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Scylla Rhiadra
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1 hour ago, Alyona Su said:
It's a gay bar! No wonder no one was hitting on me! (and dayam they are all really great-looking!) That place is now in my favorite landmarks list and I visit often and *always* feel welcomed, so friendly there. Those guys are great! Friendly! And, well, genuine and real.
I've never tried it in SL, but in RL, some gfs and I used to dance regularly at a nearby gay club (generally accompanied by a gay friend) for exactly this reason. It was the nicest place!!!
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11 minutes ago, Talligurl said:
Keeping my new dress from getting wet.
OMG.
Beautiful.
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For reasons that are beyond me, my lights and shadows went a bit wonky on this one, so I didn't get quite the effect I wanted. But there you are.
In the Library at Bellefleurs.
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5 minutes ago, Wulfie Reanimator said:
But also having to log into your account on someone else's computer and them being able to monitor literally everything you do, including knowing everything you type, reading your nearby chat and IMs, and visually watching you. If you're comfortable with all of those downsides, more power to you.
That's certainly a good point. Although, in theory, LL can do that now, no?
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6 minutes ago, Callum Meriman said:
We get them too. Random creeps (both male and female creeps) are a very common experience for male avatars too.
I wish I could say that I found that a consolation . . .
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21 hours ago, Saravendi said:
So bleak, in a beautiful way. Is that at Rusty?
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On 11/13/2018 at 12:30 AM, Clover Jinx said:
Amazing picture. I'm actually seriously studying how you compose these.
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Excuse my technological idiocy, but wasn't there a service years and years ago for SL on mobile devices that essentially did all of the hard processing for its users, and then streamed then easy-to-run video? I'm sure there are lots of problems that I don't know of, but might not something like that be a future solution?
I think it's not an unimportant issue, and not just for SL. I don't think the vast majority of people can afford a US$2000 computer, and most probably don't have access to fibre optic cable. I don't know what the data on this is (and I don't imagine even LL has more than a vague idea), but I'm pretty sure that SL users as a whole score rather higher on the economic/social/educational scale than our general populations.
It would be good to find a way to "democratize" the platform a bit, making it more affordable and hence more accessible to a wider range of people. (Which I'm quite sure is part of Prok's motivation here as well . . .)
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3 hours ago, Lindal Kidd said:
Well, Scylla...
If you want to do your part to break the male=aggressor stereotype, just start walking up to random guys and say, "I want you to f**k me now." Then teleport home, hop into bed, and send them a teleport offer.
Well, that sounds like a tough job. But if it's in the service of, you know, making a better world for ourselves and our children . . .
3 hours ago, Lindal Kidd said:Note: It's important to say that entire sentence. A lot of girls just say, "I want you" so as not to sound crude. The men are left scratching their heads and wondering, "what for?"
This is because women are the traditional guardians of civilized behavior and culture.
And because men are traditionally pretty thick.
I actually have no problems at all with this kind of model, to be honest. And if that's all I wanted, I'd be tempted to take that approach.
(Although I probably wouldn't, because it is against every element of my upbringing and cultural assumptions. Damn it.)
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9 hours ago, AyelaNewLife said:
as women get even more pickup attempts than real life, so filter out more without giving each guy a chance, and are even less inclined to make an approach themselves
I think that's probably true? Although the men who are worthwhile meeting also tend to be the ones who stand out and get noticed, because they have more to say initially.
9 hours ago, AyelaNewLife said:The only way to fix it is for us to approach more men.
What I don't get is why this isn't happening already. Surely dating sites (I've never used one) tend to empower women to do just that? Is that not having an effect?
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23 hours ago, Rhonda Huntress said:
Back to the OP ...
"Slide down and relax."
When I find myself sliding down, I frequently try to dig in with my nails to arrest my fall.
We ARE talking about sliding down a hill or something, right?
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You'll only encourage him.
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5 hours ago, AyelaNewLife said:
It's no different to real life.
Swap tinder accounts with a male friend for an evening and see what happens. It was an eye-opening experience for both myself and my friend when I tried this.
Yes, agreed. I guess I'm asking why this is the case, in RL or in SL?
Why is the initiative for making contact left to men?
Or, when women are doing it (as surely must happen), why are they not using "pick up lines"? What do women characteristically do instead, when wanting to make contact?
(And can men maybe learn from our different approach????)
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Just now, Selene Gregoire said:
You didn't push it hard enough!
Which is the problem I seem to be having with one of my HUDs.
Actually, you're almost right. But I've got button #1 AND button #2 working now!
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Why do these sorts of things happen to me? WHY?
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8 minutes ago, Lindal Kidd said:
Duh.
But . . . but . . . but . . .
