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    Cringe binge

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    41 minutes ago, Rat Luv said:

    But some bosses are uptight because they're scared of being exposed for not being very good. You're alright :)

    Thanks, you are sweet, but honestly there were right. I work at a big multinational, and never fit in there.

    I had another boss tell me once, "Carol, we are all unique, but with you it is much easier to tell."

    As I heard that, I thought, "Oh, cool!" Then I realized her expression and tone were annoyance and exasperation, and that is most certainly was *not* a complement. But she too was right. I have been different my whole life, and never really fit in anywhere. Just how it is. So in the broader scope of things, your little mix-up was maybe not such a big deal. :)

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    Cringe binge

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    Just now, Fauve Aeon said:

    Same, @CaerolleClaudelI wasn’t making light of the predicament,  more co-misreading and riffing off of the ‘all life is suffering’ and dear (deity of choice) can the happenings of this year please end with it - vibe/theme. I hope your 2021 can be brighter, mine and everyone else’s too. 🥰

    Thanks, I certainly didn't take offense, just being open and honest. I once had a boss who said, "If someone wants to be successful, they should follow you around and do the opposite." And honestly, they were right. I just always want to do full disclosure and warn people off following anything I say or do. :)

    Cringe binge

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    Posted · Edited by CaerolleClaudel

    3 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    Oh, I do. And I'm sorry it's been such an awful year.

    Thanks. Not a great year to have Major Depressive Disorder with Anxiety, for sure. Or any other mental health issues.

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    Cringe binge

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    Posted · Edited by CaerolleClaudel

    4 minutes ago, Fauve Aeon said:

    ITT @CaerolleClaudelreveals the secret: The True Meaning of Life! 😉

    Sadly, I don't even know the meaning of my own life, far less life in general. Trust me, if I have the answer, it is a pretty effed up question.

    ETA: "Just a effed-up girl trying to make it through life with as little emotional pain and damage as possible. And hoping to have a little fun along the way."

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    Cringe binge

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    2 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    Arguably I don't know you well enough to contradict you very convincingly, I suppose.

    I can, however, say that in my interactions with you, here and in-world, nothing about you has ever seemed even remotely "stupid" or "embarrassing."

    Trust me, am a effed-up sh-tshow. And this year has just made it all worse. I know I have been through worse times, but not from so many different things at once. The horrors just never stop coming.

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    Cringe binge

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    Posted · Edited by CaerolleClaudel
    typos as usual

    3 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    I had a conversation about the jar-opening thing a while ago with another friend, part of the (joking) point being that jar lids were an integral function of Patriarchy, designed to keep women in the thrall of men.

    So, in that context, tools like this are . . . feminist?

    Well, enabling, for sure. But in my house, a necessity, as there are no men to press into service for brute strength, and never will be. Same for fixing sh-t, either falls to me or some extremely expensive tradesperson.

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    Cringe binge

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    On 12/16/2020 at 1:52 PM, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    This one was a while ago. Having guests over for dinner, and serving up a dessert, which required the application of crème fraîche to a pavlova. I had bought it bottled, and brought it out to the table to add it (because I'm all kinds of elegant), but I couldn't get the lid off. My partner offered to open it for me, but noooooooo. I had to do it myself. So I ran the lid quickly under some hot water and then, at the table (because, stately elegance = me), took the hilt of a dinner knife to the lid to unseal it, tapping it (I thought) gently all around.

    Somehow I must have hit a critical spot, because the entire jar suddenly shattered in my hand, dripping crème fraîche and glass shards on to the dessert. Fortunately, it didn't hurt me, or it would have been glass shards, crème fraîche, and copious quantities of my blood.

    My partner darted out and bought some donuts at the nearby Tim Horton's for dessert.

    I bought one of these years and years ago, love it. The most I ever have to do now is add one of those thin, flexible square rubber grippy sheets to hold the jar itself, can open anything from large bottles to wine bottles with screw caps:

    https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000CO256G/?tag=cookspot1-20

    I think other companies make this design, but what I love is how I can crank down the teeth and then just turn the handle, instead of having to squeeze and turn and a bunch of stuff at once. :)

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    What are some more of your pet peeves?

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    18 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    /me hugs her flat-soled boots tightly to her

    I agree with everything you said, and am of course fine with you loving your flat-soled boots, but to me it does depend on the shoes. I don't find the right heels, even with small tips, that uncomfortable, and I wear something like this a lot IRL and find them fine, even when I have to do a lot of walking at work:

    Canaly Platform Combat Boot

    I have other boots that are more mainstream, not dressy, just casual, that have higher clunky heels like this and find them comfortable, too. A couple young women I work with have the same, and have told me they find them fine for walking long distances, too (I did not take a random survey, was walking what we call 'The Gerbil Tube' with a young coworker, who was going to have to walk between our site and another site because our gold cart was broken, and asked her about her shoes).

