Trying to get social

[DJStephi30]

I've not been on s/l since 2009  I guess I'm coming back because I miss being a kid, and s/l is the place to relive things the way you wanted. I realize with my wonderful mommies here, I'm missing what most ppl probably already have. I'm lonely, I build and script alot, I also make Gestures, but I don't go out much less my mommies in s/l are on and wanna go somewhere...

I'm afraid of getting hurt in r/l I guess, & s/l but I need to take that risk, and get out there to make friends...I'm sure I'm boring you by now, so I'll get down to the basics, I'm 30 yrs old in r/l, I enjoy djing, playing my clarinet, collecting stamps, beading, snail mail, and talking to friends/playing games or hanging out whenever I can. I don't date men in rl, or sl. Sorry, its just my preference.

My r/l partner sleeps all the time anymore when I'm not...and promises to make time for each other, but doesn't seem to happen anymore. I feel lost and just need a friend that understands or has been there.

I've been thinking about making a adult av, but I don't wanna get caught up in the sex scene here really, I'm very timid I guess, and as a submissive timid person, I don't want to get hurt. Does this sound like anyone else here?

Anyway, if your looking for a friend, that's honest and caring, and doesn't play b/s or drama...please feel free to send me a msg.

[Brooke Amorosi]

There are definitely many ways to get social without having to compromise the things you want. You say that you're a kid avi - have you thought about attending school? I'm not sure how old you RP as, but there ar elementary and high schools where I'm sure you would find many like-minded friends.

 

From what I understand, I think you're saying that your moms dont really log on much. Have you talked to them about maybe just being friends and trying to find a different family that better fits your wants and needs? I know that can be a touchy subject, but you need to make the SL YOU want. People who really care will understand.

 

Lastly, I'd suggest joining some age-appropriate groups. Not only can you strike up chat, but they will also let you know what events and activities are going on.

 

If you want or need more information, just hit me up in-world.

[DJStephi30]

Hi Brooke, I'll definatly do that next time I'm on, I'll have to look for the elementary school, I've heard about them and have been skiddish bout checkin em out lol, so much has changed since '09, they didn't even have teen av's then...least not the way they have them now, and a lot of the places I used to hang out, have dissapeared. 

I'm trying to figure out when they are on and would like to hang out, (Don't like being a pest). we've even been able to add each other to other things so that helps when we're both tied up in work, and one tends to try to pop on for me as often as possible I think...We went to a place I think was one of older s/l hangouts, and that brought back some amazing memories that I can script and do things with now, so they are really understanding and helpful, I am just on a lot more then they are and need to figure out ways to meet people and get out on my own too...

I have dj friends on here, but not much else other than r/l intermixing with s/l. The other night one mentioned maybe getting another one I think for company, so if it's that noticable I think I need to try too

[Staralien]

I think going to school is a good idea. There are several to choose from and they have different pricing. If you are RPing a child, then it is a great way to meet people...plus you might learn something new attending classes.

As for being afraid to create an adult avi because you don't want to get involved in sex...well just don't get involved in sex and stay away from sims that are all about sex. I am an adult and I have never had pixel sex. I know a lot of people that never have. There is so much more to SL and frankly, I wouldn't have the time for it anyway. Not having pixel sex has in no way diminished my SL experience. I know it is important to a lot of people...and that is their choice...but for me, sex just isn't an issue. Good Luck to you!

Star

[DJStephi30]

Thank you star, and it hasn't as far as I've been here so I completely understand! I'm going to check out some of those classes and see what they offer, ty for your reply, I had no idea they cost, but that shouldn't be a issue, SL offers me so much I wouldn't be able to do in r/l, and that's why I've fallen in love with it time and time again.

[Syo Emerald]

I don't see the problem in having an adult avatar. Countless people have an adult avatar, human or nonhuman and I bet there are still a lot who rarely or never get in touch with any sexual content. Thats cause you mostly have to seek it and agree to it, it doesn't jump on you like a wild tiger. :catwink:

You can always say NO to things you don't like. I wish you luck with finding new good friends. :catvery-happy:

[DJStephi30]

Thank you hun, and tysssssm bout the advice on the school everyone, I had no idea they were set up like that, and we went looking today, (Mommy came with after she found out what I was doing)... they are awesome. feels good not to be the only tiny not at a agency....they did a awesome job getting that part set up.

 

Personally I've always loved having a tiny av, and being able to re live the stages in my life that were currupt in a better light with sl, sometimes they help bring back bad memories, and sometimes they help bring back better ones...at first i was nervous bout signing up, but its not like rl like that. 

 

And while I know I can, I'll be honest and say I have a hard time telling people no with things, I've always been sort of a people pleaser, but thats one department I'm not budging on. hey it's a step I think with the sexual content, I was more afraid it was going to be like aw with the Gor set up...almost all the worlds we're focused on that back then. I've got to remind myself this is a completely different platform, and a lot kinder one.

[Brooke Amorosi]

I'm glad you checked out school! I definitely had a really enjoyable experience when I attended. I'll actually be teaching Photography at the Willowdale Jr. High School when it starts in a week.

Your family sounds great, though I know it can be hard when they don't log on as much as you do. Hmm.. maybe you can bug your moms to add to your family and get you a brother or sister to hang out with

[DJStephi30]

lol brooke, they beat me to it, mommy mentioned it the other night, at first I started thinking it was coz maybe i wasn't good enough, but then i realized, i really do spend a lot more time on here then they do, and they have a lot of r/l stuff, where as most of my r/l revolves around doctors. I've heard a lot of ppl on s/l go thro that so Im glad I'm not a lone, and while mommies are off, I'm usually tinkering around in the groups now making friends and finding ppl I can help, so tysm! there are alot of new ppl on each day at the agency that are asking the same questions I do, so I just refer them where you did me..they love the info. and omg I still have to add you lol...ss I got so sidetracked playin! :matte-motes-nerdy:

[Nedria Cyr]

Hi Stephi, I just wrote about this to someone else in another post, but I thought I'd extend it to you too since you said you enjoy building and scripting a lot, and it might be a good way to make some new friends.

Ghanima Uriza, Dragon Fang, and myself were talking on Plurk one day about how we needed more building-buddies... people who also create (whether in-world or in external programs) and who enjoy having someone else around who is also creating... someone you can chat with occasionally, maybe exchange ideas and feedback, AFK with, even just sit for hours on end in silence while you all work.

That day The Fellowship of Buddy Builders group was formed. The group is currently open-enrollment, and open to all.  One of our group members has generously donated some land in the sim he lives in to use as a group Sandbox / Hangout / Headquarters. He needs to be asked for an invite to his land group as well if you want to use that space.. it's open to all Buddy Builders.

If you'd like to join The Fellowship of Buddy Builders group, copy and paste the following in local chat in-world:

secondlife:///app/group/98012b8e-aba1-8996-5870-cc1892fd443b/about

Alternately, I can also send you an invite if you just IM me, Nedria Cyr.

Welcome back to SL!

[Andromeda Chrome]

feel free to add me. I'm flippin bored! lol

[Dannii Lockjaw]

Hey DJ,

Im underage but only by a year not even. I love to make friends, I build too. But I am still an amateur. If you want you can add me, the more friends the merrier right? lolz

 

Dannii