Gopi Passiflora
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1 minute ago, AmeliaJ08 said:
If there is I never found it all written down anywhere.
I liked the story of how Nautilus was 'discovered' the best, I had found the Mole Machine drilling platform before but didn't know what it was until someone gave me a tour and explained it all.
Nautilus discovery backstory, huh? Guess I gotta look this up!
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The reason why I ask is because after reading a topic someone mentioned that the mainland had scattered clues of the "past before" Second Life. I had assumed before that since this is a social sandbox, there would be no "official" lore in SL at all.
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Decided to shamelessly bump this topic since the big day is almost near.
Here's a picture of my decor from last year (they are still up but I added a few things this year.)
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Some Halloween decor.
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My younger witch character as she was last year (and is still like this). Also a work in progress.
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My custom Vampire character. Work in progress.
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I read the thread and your responses. I agree with some of your ideas and I appreciate all what you have said to me.
I agree with the ideas that men may be more activity-oriented and that men prefer one-on-one relationships. I can see myself (a man IRL) being more activity-oriented (in RL, I mostly like bonding with fellow men at video game conferences for example.) I also see myself as one-on-one type person (sometimes I'm a "third wheel" with more than two people.)
As @Love Zhaoying also said, I agree I should be less passive if I want friendships.
But again, I must also be careful not to make generalizations like I did in my OP, like some of you have warned. I apologize yet again, I was rash when I made this topic.
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(Might be yet another incoherent train of thought. I'll try to summarize what I said at the end. I understand some of you may not accept my apology, but please understand that this topic involves gender again. The thought just came to my head.)
So I was in Social Island 10, as one of my man characters. (He's a classic avatar dressed as a cook, I can provide a picture upon request.) I was idling around near a group of women, not doing anything in particular, not even interacting with the women. A man teleports in and greets them in local with a "hi". At first, none of the women respond, so I took some initiative and say "hi (man's name)". He responds with a quip about my outfit: "I'd like a martini please". I'm not really bothered and I like his acknowledgment, so I play along according to my character's backstory. But he still persists on greeting the women, this time by their names, and then ignores what I said. While the women do eventually respond and have a brief genuine conversation, I got the feeling in this particular instance, he seemed more interested in talking to the women than my man character, even though i greeted him first.
Also, most of my male friends are friends with my woman characters. Men mostly want to interact with my women characters, they seemed to not care as much about my man or non-human characters. (It's the women who like to interact with my man and non-human characters.)
This, as well as other interactions I've seen, got me thinking about interactions (and perhaps friendships) between men, in Second Life. Someone made the suggestion a while back that friendships between men weren't as common as friendships between women. Maybe there is some truth to this statement? And perhaps, this could be true of positive and genuine interactions between men in general, based on what I mentioned in this topic?
(But I'm also guilty for not pursuing male friendships myself in real life. Maybe my attitude is common among men in Second Life as well, which explains my observations.)
tl;dr summary:
-I see at man at Social island 10 more interested in talking to women than men, despite me (a man) having said "hi" first.
-Most of my male friends/interactions are with my woman characters. My man and non-human characters are friends with and interact with women.)
-Someone made an observation that male friendships weren't common a while back.
-Maybe there's truth to that statement, and perhaps also true of positive and genuine interactions between men?
-I'm also guilty of not pursing male friendships in real life. Maybe that's the attitude the SL men have regarding them.
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One of my woman characters. She's still very much a work in progress.
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On 10/10/2023 at 12:15 PM, Luna Bliss said:
In the past I didn't like my voice. I began singing mantras in earnest, and was so impressed with the return of my voice (on many levels...like 'finding your voice' ) that I started a group in SL named Moonlight Mantras. I felt my voice was too high, and I'm developing a lower range I didn't know I had -- it just took some loud screaming singing songs of love!! I sang a lot in the past, composed songs, but my voice was never like this!
Sing, Gopi, Sing!
I will! Thanks for the encouragement!
@Marigold Devin Great minds think alike I guess!
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Here's my attempt at a "Prince Charming" type character. Note that I portray him as not exactly a "good guy" but a villain actually (inspired by deconstructionist fairy tales).
