The problem, I think, is that different people see different things in this game, and what is really needed is for people to try to work together for everyone to enjoy.
As a sailor, I don't like people who seem to delight in griefing those of us to sail - hiding behind the excuse of "It's my land and blank you for running into it", even if that is the result of an SL lag or something similar. I don't hit banlines intentionally, and being bombarded with trespassing notices for traveling through open waters is ridiculous, particularly since many of the developments in which that happens require the open waters as part of the terms of renting there.
As a landowner and/or renter at different times, I don't like people tp'ing into my house or telling me that it actually is theirs or any of the rest of what happens.
The Lab has the ability to mitigate some of this by changing what orbs do - there is no reason to tp someone home, for example, just off the protected property - and a similar ability to prevent crashes with banlines. There also should just be more protected waters around the edges of continents so flyers can fly and sailors can sail. Some may disagree, but there is something to be said, as well, for banlines to be bi-directional - if others can't sail in, you shouldn't be able to sail out - putting people on equal footing.
That does not mean people should be harassed - they shouldn't - but people should not be told they cannot discuss this subject either - LL's policies are subject to change, and user perspectives are how the company can know to change them.