CaerolleClaudel
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Just now, Silent Mistwalker said:
The fun part is waiting for the towel/robe/whatever to drop. Something about bodies hitting the floor.
Personally I am more straight-forward, I guess. I would just smile and go up to them (whatever gender), hug them, kiss them, smile some more, and playfully tug at their towel, while softly flirting and encouraging them to redirect from whatever they meant to do next. I mean, you can just meet them in the bedroom when they come out of the bath.
We all approach things differently, though, and I can see the fun in what the rest of you are talking about!
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On 8/31/2023 at 6:25 AM, AmeliaJ08 said:
I really don't want or need SL on my phone so I just hope that the grid and its content doesn't change too much to accomodate it. Sounds selfish, is selfish but I'm being honest.
whispers, "Sansar..."
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On 8/30/2023 at 3:37 PM, diamond Marchant said:
Hope that it works well enough on an iPad mini that is no longer necessary to take a laptop when I travel.
I would think iPads with the M chips should handle it fine? The current iPad Mini does not have one, though, and the next gen is at least a year away.
Personally, I would guess the biggest shortfall will be LL-related.
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Back in the day I used Lumiya a lot. However, I was not expecting much of a visual experience, I was just using text. I hosted a couple clubs and did some other activities where I had to send out group messages, and Lumiya enabled me to do that at work during the day. I also could IM with people, and I liked that too. I am no longer in SL, but I feel any kind of mobile app at all would be of some benefit. Just IMO.
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6 minutes ago, Ceka Cianci said:
I was just being light hearted in the thread is all..
Sorry, I tend to go straight to meanings and miss things a lot. I sincerely was just trying to understand, though, not challenging you!
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5 minutes ago, Persephone Emerald said:
Clean is sexy imo. A man with good muscle tone is sexy, and those muscles would be more visible if he's just wearing a towel. I think he would also seem more vulnerable when he's just wearing a towel, which could also be sexy too.
Speaking as a women who's attracted to both men and women, I think we tend to imagine someone like Jason Momoa coming out of a shower, rather than Jason Alexander (George Costaza on Sienfield), but either can be sexy when it's someone you love.
Thx!
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5 minutes ago, Love Zhaoying said:
I'm not sure how one would use that machine in bed!
..perhaps while preparing midnight snacks..
😬😬😬
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4 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:
"Unrealistic expectations" is really a pretty value-neutral term; it's not at all the same as "unreasonable expectation."
One's partner can disappoint because they have failed to master the basics of interacting in a sensitive and generous way with one, or because one is asking of them more than they, or perhaps anyone, are capable of giving. To be disappointed is not automatically to be in "the right."
I think, personally, that there is a baseline for all human engagement, and that is to treat the other person in a manner that acknowledges that they too are a human being, and deserving of basic civility and respect. (Unless of course they've done something that justifies a different approach.)
The tricky part, and I think this applies to all relationships to some degree, and not just hetero or romantic ones, is negotiating through communication what one's expectations are, and determining if they are compatible with what the other person can provide.
Sometimes . . . they just can't.
Lovely to see you back, Caer, even if only a flying visit!
What we call 'the talking phase' lol. Sure, there are the players and the people who just want a quick sexual experience or want physical and emotionally intimacy without forming a romantic relationship (as you mentioned earlier), but those of us who *do* want a long-term deeper relationship tend to take things more slowly, at least emotionally, I feel (as you also mentioned earlier lol; mostly all I have to do in a thread in which you are participating is to like your posts, because you say everything I feel far better than I ever could).
I pass through every once in a while, most just to read your posts lol. I hope that is not creepy, it is just that I always learn from your posts, and you write so well!!
I am going to send you a DM with a question about Shakespeare, hope that is ok. I have just struggled for decades with how to read his work and not get immediately derailed by the implicit and explicit misogyny. This is not the place for that though, I would guess lol. I have struggled with that issue a lot lately, though, as I have started reading Shakespeare again, and seeing that you had a show in SL about Women of Shakespeare made me realize you would be a perfect person to ask!!
