[Making SL more welcoming to males]

3 hours ago, Luna Bliss said:

I don't know anything about this guy, but if he went around denigrating black people, say if he used the N-word all the time, would you still be willing to accept the good parts of him and defend him by saying he just has a "crappy opinion" on some "topics" ?

I've never heard him denigrate anyone on the basis of race, gender, or any other factor outside of a person's control. The crappy opinion I had in mind was something completely different that I personally disagreed with, and had nothing to do with gender, etc. Since you don't know anything about the guy (and this is a side issue to the thread) I won't go into details. Hope that answers your question.

 

[Making SL more welcoming to males]

15 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

(Also, you do know that Jordan Peterson is a very vocal trans-phobe, right? That he first came to public attention by refusing to use people's pronouns of choice, and essentially denying the existence of trans identities? Are you comfortable with that, really?)

I've been watching his youtube channel for years and I didn't get that impression at all (ie that he is "transphobic"). He has helped a lot of people, and spoken on issues like depression, dealing with grief, etc. that I found quite moving, wise and helpful. He's a clinical psychologist, and he speaks largely from that perspective. I wouldn't expect him to be as adept in speaking from a sociological or political perspective.

But I'm not trying to change your mind. If you want to dislike him, that's your choice. I'm just saying that people don't fit into neat "good" and "bad" boxes - even if he did have a crappy opinion on some topics (and he does, IMO) that doesn't mean he doesn't have valuable things to say too.

[Making SL more welcoming to males]

19 hours ago, Prokofy Neva said:

This is a debate about *why men don't come into SL*, and so discussion of the tendency of men to dominate women is in order, and doesn't mean that if a discussion of the opposite, or men with men or women with men is not raised, that somehow the interlocutor has "failed" or is "hypocritical" or blah blah blah.

Yes, it does, because you seem to have taken a human tendency and assigned it as a male-specific one. People do have a tendency to dominate other people (or try to), in all sorts of contexts and for all sorts of reasons, and it gets all sorts of responses (not always negative).

In a virtual platform especially, where RL physical characteristics are irrelevant, who dominates depends on personality traits and skills. From what I've seen, men and women are evenly matched there, though their inclinations and interests may differ. Is that off-putting for men? Not that I've ever seen - if someone is an excellent builder or coder or just an interesting person to chat to they don't care if it's a he or a she behind the screen. Only when it comes to dating does this make a difference, and I see nothing wrong with that. 

[Tell me about yourself]

I used to be an avid horseback rider. I only fell once, because I was lazy to fasten the girth properly and the saddle slid right off mid-canter. The horse stopped and looked at me on the ground with an expression that clearly said "you idiot". 🤠

[Ok Sloomer! The Rise and Fall of Second Life Generations]

1) pre-mesh designers 
2) mesh designers 
3) people who just buy stuff and goof around 

[Making SL more welcoming to males]

9 hours ago, Erwin Solo said:

SL is very welcoming to males (which is the original topic here).  The general discussion forums not so much. 

perhaps not, but they'd be deadly dull without the guys who comment here.

[Making SL more welcoming to males]

7 hours ago, Marut72 said:

I have to admit, watching all you lovely ladies sharing your wit and intellect unapologetically is not only refreshing but quite welcoming.

Your attempt to flatter is both transparent and effective. 😏

[Should there be a "SL's Manliest Man" contest?]

less chat more photos.

whoever gets the most likes wins!

[How does your avatar look today ?]

at snow falls (the four seasons) - this place has a lovely winter sky

[Socializing the SL Way]

Hmm... places I've met people to just chat with are parks (Tempura, Authors point), themed sims (eg New Babbage, New Toulouse), blues clubs (Fogbound). I like fairly quiet easygoing places, and I generally chat in IM. Depends on your interests and your style of socialising. 

