking is not really a remedy for stalking. In fact, as you have pointed out, it might actually make stalking easier. We have other (very imperfect) tools that work against stalkers, but they are mostly related to land permissions. Blocking is about harassment and abuse. I don't entirely disagree with this. But the problem is that "Adult" is used as a designation for a great many sims that actually have little or nothing do with sex. I go to "adult" sims all the time: none of them are about sex. We need a much more granular or at least enforced rating system. Right now, many places are "adult" largely as a precautionary measure. With respect, that's the perspective characteristic of someone for whom sex is the most important, or at least a very significant draw of SL. There are a very great many of us who aren't here for that. I don't myself get the appeal of RPing or representing as a child here, but SL is fundamentally about having the power to be who you want to be -- and that should include being a child. Banning that option merely because there are lots of people who want to engage in sex here is unfair to them. Sorry, Sandor: it probably sounds as though I'm picking on you. I'm not: these are interesting questions.

The difference being that I'm the one who has done the blocking; at best, the blocked person could take advantage of that. What they can't now do is initiate a process that renders them invisible to me. In other words, they can only take advantage of my actions, not themselves proactively put the pieces in place to stalk me with premeditation.

It was one of my first "projects" in Second Life, actually. We had talked about doing something like this in the SLLU Feminist Network (which is why it was specifically "for" women), and foolishly volunteered. As I was still reasonably new to SL myself, I was able to see the issues somewhat from a noob's perspective. Serious question, Rolig: were I to redo this, would it work better as notecards with linked image (with an online version), which is what I did originally -- or as a HUD that covered part of the screen only, but had more accessible images for explanation?