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2 minutes ago, Zalificent Corvinus said:
Oh HELL no.
Never, I talk on a damn headset all day at work, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, I do not want to do any of that when I'm on my own dime.
You KNOW it's been done before, and before, and before.
Cue the usual crop of "but... social platform" types complaining that anyone who doesn't voice spam "MUST be hiding something and is probably some filthy catfishing alt criminal of SL, because REASONS!"
So, apology NOT accepted.
No I think it's fine that you don't voice. I don't voice that much either, like I said in my original post I only voice during certain situations. I mostly type.
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-Do you use voice in Second Life?
-If so, how and when do you use it? (Use it all the time, or is there conditions to where and when you use it?)
-Do you think you have a good voice?
(Apologies if any of these questions have been done before.)
I occasionally use voice in Second Life, but not all the time. I'm mostly a typer.
I only use it when the other people have initiated the conversation with me in voice. Since I have a distinct voice, I only use it while playing certain accounts/characters (usually my alien, shapeshifter, or fishman characters, since not even my human male characters resemble my real life self.) If I'm playing a female character I try to avoid active places with voice.
I said before I have a distinct voice, and I don't think it's very good. Talking-wise I talk too fast and I think people don't understand me, and singing-wise I think I'm tone deaf.
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8 hours ago, Ceka Cianci said:
Hey, I was born that year too!! \o/
I thought I sensed something familiar about you.. hehehe
That's cool. Happy to know a fellow 86er!
And I read through the rest of the thread. Thank you all for your input, advice and encouragement, I really appreciate it.
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2 hours ago, Love Zhaoying said:
Gopi, as a Trans Ally, part of me hopes your trend of posts is part of realizing you may be Trans!
This is a (relatively) safe space to "come out", if that's the case. It's always wonderful to see people come into their true selves.
Ah no, I don't think I'm transgender. I'm pretty sure on that part.
2 hours ago, Love Zhaoying said:My God, you are so very young still!
This is my personal experience also.
That's weird! Purple is seen as a really cool color in my own experience (and younger friends, especially friends who are "people of color"). I can't speak for Barney though, I think his whole shtick is to have as brought appeal as possible to younger children. The conclusion I reach is, any kids who make fun of Barney are too old for Barney.
Same, same.
Now that I have carefully read your post, I'm not positive besides the "thinking out loud" part that you'd like to discuss. We can offer encouragement, share similar experiences, etc. But, I don't see a question or "let's discuss this aspect" - just checking!
Thanks for the input. Yeah I just wanted to share my thoughts is all. I also want to see if people have similar experiences I guess. Encouragement is nice, too.
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4 minutes ago, Marigold Devin said:
I look upon Second Life as a big game of doll's house really, and just like when I was a child (1960s into 70s), I played with my older brothers' toys - Scalextric, Meccano, chemistry set - more than I did with any dolls. One of my brothers didn't exactly play with my dolls, but rigged up electric lights in my doll's house, and made hotpants for my doll, Rosebud (because my mother wouldn't allow me to have them, I was around 8 years old at that time). We all liked to make dens in the local woods, and swing from trees. I had a couple of male friends who were always quite "sensitive" (effeminate), and I was definitely the tomboy among our little group.
In Second Life I chose to be represented by a female avatar, but when I have been in on a male alt, I maybe have channelled the male side of myself, and as a child avatar that I play, I put aside as much as possible all that I know as a grown up and remember the innocent times of being happy to ride a swing all day or make daisy chains.
Second Life gives us all the ability and freedom to play as we want to, without our parents or anyone else ruling over what we do. We can go into the woods after dark, we can throw ourselves off the tallest buildings, we can pet strange dogs along the way. It feels like such a safe environment where we can really be ourselves.
But I wonder when, at what age, people start being so judgemental of others. Where does that come from?
I totally agree with what you said in your third paragraph, and overall you paint a nice picture of your childhood and your reasoning for your male SL alt.
I think the judgmental nature starts when we're toddlers....
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1 minute ago, Love Zhaoying said:
Can you help us understand how this differs from your other, similar threads?