[The Men Who Have Made a Difference in Your Life]

I don't really pay attention to International Days of *Whatever* and make a point to tell people I appreciate them often. Having lost a couple family members suddenly it seemed a good habit. Actually all of the male family and friends in my life have made a positive difference - highlights would be my artist Dad, my psychologist husband, and my big bro who has Down's Syndrome (and is a an epic troll and party animal). The Universe has been kind to me, to put me amongst such joyful people.

ps. in case I missed International Forum Posters day, I appreciate all of you and your funny/interesting/informative/peculiar posts.  😀

[Making SL more welcoming to males]

4 hours ago, Bree Giffen said:

I've come up with a list of improvements that Linden Lab and Residents can implement to make SL more male oriented. The focus should be on doing things. Not talking or shopping but real action. Active stuff.

1. A better physics engine for more realistic vehicles. Flying a plane, driving a car or sailing a boat should look and feel believable. Driving your car off a cliff should cause an explosion!

2. Better sim crossings to continue with the idea of having a better vehicle experience.

3. Trees that can be chopped down with axes and chainsaws. The physics engine will help with this.

4. Something with guns like having wild animals running around that can be hunted. 

5. Something with power tools like having to actually cut a prim cube from a log that you chopped down. 

5. An intricate simulation of grilling and smoking meat.

I want all these. And #5 made me hungry.

 

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at one of my favourite spots in Tokyo-WIndHill City

[If Second Life was a movie, what genre would it be?]

Mystery.. where did my no copy item go...

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taking my pet for a walk in All Hallows

[Special needs user]

3 hours ago, Erwin Solo said:

The new good words will become bad words in time also.  Its an endless cycle. 

 

Cussin' right

[House Invaders]

It's pretty much a given in a public sandbox that nearby people will come and poke around. It's been like that as long as I can remember.

As others have said, just sit your avie on a prim or on the ground when afk, and no one can move you. It just takes one click. 

People can't harm anything in your build, but it's a good idea to save copies to your inventory on a regular basis, as some folks still like to set off spam objects and other griefing tools which make the sandbox unusable for a time. 

[Stop Judging Others It’s 2019]

3 hours ago, Beth Macbain said:

Oooooh... can we just turn this thread into baby panda memes?? 

 

let me get the door for you.. 

 

[Voice-verified]

3 hours ago, Clarrellae said:

........... since Anne of Cleves sent back a portrait of herself to Henry VIII centuries ago that was more than generously flattering and sufficiently unrealistic for Henry to be unable to consummate the marriage for months after meeting her face to face. Or, ever.

Or, well, that's his excuse and he stuck to it.

Carry on.

it wasn't a selfie - blame Holbein for knowing how to keep his head 

[Anyone here does not RP?]

12 hours ago, Marja Geesink said:

at least not the rp i have seen there , i see them rp like talking about themselfs as third person 

That's just a convention for some kinds of roleplay. I've played multiple characters in the same setting, so using "me" all the time would be confusing. I've also played as non-human things, even non-animal things like a cloud of mist or a mysterious orb, and using "me" for that would sound kinda strange.

Some people do rp in first person though, and nothing wrong with that. It just gets awkward then there is a mix of perspective.

[Anyone here does not RP?]

2 minutes ago, Arduenn Schwartzman said:

Come on, y'all roleplay during the sexy time.

nah, poseball on one screen, youtube on the other 😁

[Psychology of de-rendering]

5 hours ago, Gadget Portal said:

Actually, if I can be serious for a second (it happens), the real reason is the scripted stuff is usually no modify and/or mess up your body if you try to change without getting naked in the process. 

Which could arguably be a good thing too. 

true dat. I sometimes have to do a relog to clear confused autohides from several costume changes.

[Anyone here does not RP?]

Depends how you define roleplay. When I am on a roleplay sim, in character, I am roleplaying.

All the rest of the time I am just myself, and I don't consider that roleplay just because I have an avatar.

[Psychology of de-rendering]

On 8/24/2019 at 12:00 PM, Gadget Portal said:

Derendering is a great way to find out which clothes auto hide the bodies under 'em, and which don't. 

I like the ones that don't, for lots of reasons. 

recent convo with a friend:

Him: I like that dress!
Me: Thanks! which colour looks best?
Him: I don't know, I derendered it.

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taken at Shiki Village. No touch-ups, and natural lighting. Lovely place 😊