Friends to hang out with

[Danica Darkwatch]

Uhm hello ^_^ I was just wondering if you guys would like to be friends with me.

My list is usually for my professional contacts (SL work) and I seem to lack people whom I hang out with. Was just wondering. If you'd like to know some info of me, well, I host and dance for clubs, I have 2 SL children (and they're really great angels btw). Well, you'll get to know more :)

[elena4elena]

dear Danica,

I am new here on second life,I live in Italy and I speak just a little english.I was wondering if you may could help me to find friends and to explain to me what I must do for being like the others. please,I need your help. If you see that I wrong something please corect me...thanks!

Elena 

[UncommonTruth]

Hello to you both :matte-motes-smile: Either of you are welcome to contact me inworld, I'm pretty new myself but if theres anything I can help with I'd be happy to.



[Walterlove]

Hi...I would love to know you cause am new here too

[Jarrod1]

Hey there Danica pleasure to meet you im Jarrod and im always up for making new friends I am also a dj in world and my SL family runs an industrial club we have alot of fun my dj name is DJ Knightmare so add me if you like Jarrod1 resident

[UncommonTruth]

:smileysurprised: DJ Knightmare huh? I'm pretty sure I've seen you inworld. 

[RudolphUkka]

Hey, I've got a

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great idea! Why don't you

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posters desperate for

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friends make friends with each other? In fact, why doesn't

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LL create a new subforum where people that want more

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friends can just make one post saying they want

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friends, giving hardly any

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information about themselves (just like

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Facebook) and then

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disappear without making any further

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contribution to the

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community?

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Rudi

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ETA Such a subforum exists? This is it? Ah, my bad!

[RudolphUkka]

Hey guys! I have had another

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idea! If you have a

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SL business (say a

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club, or you're a freelance

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DJ) you could always hang around this

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thread preying on

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friendless people suggesting they

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subscribe to your mailing list

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add you to their friends list. It's

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warmer in her in the

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forums compared with hanging around

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chilly

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Welcome areas handing out

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flyers.

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Rudi

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ETA No! You mean someone's thought of that already?

[UncommonTruth]

Sometimes it seems like all the good ideas have been had already doesn't it. :smileywink:

[Pussycat Catnap]

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RudolphUkka wrote:

 

ETA Such a subforum exists? This is it? Ah, my bad!

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Sooner or later, trolling catches up with you.

Be cautious of dissing people who lack friends, the longer you're in SL, the more and more of your friends will be grayed out permanently. I'd say 80-90% of mine have been so grayed for over a year...

Its not that we can't make friends, its that new folks don't yet know where to get them, and old folks have seen most of them quit SL. People tend to "play" Sl for about a year to two years, and then leave. If you last longer than that - its because something about the format has grabbed you.

- Note that many if not most of the people who I say "play" SL for that short time will insist while still here that SL is not a game and that they and their friends are very serious, take their bonds as 'true', and invest massive emotional clout into it - and then just suddenly one day go 'poof' - either when they wake up from that, or when it blows up in drama.

Most of the oldbies seem to approach it with perspective, that helps blunt the edge when drama hits or when the experience stops feeling like 'emotional play'...

 

But... Friends to hang out with in SL is a common concern - people come and go, and the tools inworld are shaky at connecting everyone.