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3 minutes ago, Persephone Emerald said:
Just imagine it's your girlfriend fresh out the shower instead. 😉
I still don't get it unless she is naked. And most women that I know tend to put on a robe or something. Even if they were in a towel it would cover everything but their arms and legs. Which, I mean, those are nice too!
Love your name btw! As in, I love the name itself, and I like that character. Since I read a certain book, I always picture it as being queer, though, lol. Then again, I do that with most things; I recently read Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, and in my head canon it ended very differently lol (really, just ended in the direction it had been going up until the very end lol).
I love your posts, too, very well-thought-out and balanced, IMO. 🤗
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1 minute ago, Ceka Cianci said:
It's mostly because he's only in a towel and ever since the first time I did that, I never got tired of seeing that.
Sorry to still be clueless (I am a citizen of the State of Confusion since birth), but is that so the towel will fall off, or just to see all his muscles flexing without clothes in the way?
No that it is any of my business ofc, but I could think of some nice role plays, and I have zero interest in how men look lol.
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Glad to be gone
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8 minutes ago, Ceka Cianci said:
It's much more fun asking him to open it though..
Me: Hey,Open this jar for me real quick..
Him: *Twist* *POP* How come you do this every time I just get out of the shower?!
Me: Juss B'cuz, That's why!
Sorry, that went right over my head. I personally ask dudes at work to lift stuff for me because, well, they are a lot stronger (at least the ones I ask are), I do not have a problem with doing so. My bigger issue is that I often ask them to help me lift it and they muscle the whole thing themselves. I mean, I can think of some reasons but they just make no sense to me.
What I really do not understand is the shower part, sorry.
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On 9/15/2023 at 11:08 PM, Scylla Rhiadra said:
Yeah. This is a half-step away from Incel-type castigation of "Stacys."
That whole list from the first page or two seemed pure incel to me.
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On 9/15/2023 at 10:48 PM, Persephone Emerald said:
My unrealistic expection is that nobody in SL (male, female, or otherwise) should approach any of my avatars hoping for a romantic relationship. This is unrealistic in part because I haven't stated this clearly in my primary avatar's profile.
When I was in SL, the very first word in my profile was 'Lesbian' followed by (IIRC) 'not interesting in men,' and yet I would have men propositioning me. I would ask them if they read my profile but of course not. And of course they almost always got really angry at me, as is no one using a female avatar in SL should be allowed to refuse a man.
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On 9/15/2023 at 4:57 PM, Scylla Rhiadra said:
Except that the OP is not addressing the expectations of actual flesh-and-blood women. It's merely resurrecting (for a kazillionth time) certain socially-determined stereotypes about women and their relationships with men.
And this, of course, cuts both ways. Women who expect their men to be "manly" are similarly conforming to socially-conditioned ideas of what constitutes "masculinity" and being a "desirable man."
We'd all be a lot happier, I suspect, if we spent more time addressing our preconceptions born of conventional group-think.
I guess we can have unrealistic expectations too, but once again I am so glad I am a lesbian.
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On 9/15/2023 at 1:54 PM, Scylla Rhiadra said:
Oh right! I forgot a third expectation.
They need to be able to open jars.
As in another area, in this case men can certainly be replaced with a machine:
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12 hours ago, Sam1 Bellisserian said:
OH it wasn't sad.
They had one that looked like Jack from Pirates of the Caribbean. I just made him my dancing BF for the night and ran with it. It was actually kinda fun.
🤷🏻♀️
Well, if that works for you, great!! I sometimes liked just using an alt and not having to make conversation or to not have to futilely wait forever for someone to ask me to dance, but in general it felt very lonely and just reinforced that I did not have a special someone to go dancing with. So, I guess I was projecting, sorry!
