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    A serious topic after too much wine... Part #1

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    Posted · Edited by AmandaKeen

    This is an uncomfortable topic, but it needs to be aired....

    BDSM is a "thing" in SL, and way too many times would-be Masters are subject to ridicule by both those they want to take as Submissives, their current Submissives and the general public.

    The proper term for this ridicule is "Master Baiting" and it really needs to stop!

    Master Baiting can have all kinds of negative consequences in Second Life! It's hard on the hands (from all that typing), and if you Master Bait too much, it can spoil your ability to experience intimate moments when you finally find that special someone..

    So please; no Master-Baiting! Think of crochet or something else, anything to get your mind elsewhere.

    This has been part #1 of my 12 part series, each to be published as it's own individual thread.

    I would write more, but I need to go out and buy batteries.....

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    Life Forward Anchor 1

    in General Discussion Forum

    Posted · Edited by AmandaKeen

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    Personally, I do believe in a higher power or at least an intelligence beyond conventional understanding.

    But that's the rub" "beyond conventional understanding"

    Human misinterpretation of any sort of higher-order has had all sorts of negative consequences.

    Human misappropriation of belief in a higher order has led to crusades/jihads where -everyone- claims God is on their side and where religion always seems to lead to oppression of somebody and forcing conformity to the political ruling-class's ideology.

    That sort of thing had me (in the 90's) living in a conflict zone and trying to locate mass-graves of people who were killed by other people who believed- they- had a mandate from their-God to slaughter people. In fairness, so was the Other Side.

    So, I handle organized/systemitised religion like a handful of broken glass; very carefully and without trying to get any on me.

    Second life is probably a poor choice of places to seek an audience; too many of us are here because we're fleeing the orthodoxy of real-life......

    ......and you're poaching on the Flying Spaghetti Monster's turf.......

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    Do you notice there are a lot of mentally unstable people on SL?

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    The revival of this may be indirectly my fault :-) I mentioned in another thread that sometimes people who have social interaction issues gravitate to the internet......

    Usually a good old Block handles it, but some of them are remarkably well-organized and equipped with Alts that just keep right on coming.....

    No good answer to that either as LL can't really police alts. My solution is to cultivate a thicker skin.......it's been unfun for me but better in the long run than tilting at untiltable windmills.

    I can't control the sun, but I has plenty of sunblock!

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    Making Friends

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    I'm not sure if this crosses the line on the Advertising Ban, but I have met many fun people at Drama Libre. They only have two events a week (the big one is Saturday nights) and them theme is always a performance-artish fun gig :-) Its also a rather bohemian crowd there with Tinies, Furries, Human avatars of all types and age-ranges.

    Being killed at sim crossings.

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    Well, I don't live in Britain and have an Insane Level Fiber connection, and I have the exact same issues at sim crossings.

    I think the issue is on LLs side at the handoff between servers, but someone more hardware-savvy might have more to say on the subject.

    Unfortunately, unlike Cindy  I don't have cake - but I do have a fresh-baked Chess Pie.......

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    I forgot how toxic this community can be!

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    When talking about sexuality, it's good to remember that this is SL and SL is not the same thing to everyone.

    When I was stripping and working as an Escort, it became apparent that there were MANY avatars of both avatar-genders who look at SL as a solely a sex-game. Therefore, they presume that other people see it the same way and act accordingly. They're doing what they believe is normal here - reaffirmed by the fact that sex is big business here.

    When I was in the role play sims more, it became apparent that there are a LOT of avatars who consider all of SL a Live Action Roleplay. For them, everything is permissible because; "It's all roleplay and therefore not real".

    Me, I have no expectation that SL need to have any relation to RL. When I interact with people, I make sure of what they are doing with their SL. I'm Ok with roleplay as long as everyone knows it's roleplay. I'm a big fan of sex, but the context is important to me. Especially as the internet has so many people whose RL social skills are not yet well-developed.

    Its a hairball, so it's good to be up front about how you view SL and any "relationships" here.

    Ambiguity has caused a lot of hurt.

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    Where do you live?

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    Posted · Edited by AmandaKeen

    24 minutes ago, Pamela Galli said:

    Hmmm did not know that. The one service Texas happily spends its negligible tax revenues on is pretty good roads -- big difference in the roads when you cross into Arkansas --  since we have to do so much driving to get anyplace in the state (I just spent five hours driving back from the beach). Maybe all that driving practice pays off, but also the chances of getting a ticket always seem pretty high. That said, driving near the border is a whole different experience. Like driving in Italy.

    I'll admit this; as a native Sooner I was prepared to look down on all things Texas :-) I was pleasantly surprised by the driving, but also by the people there being so nice. I was there for my son's graduation from USAF Basic Training, so we did all the Touristy things you'd expect when he had a town-pass (Alamo, Riverwalk, Eating Like Pigs). My Spanish vocabulary got a much-needed workout and I really enjoyed the visit. 

