[Not new, but it nearly feels like it?]

I'm not sure where to start. I've been on SL for a while. When I had first started, it was...'okay'. Although, making connections with others is very difficult. I guess it's because it's been so long that maybe my avatar scares people. I always make her how I like her to look, but I'm not sure if it's because I don't fit the standards. It took me a while to get used to this whole mesh thing. I'm not very computer savvy, so I don't join any of the SL photo blogs because my computer runs like crap -it's old-. Funny thing is, I'm young, but bad at editing photos, which makes me feel old. :D

I guess what I'm trying to say is I want to learn how to meet people on SL. I'm not really into role playing, so I wonder where to start. It's just awkward because I'm not new and then people will speculate that I am. For the most part, the only people who talk to me are newbs and to be honest, I hate feeling like the only thing I do on SL is help newbs. I invested a lot into my avi, so it would be nice to enjoy it. not sure where I'm going with this. ^^' I just need to find some friends.

[Can't log on?]

Any viewer I log onto, I can't log on AT ALL. Not really helpful to my situation, but thanks for putting your problem on my thread. I can't even get rid of my own issue with this. I'm just getting very irritated. This has been going on for nearly two days. 

[Can't log on?]

I did have a friend go to the place where I was last left off. She said she didn't see me logged on and I wasn't there. She also said the sim I last left off seem to be missing for a while. I think it's actually back now, but I still can't log on. It still says unable to connect to a simulator, despite the place being back up...or at least I think it is.

 

I'm not sure what else it could be, though. It was working just fine the other day. I had logged out okay and then when I tried yesterday, it said I was unable to connect to a simulator. I tried logging into different grids and they worked fine, but all of my things are missing; my groups, friends, etc. I really want to get back onto the main SL grid, but again, it won't let me. 

[Can't log on?]

OMG...can someone else help me please? I mean I really need to solve this issue now. 

[Can't log on?]

Can't be because other avatars seem to log on fine on my computer, but when I use my own account, I keep getting the same message. So, it can't be anything wrong with the connection or ISP if others can log on fine on my computer. I mean, earlier today, everything seemed to be okay. I had my friend log onto her account to go to the area where I last left off and she said it was missing. A whole new name and everything. I don't know if my avatar was kicked out, but that doesn't make since. I mean shouldn't it have teleported me elsewhere?  And when I log on here, it says my account is still active and everything. I never had any problems, so I don't understand what else could be going on. 

 

I really hope it will work soon, otherwise this is going to be a really big problem. 

[Can't log on?]

I don't know what I'm going to do now. I tried everything and the same message keeps poping up. I put so much money into this account. I can't believe this....

[Can't log on?]

Tried it and still the same message pops up. I don't even know what's going on here. I logged in just fine earlier today. Everything seems okay with my account and all, but I still can't connect to anything. 

[Can't log on?]

I was wondering if something was wrong with the server, but my friend can log on just find and we live in the same apartment. I keep getting this error:" Login failed. Unable to connect to a simulator." 

 

I don't know if it's because where ever I was, apparently the sim must have vanished and now I don't know what to do or how in the world I'm going to get my avatar back. I tried even logging into different locations and still nothing. 

[Discrimination in SL?]

I like my profile. I wouldn't change it. I don't think it's bad or anything. 

[Discrimination in SL?]

I have read more through the comments and I just feel discouraged from ever using Second Life again. It seems that if I wanted to be myself in SL as I am in RL, then it's a negative thing among most residents. Sorry for making this thread. 

[Discrimination in SL?]

I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner. Sorry if I offended anyone. I'm really sorry. When I first meet someone, I talk to them like a normal person. I don't tell them anything unless they ask me, but when they do ask then it's usually a problem for them and they stop talking to me all together. I try my best to be honest with everyone because if not, then it'll usually bite me in the butt later. 

I don't mean to offend anyone with this statement, but I understand that the concept of SL is that you can be whoever you want to be and while that is great and all, I also understood that your avatar is also a virtual representation of the RL you. I designed my avatar many times to the point where it didn't really feel like who I was and then eventually I designed my avi to be just like who I am. 

[Discrimination in SL?]

I am always being ignored in world because of my avatar it seems. I'm not going to change how I look in SL because my avatar is a carbon copy of my RL self. I want to represent the way I look and am in RL into SL. I try to spark conversations and such, but it seems that once people find out that I'm trans, they walk away. It sort of makes me feel bad even in RL. 

I didn't realize that after a year and six months of being on SL that it would be so difficult to make friends because of my avatar. 

[Many issues with viewer 2.7.2]

Months ago, all of SL's viewers seemed to work fine on my laptop. I don't have a very expensive or high end computer, but my connection is great and thus, SL was running smoothly. Yet, with all the sudden updates, everything has taken a sudden turn for the worse. 

 

First off, the LAG. Good lord. I can't even go on a barren sim without lagging misrably. My avatar could be completly nude and still, lag. Secondly, before when I turned on basic shaders and such, the 'wind light' would show beautifully. Now it doesn't show at all. I turned on transparent water, etc. and it still shows up as if I never turned on those settings at all. Not sure if it's a viewer issue considering it has worked wonderfully in the past. I was considering saving up to buy a new computer if nothing else, but I work part-time and my pay is low. I'm sure I could just use another viewer, but it might cause the same problems. 

 

Here is my laptop's specs if anyone needs them:

CPU: AMD Athlon(tm)X2 DualCore QL-62 (2000.07 MHz)Memory: 1789 MBOS Version: Microsoft Windows XP Service Pack 3 (Build 2600) compatibility mode. real ver: 6.0 (Build 2900)Graphics Card Vendor: ATI Technologies Inc.Graphics Card: ATI Radeon HD 3200 Graphics
Windows Graphics Driver Version: 8.479.1.3-080515a-064429C-HPOpenGL Version: 2.1.7417 Release