Way OT, but I would have enjoyed partner dancing far more if SL had not been so laggy or whatever and let the two people dancing constantly get out of sync. Having spent 13 years in SL before I finally age up on it, I really doubt it though.
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23 hours ago, Sam1 Bellisserian said:
There are a couple of things that are in Opensim that I have not seen in Second Life and maybe I'm missing it or maybe it just hasn't been done. Both are kind of "cool to have".
1. A couple dance ball with the ability to rez a dance partner. This is a staple in Opensim but I've never seen one in Second Life.
2. Cloning pole dancer. You would dress your avatar how you wanted with clothes, hair etc and then rez the Dance pole and it would clone an exact copy of you dancing on the pole.
I have no idea if the code is different for Opensim that allows this or just that no one has created anything like this here.
Thought I would ask and see if anyone has any insight if there are anything like this in Second Life and where I might find it.
#1 is just sad. I used to be in that situation a lot, though, as I had no one to slow dance with most of the time. In that situation though, I just used an alt.
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42 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:
Only in NICE ways.
Lol, yeah, right. 🙄😆😆
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9 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:
Ok, so . . . we've recently heard it opined here that spelling "Hallowe'en" with an apostrophe is "pretentious" or "pompous" or something like.
And we've been told, now, that spelling "Halloween" without an apostrophe is "incorrect."
Good god, where is a girl to turn???
I think some people need a hobby.
Oh. Wait . . .
Me, I prefer All Hallow’s Eve. But I’m weird that way. And every other way besides.
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Just now discovered this thread, so love it!! Really my vibe in so many ways!
Thanks for the photos! ❤️
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On 10/18/2022 at 1:26 PM, Aiyumei said:
Sing me to sleep
Yours is far better, but reminds me of one I did a long time ago:
I called it Hell. Not as a literal place, but as my mental and emotional state. Though I guess I should not explain anything beyond the title? 🤔
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2 hours ago, CaerolleClaudel said:
Not that I ever have tried to lay claim to being a decent human being (in fact, I always tell people I have a heart as black as tar and warn them off), but I am guilty of something like that.
I cannot remember the details, perhaps it was before I gave in and spent the money to set up a mesh alt, but when I was doing SL photography I had fairly no success in finding models to pair with me on a series I was doing that required two naked people (I also could never find modeling work, either, but that is a different story I suppose). I went to an AFK site and found someone I liked, and used her to model with me. I did not show her face, but I did still use her and defs ATA. I did pay her, of course, and tipped her well, but she did not give permission. I think I did IM her, but never heard from her.
However, I for sure did not use that pic for commercial purposes, and probably only 3 people ever even saw it. Morally was still wrong just the same.
Turns out all you can see is her hair and one arm (everything of me though). Not as bad as I thought. Still wrong though.
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On 10/26/2022 at 10:21 PM, Scylla Rhiadra said:
What???? So, other people's AFK avatars?
Ok, so, yes, I understand what AFK places are for -- but making money from pics using other people's avatars, presumably without their permission or any form of compensation, actually is not merely gross, but really kind of exploitative. Ewww.
Not that I ever have tried to lay claim to being a decent human being (in fact, I always tell people I have a heart as black as tar and warn them off), but I am guilty of something like that.
I cannot remember the details, perhaps it was before I gave in and spent the money to set up a mesh alt, but when I was doing SL photography I had fairly no success in finding models to pair with me on a series I was doing that required two naked people (I also could never find modeling work, either, but that is a different story I suppose). I went to an AFK site and found someone I liked, and used her to model with me. I did not show her face, but I did still use her and defs ATA. I did pay her, of course, and tipped her well, but she did not give permission. I think I did IM her, but never heard from her.
However, I for sure did not use that pic for commercial purposes, and probably only 3 people ever even saw it. Morally was still wrong just the same.
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Women's expectations: Unrealistic
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I guess while his hands are busy she could just whip that thing off. Which leads to whipping a thing out lol
Getting *really* OT here, I do not want to get the thread shutdown...