    My point being, I agree with your points, and agree that a lot of women find most (or all) heels painful and should not have to suffer for the sake of what others want them to wear, but some of us like heels and wear them solely (little pun for ya there, lol) because we like them. In fact, I find it a lot easier to squat down and work on stuff in heels because the heel gives me support and balance (which also works fine with short tight skirts but usually leads to me almost falling when wearing long skirts because I step on the hemline when I try to stand up).

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    What are some more of your pet peeves?

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    18 hours ago, Seicher Rae said:

    /me makes a hurried adjustment to Scylla's holiday present which was

    (and if you'll note, these are not SL products, but RL)

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    No, wait. I won't cancel. I'll just keep for myself. :::swoons::: (and wobbles)

     

    Slave heels! I have never worn these IRL, but have spent a lot of time wearing them in SL. Training them is not much fun, takes a lot of patience.

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    what is ur hangout place?

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    21 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:

    I think this is one of those threads where the OP will never be seen again. Apologies in advance if I'm just being lil ole cynical me, as I am wont to do. Amirite?

     Reminds me of the thread a couple days ago in which someone was asking advice on new music discovery, as they were a DJ. At least they did participate, but they basically did not even want to spend a few dollars a month on Spotify or apparently really put forth much effort. I have no idea what the motivation was for this one, but yeah, probably not coming back. That reminds me of something else, though, on another forum I have occasionally seen someone new make a controversial post, lots of replies follow quickly, eventually people say it was a troll, the OP is never coming back, then like 2-3 days later the OP posts something like, "Wow, I was busy a couple days and just now came back to the thread, I did not expect things to move so fast!" Either a complete idiot or a very patient, long-range troll.

    what is ur hangout place?

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    Posted · Edited by CaerolleClaudel

    12 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    To some degree, I think I've been sheltered from homophobia in SL. I've always had lots of gay (and especially lesbian) friends, so the communities I've been involved with, and the places I've gone, have tended to be very LGBTQ+ positive, with the result that I haven't heard a lot of outright bigotry (although of course I've heard some). That includes the forum: I can't recall, offhand anyway, any instance of open homophobia here, although I've occasionally caught some more subtle articulations of it. This is a pretty open space, mostly.

    At the same time, being straight myself, I've never faced the personal harassment that my gay friends have. 

    So it's possible or even probable that I have a rather overly-rosy view of how accepting SL is to the LGBTQ+ community.

    IMO, SL is far better than RL, especially considering that I have spent my whole life in rural flyover country in the US (the 'Bible Belt'), where intolerance of pretty much everything beyond conservative white Christianity is the rule.

    Honestly, those couple times at Fogbound, out of many times, was about the only time I have been harassed, and that was by patrons, not staff. Then again, I have always to the extent possible only frequented female-only, queer places, or places that were mostly female and the men were polite and well-behaved. That is a lot easier in SL than in the aforementioned RL in which I am enmeshed. If I lived in one of the largest cities in the county instead of the largest small town in the country, I could probably do that IRL, too, but for example lesbian bars and queer clubs in general had declined quite a lot even before the pandemic. Not that life is just bars and clubs, I think of Provincetown and areas in the big cities where you can exist in communities with very large queer contingencies. SL is like being able to immediately go to a place like that no matter where you are at the moment.

    Probably the most grief I have taken is when men hit on me without reading my profile (first word: 'Lesbian') and then get mad when I talk to them politely and finally insist that no, I am not interested, I am gay, when they get to the point of wanting to have sex. I think they feel I have led them on or something. I have from time-to-time just immediately said 'Lesbian' when they said hi, lol, but that seems to lead to an argument, too. 🙄

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    what is ur hangout place?

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    Posted · Edited by CaerolleClaudel

    3 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    Wow. Seriously???? I'm a little surprised, and a lot disappointed. That's still a thing, being openly homophobic at a club?

    At least two of the four clubs I frequent reasonably are also hangouts for same-sex couples I know -- I can't imagine anyone mocking or harassing them for dancing together. And not at the other two places either. I just thought we were well beyond that, especially in SL.

    I've never payed a lot of attention to this at Fogbound. Next time I will. Now that you mention this, the club does have a serious "straight" vibe, if that's a thing.

    This was over 10 years ago. My Mistress, needless to say, shut it down pretty quickly, but we wound up not going there much after a couple times of that. I think she still went by herself a lot, though, she loved it there.

    ETA: The whole club was not attacking us, either, just like 2 - 3 people out of 20 or 30, but they were doing it chat.

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    what is ur hangout place?