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I haven't read carefully through the entire thread, but I've read enough of it that two things stand out:
1) Is it not possible to IM someone without it being a pick-up attempt, or read that way? Is it not possible to respond to an IM without leaving the impression that one is at least possibly interested in being picked-up?
2) I'm not sure if all of the accounts of receiving pick-up lines here are from women, but certainly the vast majority are. Why?
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3 hours ago, Innula Zenovka said:
So the poet Horace's life and career rather give the lie to his poetry there.
I quite like Horace's poetry, especially his satires (which I mostly read in translation), but yeah, he was a time-server and more than a bit of a kiss-ass.
Nicer than Juvenal, though.
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10 hours ago, ellestones said:
i just add something else about why I mention Peter Jackson
while I get that this thread is about soldiers themselves, what happened to them, what they went through, I find it difficult to separate out what happens to soldiers war and what the soldiers believe that they are fighting for
being from a military family which has sent many to fight in wars down the years then as far as my family goes then things like honor and patriotism and sacrifice aren't why we fight. We go fight because we can, and because we like the combat and because we are good at killing. My first cousin will be the next to go. Her pass out parade is in February. She will put her hand up and go to the next battle as soon as she can
Thanks for this.
Your account is so alien, in most ways, to my own experience and way of thinking that it would be difficult for me to respond directly to it. But that, of course, really should be the point of the discussions we have here: they allow us to break out of our own little echo chambers sometimes, and be exposed to new, surprising, and challenging perspectives.
Your own story is really useful, too, in that it reminds us that there must have been (and continues to be) almost as many reasons for soldiers to fight as there are soldiers. In the great conscript armies of WWI and WWII there must have been many who didn't want to be there, but even in such cases the attitudes towards the fact that they were likely were hugely variant.
As for volunteers -- well, John McCrae was a fervent believer in the British Imperial enterprise, and had also volunteered to fight in the Boer War. Wilfred Owen seems not to have been so starry-eyed, but also volunteered for what he clearly see as a worthwhile cause: he was a poet and a truth-teller about war, but never, I think, a pacifist.
On the other hand, my own great grandfather lied about his age to enlist, and ended up a career soldier, the only one in my family. I suspect he enjoyed the life, but for a man of his class -- the labouring poor -- it must have provided not merely security but also a certain amount of social prestige and recognition (he retired a regimental sergeant major). It was a good job. But how many other reasons must there be to join up?
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1 minute ago, Fionalein said:
...well it was Peter Jackson - that explains it all. He claimed to do a do a "true to the book" adaption of the Lord of the Rings as well, ROFL - we all know what became of that one.
Pfffft.
Perfectionist! He's an adorably cute, round little dwarf of a person. He gets a free pass from me!
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11 minutes ago, Innula Zenovka said:
The military historian Stuart Mitchell has some thoughtful criticisms of the way the material was presented
That seems a pretty valid criticism, I suppose. On the other hand, if the focus was on the experiences of those involved, the "grand narrative" might be less important? I say this, though, as someone who hasn't seen the doc (but is now absolutely desperate to watch it).
Also . . . I know a fair number of professional historians. They are, as a breed, a cranky and cantankerous lot. Sooooo . . . ?
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2 minutes ago, Skell Dagger said:
Colour somehow brings home the immediacy of history, lends it something that is more familiar, more instantly shocking, and more identifiable to our eyes.
I think sometimes it can be valuable to remind modern audiences that, as they say, the past was a different country.
But there are definitely advantages, too, emphasizing our kinship with the past. The filter of grainy old photos and film footage sort of drops a veil between us and our own past, and insulates us comfortably from it. Sometimes removing that sense of distance and comfort is valuable.
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I don't know if this thread is going to end up locked or not -- maybe that danger is passed, and it will be allowed to linger into a peaceful and nostalgic old age, as one might hope for the men and women whose lives it celebrates.
On the off-chance, however, that I can't say so later, I want to thank everyone who contributed meaningfully to this, and especially to @Skell Dagger, @Innula Zenovka, and @Selene Gregoire for contributing text and video that made me smile and, on a couple of occasions, tear up a bit.
(And if anyone does know if the Oxford Great War Poets sim is still around, or if there is anything similar, please let me know!)
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10 minutes ago, Fionalein said:
@Skell DaggerI admit I do not like the colouration of the original material. Sure, it makes us percieve all the horrid details a lot better, but the pasttime historian in me does not stop screaming "FALSIFICATION OF SOURCES" in my head
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I get that, and am somewhat in agreement, although I think it depends much on the intended audience and purpose. You could say that it's like the editorial or analytical work people do on ancient manuscripts, statuary, and so on, to reconstruct as best they can what is missing?
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I Have Cut My Time in SL In Half
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Posted · Edited by Scylla Rhiadra
Really, it's kind of sweet.
I think the two of you really kind of deserve each other. What fun you'd be together at a party!