I elaborated on different reasons why I chose female characters/avatars on those other threads. I don't think I've mentioned my "lack of masculinity" as a reason before. The last thread I had regarding gender wasn't about my reasons but whether I should put my real life gender in my profile if I remember correctly. (Oh yeah, I also had a "I was creepy" thread but again that was a different topic.)
I apologize if this topic seems redundant.
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1 minute ago, Solar Legion said:
Gopi, the 'ideals' and 'idea' of 'masculinity' that we grew up with (hi, '83 here) are quite frankly just as toxic as the ideas we see being pushed today by those 'pushing back' against 'the feminizing of men' (I shuddered at typing that).
Frankly all of that BS did a lot of damage and ... Well look around, some are doubling down on it these days
I agree, I guess it's still prevalent today.
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Like other men who play as female avatars, I admit one of my reasons for doing so are the typical ulterior ones (I'd prefer to look at a woman than man, etc.) There are also maybe less nefarious reasons I'd so as well (want to experience life from different perspectives and so forth.)
However in this topic I'd like to relate to what I was like growing up and perhaps what I'm like now. It involves the concept of "masculinity" and the pressure for boys and men to conform to this ideal. I was a 90s American kid (born in 1986.) In the 90s ideals were somewhat less progressive than they are today. LGBTQIA+ weren't as widely accepted as the use of the terms "gay" and "*****" as insults were commonplace, especially among boys and young men. And masculinity was held in high regard in society and promoted widely among the media. McDonald's had action figures and vehicles for "boy toys", and dolls and plushies for "girl toys".
I never perceived myself as particularly "masculine" in my life, even though I was subject to peer pressure and bullying about it. I was not a strong or physically imposing person. I was also very mild-mannered and quiet. I wasn't really interested in playing sports or play fighting. I mentioned the McDonald's toys before; in addition to the "boy toys" I also had no qualms about getting the "girl toys" if I were interested in them as well. As my school classmates made fun of Barney the Dinosaur for being purple and thus "gay", I didn't join in their chants. And speaking of those insults, people used them against me and that reinforced my belief that I wasn't very masculine. (Although I think they made fun of me more for my seriousness, high sensitivity, and social awkwardness.)
I still am rather mild-mannered as I was as a kid, but I think one of the reasons I play women in video games (and in turn virtual worlds) now, is because of my previous experiences of not feeling masculine. I mean, I don't think I'm particularly "feminine" either (I once described myself as "middle of the road" in terms of masculinity and femininity.) But given this fact I can't really relate to the hyper masculine ideal in addition to the other more common reasons I have, I think I would gravitate toward playing as female characters/avatars.
Tl;dr: I think one of the reasons I play female avatars/characters in virtual worlds is because I never felt really "masculine" in my life, in combination with other more typical reasons like "admiring characters", "wanting to see different perspectives", etc.
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I don't do much except decorate my parcel and attend parties at clubs. I also wear Halloween themed avatars.
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11 minutes ago, Love Zhaoying said:
Is thred ded?
Gopi didn't contribute to it much.
I just saw there was massive disapproval to the idea. There's no use challenging your viewpoints because I agree with you all for the most part and like Scylla alluded to, I was just thinking out loud for the most part. In other words, I know it's a half baked idea anyway....
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1 minute ago, Arduenn Schwartzman said:
SL used to have something like this for residents, ratings for 'Behavior', 'Appearance' and' Building' (skills).
I vaguely remember it used to cost 1L$ to rate someone.
It's last remnants can be found on the Linden Scripting Language Wiki page:
Wow, didn't know about that. Thanks for the info!
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In an MMO I've played, MapleStory, users have the ability to increase or decrease the "fame" rating of other players. It didn't affect much except it for being cool I guess. Players (if I recall correctly) had a one month cooldown before being able to assign another fame point to another player.
I was wondering what you think if Second Life had a similar thing for other residents - a "fame" rating or what's also known as a like/dislike rating for each resident that can be changed by others.
It seems cool but I can see it being abused (for example, alts may inflate the rating of one resident, someone writes a script that affects someone else based on their "fame" rating, access to things can be affected by the "like" rating, etc.)
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I've seen videos of Youtube trolls manipulating various types of people in Second Life by taking advantage of any "quirks" the victims have.
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Is there "official" Second Life lore?
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Sounds cool!