    Considering the nature of my job, the military usually sent me to places that weren't quite so nice :-)  Don't get me started in Air Force bases either......it was kind of like "child from the slums sees The Hamptons"..... I'm happy for him :-) He's smarter than I was at his age !

    Edit: There must have been one other crazy driver.  A truck hauling snakes and alligators to a local reptile-farm overturned. The had 30-ish venomous snakes escape and recovered all but 2....so I stayed out of the pool that last night "just in case"

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    Where do you live?

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    Posted

    On 7/14/2017 at 9:34 AM, Ceka Cianci said:

    I live in Tennessee..

    You want to talk about bad drivers?

    The High school I went to,Drivers ED was first come first serve and Not everyone got in.. You don't even have to have drivers education to get your license in Tennessee.. you just have to be 16 and able to pass the written and drivers test..

    I live about 10 minutes from work..Everyday on the way home I cross paths with at least 4 or 5 drivers that are over the line in my lane..Around curves they are in my lane,in the straightaways..

    I can count at least 6 times out of the whole time I have been driving that an oncoming car was fully in my lane and had me each time getting ready to go off road in my Jeep..They always seemed to notice,only after I have already had enough time to decide what I was going to do,which was  go left or right of them..

    It's like a lot of them have so much going on in their vehicles,But paying attention to their driving..

    It's bad enough just looking out for deer and cows and whatever else that wanders out..

    People in Tennessee,at least where I'm at,Drive terrible..Just terrible..

     

    I live very close to there currently (work). I agree on the local drivers, and it became even more apparent when I recently road-tripped to San Antonio, Texas.

    It was amazing, once I hit the Texas border - the maniac drivers vanished. I was there in Metro San Antonio for a whole week and drove home and saw 1 (one) crazy driver who local law enforcement were "talking to" a few miles down the road.

    The drive home was the reverse, Arkansas was OK but when I reached Memphis - the maniacs were waiting.

    I'm about to retire (for good this time) and I'm seriously giving thought to moving back to Texas or my birth state of Oklahoma.

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    I forgot how toxic this community can be!

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    Posted

    On 7/14/2017 at 7:57 AM, LittleMe Jewell said:

    People read what they want into things all the time - especially the folks in SL that just always want more SLex

    I am really, really strange.  

    I DJ and Host here in SL, so Flirting is an occupational skill with me.  But...profile-perving to see who should NOT be flirted-up is kind of a sub-skill. Anyone with a Partner listed does not get the "high voltage treatment" (still made welcome tho), same for anyone who is obviously dancing with someone special. That's not drama-avoidance, that's me being respectful of something that *should* be special.

    SL isn't the same thing to everyone, neither are SL relationships (mine is considered strange by some) - so we all just navigate that minefield as best we can..

    ...just like Real Life :-)

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    Just Ignore and let this one die

    in Make Friends

    Posted

    2 hours ago, LittleMe Jewell said:

    After seeing this sign, I couldn't resist posting it - and it definitely seems SL related to me

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    /me gets frisky and adds all those activities to her "to-do" list for Saturday....

    Its a big list, but with a safe-word and access to a hardware store; anything is possible.......

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    Why Do The Lindens Tolerate This Kind of Griefing?

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    I guess I'm the blue-bird of happiness this morning.

    Based on my own experiences with LL and Griefers, I think it would be overly optimistic to expect relief from LL. 

    That leaves you with the "life is tough, wear a helmet" fallback. Or perhaps to quote Sun Tuzla; "When a battle cannot be won, do not fight one".

     I finally opted to give up an (based on today's date) 11 year old Avatar just because that made more sense than fighting a hopeless battle with no effective assistance from the owners of the virtual world I was in. I gave up a huge Inventory but I did gain some insight;

    #1- The internet sometimes attracts socially Mal-adapted people because here (and only here) they can be powerful if they have the correct technical ability and lack of ethical foundation.

    #2- You are only vulnerable to those people if you are tied to something that they can track you down with, or if you insist in sticking in a losing fight with no hope of effective intervention by the owners.

    #3- Griefers can re spawn on endless Alts thanks to LLs policies on alt-crontrol; but so can you. Make sure you know how to reach the people you care about outside of a particular alt - and Griefers have no power to separate you from the people you love.

    #4-I had to decide which goal to serve; Pursuing "Justice" against people who can hide like Ninjas and who are defacto protected by the structure of the virtual world I was in - or to pursue "Fun". I opted for fun and to deprive the folks from item #1 of THEIR fun.

    #5- The option to walk away is always mine. There are other online environs and if it reaches the point I can't stomach SL I will take the cash I spend here elsewhere. Bad on LL for setting themselves up to take a business-hit for failure to maintain user-confidence in their product. 

    I don't hate LL, but I also have no high expectations for their ability to take the time and expense to police the Mean Girls of SL. They are handcuffed by an architecture, a financial situation and a culture that minimizes their ability to intervene. In light of that reality - I work within "what remains possible"

    And I have a pretty darn good time :-)

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