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    7 minutes ago, FairreLilette said:

    Boho?  Middle-of-the-road?  BwaaaaaaaaaaaH!  Boho comes from the word bohemian.  Boho's usually aren't middle of the road.  Think all the beads, rings and the smell of incense and weed.  Boho can range from flowy and comfy like a gauze lacy Summer dress to fringey cut offs and a bikini top with tons of jewelry.  Jeans really are not the biggest thing in Boho actually, feminine is.  It's a long story but much of Boho comes from India and the Orient as well as the folkloric cultures of Mexico and other South American countries.  

    Interesting study though, but if you feel middle-of-the-road in Boho, you may need to step it up a bit.  Add some hand-crafted one-of-a-kind looking jewelry and joosh (spelling?) mess up a bit and free your hair.  

    I guess I should let Scylla answer, but hey, I am here and am not known for having good judgement anyhow.

    My take was she meant the blouse was middle-of-the-road in that it was not extremely revealing. And yes, what people seem to consider Boho is kinda hippy-ish, IMO, so not really out there, just kinda different and casually cool.

    what is ur hangout place?

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    Posted · Edited by CaerolleClaudel

    7 hours ago, Seicher Rae said:

    One place that I do think is "cool" is Blue Orange, but not the kind of cool where people type U and R  for you and are in chat. And yes, people type in chat there and the last time I was there no one did the chat spam or had bunches of noisy gestures. Heavy European tilt there. PS and apparently still closed for rennovations.

    I never heard of that but would have checked it out sometime until I read your last statement, lol.

    The problem I have is that I love EDM, especially vocal trance, and that has mostly disappeared on US time. When I have been on during our day, I have been able to find several places active with Europeans, but everything is dead when I get on in the evenings in my time zone. I do know of a couple places that have cool-ish music and some conversation, links below. I have not been to E Bar in a long time, very cliquish, with people working very hard to out cool each other. Less conversation at Z&A, but more casual and friendly. E Bar was always packed when I went, though not that many people, just a really small space. Maybe 10 - 20 people? I suck at estimating head count. Z&A has a big dance floor, and few people, maybe 7 - 15.

    Z&A Outdoor Stage: Mostly women, but usually a couple men, too--very queer-friendly; DJ Stacia, Sundays and Wednesdays, 7 - 10SLT, Indie music

    http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Alki/153/179/25

    E Bar: WOMEN ONLY; DJ Janie, Mondays 6 - 8SLT, Indie music

    http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Calabaza Island/97/171/3301

    ETA: These are in the evening, btw, PM times.

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    what is ur hangout place?

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    14 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    Hmmm. i don't know when you're going, but most of the time I'm there, the place is quiet as a graveyard, with nearly everyone in IM. It's also laggy as hell -- because, of course, super busy.

    On the other hand, the music is usually very good, and if you want to get picked up . . . . well . . .

    If It's the place I think it is, I got taken there a fair amount years ago. My Mistress at the time was very into blues (I'm not at all), so we went there and few other places, and even both worked at a club a friend of hers ran (I still have the 'Hot Steppers' gestures, I think, lol). The main things I remember were 1) horrible lag (though that was most places with many people, oh wait, over 10 years later, just the same), and 2) us getting harassed because we were two women dancing with each other. People joke about Frank's but I was always treated with respect and friendliness there, even when dancing with women (and usually were the only two girls dancing together at the place).

    Needless to say, I never got hit on at Fogbound, lol. But then I rarely have gotten hit on anywhere the last ten years.

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    What Holidays and Holy Days Are You Celebrating?

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    Posted · Edited by CaerolleClaudel

    3 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:

    I'm converting just so I can join the cabal, there are group discounts. I

    We *****s used to get a toaster for converting a str8, but now all the young girls are bi anyhow. Doesn't matter, I have a garage fulla toasters already, and never make toast or Eggos or whatever the hell people use toasters for anyhow. ;)

    Not sure whether you meant you liked the link or thought is was stupid, lol. Sorry if it turned out to be a waste of time. :)

    ETA: Hmmm, turns out even if you are a lesbian, you can't use the word I wanted. So insert 'lesbian' where the asterisks are. Wow, this forum is just too precious.

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    What are some more of your pet peeves?

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    On 12/4/2020 at 12:02 AM, MissNomer Gothly said:

    Sims that immediately ask you to 1) read a note card with their rules, 2) accept a landmark, 3) subscribe to their group, and 4) hear a welcome message from a bot. No. Just no. Seriously, if you own a sim, you need to stop doing ALL of this crap RIGHT NOW. Yes, really, ALL of it...not just one or two things. ALL OF IT!

    Yes, one good way to make me inclined to never come back, much less to join your group or LM you, is to spam the crap outta me when I land.

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